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Anonymous wrote:My Teen DS has lights up, stickers all over, and he currently is working a La Croix wall tower. His room.

You own stock in a La Croix too? Boy they can put that stuff away these days!

Mine, too. Lights and LaCroix cans, like little gems all over the room.

Anonymous wrote: My teens like the white Christmas lights. I allow them as long as they are LED-which are cheap and easy to find (want to save electricity plus they don't get hot).

I'm pretty fine with whatever they want to put up in their rooms-as long as they use command hooks/hangers! I don't allow tacks as we just built this house 2 years ago, don't want holes. I would certainly excersize veto power over pot or tittie posters LOL but they have never put up anything like that.

I chose the paint color, one color for the whole interior, so we all have it in the bedrooms and that isn't changing anytime soon!

Maybe worry less about pot or titties and more about your atrocious spelling.

My 15 year old son's room looks like a teenage boys room. When we first moved in he started with a 'shell' I created (nice, approrpate furniture, new paint, shelves, the basics done nicely) but he's been allowed to make it his own. For him this means Christmas lights around his bed and above his dresser, band and car posters and tapestries hung with thumbtacks, random electronics boxes stacked in the closet (why he wants to keep them, no idea), a weird bubbly lamp thing on his desk, a very random assortment of shells, bones, sand, sticks, and other found items that mean something to him, etc. Also, a constant tornado of clothes and shoes on the floor. It sometimes drives me crazy but like PP said - it's his room, it has a door, I close it and try not to go in.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my kids were little I decorated there room all cute with nice stuff from Pottery Barn Kids and the like...
The years have gone by and I/we never really updated them...now the rooms are kind of a hodge podge of some of the cute bedding and random other blankets, etc.

So with this staying at home business I've been on an organization/decorating binge in general....My 15 year old boy has a few strings of Christmas lights on his walls/ceiling. I can just hear my own mother's voice telling me how awful and trash it looks...

What is your teen's room like?

Let your own voice tell her back, “uh, yeah, it’s a 15 year old boy’s room, of course it’s not Architectural Digest.”

Haha!!

You could also point out that her decor may not be to his taste either. His room should reflect his personality at that age!

My parents were control freaks, wouldn't let me close my door, put posters on the wall, or do any decorating whatsoever. Now I prefer walls to be completely unadorned, because that's what I had growing up.

Don't be a control freak. Let your kid develop their own personality and taste.

I don't really care what my 15 yr old son's room looks like and neither does he! As long as there is no food and it is generally not a mess (no laundry on the floor, occasionally cleaning it), I don't care.

Your mom's voice in your head sounds like my dad's voice inside my head. The time around my childhood was a stressful time for him and he was very controlling of things like my room. In later decades he mellowed out and he would probably be horrified that some of his harsh statements are rattling around in my head. I'm in my 40s and it took a while to understand where that negative voice in my head came from.

My teens like the white Christmas lights. I allow them as long as they are LED-which are cheap and easy to find (want to save electricity plus they don't get hot).

I'm pretty fine with whatever they want to put up in their rooms-as long as they use command hooks/hangers! I don't allow tacks as we just built this house 2 years ago, don't want holes. I would certainly excersize veto power over pot or tittie posters LOL but they have never put up anything like that.

I chose the paint color, one color for the whole interior, so we all have it in the bedrooms and that isn't changing anytime soon!

As long as it’s reasonably clean, I let them decorate however they choose.

100% up to kids within a reasonable budget. I can’t believe this is even a discussion.

Anonymous wrote:I guess mine are the only kids with rooms that look professionally decorated? Custom dark green velvet curtains, fancy 9x12 rug, matching bedding, custom pillows, Ballard chandelier, carefully collected paintings on the walls and I refinished the entire bedroom set really well. Daughters is the same but with pink and pink silk curtains. They love their rooms and really haven’t ever asked for posters. They can put whatever they want on their dressers.

I remember I loved helping my mom decorate my room when I was a teen.

Our kids’ rooms were decorated by our designer. By 12 they wanted completely different stuff. It was a battle with my husband, but I think they should be able to express and explore who they are through their rooms and decor. It’s all good, when we sell or they are adults, we will paint over etc? Who cares? I’d rather they remember we were supportive of them than controlling over stupid shit

Please work on your control issues and your relationship. You are going to have big issues if you don’t. Who cares about Christmas lights? I’d help him hang them safely and say “they look cool, is that the look you wanted?”

Anonymous wrote:My Teen DS has lights up, stickers all over, and he currently is working a La Croix wall tower. His room.

You own stock in a La Croix too? Boy they can put that stuff away these days!

Truly should get to express at this age!!

We had input on paint colors (one kid wanted black and DH said no way since it would be a nightmare to eventually paint over) but beyond that, as long as it’s safe, it’s ok with me. I do ask that they keep things clean...not necessarily neat as a pin but no dirty laundry or food lying around. And they have to pay for their own decor beyond the basics I’ve provided.