Send a card (or don't) and move on. Your friend's concern is her own kid, not the "thousands" of others.

I don’t think it’s tacky at all. It will be nice for her to feel celebrated even if she can’t have a party. It’s only 55 cents for a stamp , you can make a card yourself.

My kid is in K at a private school in DC. He has a classmate who I know has very wealthy parents and her mom emailed all the parents asking for cards. It never remotely crossed my mind that this was tacky or they were asking for gifts in any way (they in fact had to cancel her no-gifts birthday party). The mom texted me profuse thanks after getting my kid’s hand drawn card- her kid is an only and is apparently super lonely with the lockdown going on.

Not tacky at all. I would, and have, done it happily for any kid or adult I know during this time. Life sucks now. Small gestures can be a lot.

Anonymous wrote:Tacky and stupid and her daughter is a spoiled brat.

Hi, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Tacky and stupid and her daughter is a spoiled brat.

Wow. Seek therapy. You are a truly ugly person.

Tacky and stupid and her daughter is a spoiled brat.

My 8 year old just made a birthday card for a friend today. We will drive over there with the card tomorrow, drop it off, and wave hello. If her mom hadn't reminded everyone, I doubt I would have known it was her birthday, and I am certain that my daughter wouldn't have.

I have an only. My friend had two kids, older one is friends with my kid. Younger one is 4. Friend asked us to send cards for her 4yo. It was cute, she had to cancel her kids party and they obviously couldn’t have friends over. I had my kid made a card and it made my kid happy knowing she was helping another kid have a less sucky birthday. You OP are a grinch. Birthdays are so important to little kids.

Anonymous wrote:The tacky thing to me is using the word DEVASTATED. People, get a grip on your emotions and teach your kids to be resilient.

Um, I think you should get a grip on YOUR emotions. Judgy much?

I don't think it's tacky, but the mom of one of my kid's friends did this and by the time of the actual birthday it just had gotten over the top. Endless text reminders, emails, other activities to celebrate the kid. (And not a little kid, a tween who probably was beyond caring all that much about missing their party.) I was happy to send the card but after a while it was one big eyeroll.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The tacky thing to me is using the word DEVASTATED. People, get a grip on your emotions and teach your kids to be resilient.

Says the woman spending her time bitching on an anonymous forum about a Facebook post involving a child. Get a grip (and a life).

HAHA. totally agree! The faux outrage of being aggrieved by someone else's word choice is so classic DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:The tacky thing to me is using the word DEVASTATED. People, get a grip on your emotions and teach your kids to be resilient.

She's a child, not a miniature adult.

Anonymous wrote:FB friend is asking people to send her DD birthday cards because her daughter is “devastated” she can’t have a party. Ummm so are thousands of other kids too....

Seriously? Send the kid a freaking card!! She's not asking for herself, and she's not asking for anything onerous. I'm sure she'd be happy to send your kid a card if you asked.

Jeez.

Anonymous wrote:And it would be nice if thousands of kids who can’t see their friends and relatives to share their birthday celebrations ALSO had ways to recognize their birthdays.

Why can't they? They can also request birthday cards (or their moms can). I don't see how it is tacky. Good grief, people get offended by anything.