Anonymous wrote:DH didn't look elsewhere, but I will say that his attraction for me went to ZERO when I was pregnant. I even thought I was a cute pregnant woman. Just my stomach grew and I glowed. He just wasn't attracted to me sexually. Still loved me a lot, but we basically became best friends for 9 months. No sex, not even once.

I think some of it is that instead of his hot wife, I was "mom" already. It happened with both pregnancies and then he was attracted to me after I gave birth and everything was back to normal.

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Anonymous wrote:My dh messed around with someone else (not full blown sex or so he says) --the only time that he has in our marriage (or so he says)--and it happened when I was under tremendous stress at work and I was pregnant with our first. It turned out she had HPV and I had to tell the gyn I may have been exposed. Horrifically embarrasing. My guesses that this happens because 1) hormones might be making you crazy 2) prospect of kids signals the end of a certain kind of life 3) also signals that you will have to be with wife forever.

LOL

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Most men look elsewhere to meet their sexual needs which are unmet at home. What's hard to understand about that? Easy to avoid this: maintain a sexually active marriage, doesn't need to be PIV, but SOMETHING on a regular basis, will avoid 99% of all husbands who cheat.

A tiny minuscule fraction of men who have active sex lives also cheat, but those numbers are so small not even worth discussing in this thread.

Angry sexless guy, please STOP ruining every thread with your complete bs. You say things like they are fact with no basis for them. Plenty of men/women cheat even when they are still sleeping with their spouse - many of them have admitted that on this forum. Please just step away from your keyboard and find something else to do. All you do here is piss people off.

Most men look elsewhere to meet their sexual needs which are unmet at home. What's hard to understand about that? Easy to avoid this: maintain a sexually active marriage, doesn't need to be PIV, but SOMETHING on a regular basis, will avoid 99% of all husbands who cheat.

A tiny minuscule fraction of men who have active sex lives also cheat, but those numbers are so small not even worth discussing in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the question is really "why do some men/women look elsewhere?" Full stop. Because they do it when their wives are pregnant. When their wives aren't pregnant. They do it whenever. There is always a milestone or special something (a birthday, an anniversary, a holiday ...) that can be held against the cheater by the cheated upon to express how much worse it is because the cheater cheated at that particular time (my birthday! President's Day! Our anniversary!).

But, it isn't. Because the cheater is just cheating without a thought for you at all. It isn't worse that he cheated the same week as your birthday when you were pregnant for little Larlo. It isn't. It doesn't matter that your cheater cheated in your anniversary month. It isn't of any significance that your cheater took time between Christmas and New Year's to see his girlfriend, and didn't spend that time with your family. Because none of it actually had anything to do with you, the cheated upon. It has everything to do with the selfishness of the cheater.

Most men look elsewhere to meet their sexual needs which are unmet at home. What's hard to understand about that? Easy to avoid this: maintain a sexually active marriage, doesn't need to be PIV, but SOMETHING on a regular basis, will avoid 99% of all husbands who cheat.

A tiny minuscule fraction of men who have active sex lives also cheat, but those numbers are so small not even worth discussing in this thread.

Anonymous wrote:I think the question is really "why do some men/women look elsewhere?" Full stop. Because they do it when their wives are pregnant. When their wives aren't pregnant. They do it whenever. There is always a milestone or special something (a birthday, an anniversary, a holiday ...) that can be held against the cheater by the cheated upon to express how much worse it is because the cheater cheated at that particular time (my birthday! President's Day! Our anniversary!).

But, it isn't. Because the cheater is just cheating without a thought for you at all. It isn't worse that he cheated the same week as your birthday when you were pregnant for little Larlo. It isn't. It doesn't matter that your cheater cheated in your anniversary month. It isn't of any significance that your cheater took time between Christmas and New Year's to see his girlfriend, and didn't spend that time with your family. Because none of it actually had anything to do with you, the cheated upon. It has everything to do with the selfishness of the cheater.

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Anonymous wrote:I think pregnant women are sooo sexy. I was never hornier for my wife than when she was expecting. Maybe not the last week or two, but everything before that.

Really?

That’s nice to hear.

In which way are they sexy? The fact that their carrying your child and are maternal or their physical look as in the growing bump?

Many pregnant woman don’t feel sexy due swollen feet, unwanted hair, stretch marks, etc, so do men still think they’re sexy despite their changing physical appearance?