Anonymous wrote:I think a traditional “courtship” without physical touching is one way people around the world fall in love. There’s no reason your relationship with this guy is over, OP, unless you want it to be over.

And now is a good time to figure out if you have been sabotaging your relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman in my 30s.

Attractive, slender, gainfully employed, have my own hobbies and interests, but repeatedly strike out when it comes to relationships. It usually either fizzles out. Sometimes I'm the one who wants something serious and the man wants something casual. Sometimes the man wants something serious and I'm just not feeling it. Sometimes things go well and then the guy gets a job on the other side of the country. Whatever the reason, I haven't found the right person.

Except I did meet someone who I started to date and it looked promising. We met in February. And uh...now you know the end of the story. Social distancing killed it. Sure, we text back and forth and have video chatted a few times, but it's really hard to grow a relationship when you can't be physically together.

Anyway, what worries me is the idea that "social distancing" could go on indefinitely. As in, for a year and a half until we develop and distribute a vaccine, and then who knows what. It would be one thing if this were sure to be over by June, or hell, even August... but to need to stay six feet away from people you don't already live with... for the foreseeable future... looks pretty grim for an unmarried woman over 30.

Will the pandemic outlast my fertility window? And no, I'm not focused on nailing down this particular person that I started dating and intent on him wifing me up. As I said, it's kind of over before it even started. I'm speaking more broadly here, do we need to take a PROLONGED time out on dating/mating/courtship, potentially taking me til age 35?

You seem mildly entitled, maybe a little self-absorbed? Just because you're pretty, skinny, with a good job and your own hobbies doesn't mean you're a good person or fun company. If those are the things you lead with when questioning why you aren't in a relationship, you might think men are more superficial than they are and it could be off-putting.

Love in the time of corona is definitely a thing. People are locking eyes over N95s and living on Facetime with those they met in a social media DM. If your guy isn't texting and calling like crazy trying to get to know you, he's just not that into you. Couples have been meeting online and waiting months/years to meet and marry, maybe try a dating app?

Don't be so doom and gloom. There's a lid for every jar!

Geez, way to judge somebody you don't even know!
I led off with that, because, as you see in the "man here" post above, looks do matter. If I didn't lead off with that, I'd inevitably have people saying, "well, are you a fat slob? Do you have no drive? If you're 300 lbs and ugly with no ambitions or interests, of course you're not going to find a man!"

I can't be the judge for myself, but I have a lot of friends who find me a good person and fun company. Including male friends who are gay, or taken (I'm friends with the couple), or too old/too young.

And yes, with the guy I met fairly recently, we message each other and call from time to time, but we don't have anything that heavily invested yet. Certainly not enough to risk other people's lives over to visit each other.

Anonymous wrote:“Sometimes the guy wants something more serious and I’m just not feeling it.”

Why not? You need to be picking from the men who want to marry you.

I’m not saying settle, but you need to be reasonable with your expectations of what a good man is. And also not to expect fireworks.