Have lots of sexual partners before you marry

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Anonymous wrote:Smoke weed instead of drinking alcohol.

OP here.
This is the kind of response I was getting at. Advice that you want your kid to know, but it wouldn't be right coming from you,

If you truly believe it, and have reasons for it, why wouldn't it be right coming from you?

I think this is similar to telling my daughter that if she must be in casual relationships, if she has a choice having them with women is less risky than having them with men. It's not exactly a comfortable conversation, but it's not impossible.

My kids know that I don't want them smoking weed or drinking alcohol, but because of a family history of schizophrenia, the alcohol is probably safer until their brains are fully formed. That's not suggesting they go out and get drunk, it's letting them know particular information that is relevant for them, and might help them make relatively smarter choices.

Make sure you really know how to use a condom so that it doesn’t break or come off too soon. My son was mortified to hear that from me, but I said it anyway. When I have to communicate things like that, I tell him he only has to listen and acknowledge that he’s heard—no response necessary. It helps.

In regards to the posts about career vs relationship -- my mother always told me to get a career first and then find a man. I am old and she gave me this advice in the 1970s+

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, what am I missing here? Isn’t part of parenting giving your children those nuggets of wisdom and advice?

Do you have teenagers? They are more apt to run from your nuggets of wisdom just because you, the parent, gave it.

Amen to that PP. My only DD turned 19 Wednesday -- home from college as many are. I would like to tell her that it is A LOT easier to NOT gain weight than it is to lose it. But won't go there quite yet anyway. Gonna work on continue to set a good example. Exercising and eating healthy meals. Not easy for me either.