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Anonymous wrote:One essential parent goes in every other week, I full time telework and keep DD with me while trying to work.

We could still send DD to daycare, but the only kids there are ones whose parents work in the medical field so it's not worth the risk.

It's effing crazy, and I don't know how much longer my sanity is going to last, but what choice do we have?

We are similar with one essential worker and one teleworker and after doing this almost a month it’s hard to imagine doing it for months longer.

Same. If Trump truly sends feds back to the office May 1, we will cave. We might cave by then anyway.

I won’t. If forced to pick between going into the office for a job that is 100% able to be done remotely just to bolster Trump’s re-election bid vs. my family’s health and safety, I will pick my family. I understand some people are essential or need to be at work, but those of us who can telework should be to help decrease the risk to those who cannot stay home. It is really hard to work with kids at home, but I view staying home to work and care for my children to be my civic duty right now to help flatten the curve.

There is no reason for my work to be done in the office except because the orange one wants to stick his head in the sand and pretend things can go back to normal. Sorry, not sacrificing for something so meaningless.

Eh but the government considers it our civil duty to still work 8hrs per day, which is impossible with young children at home. I cannot do this for months on end, which is looking more and more likely.

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Anonymous wrote:One essential parent goes in every other week, I full time telework and keep DD with me while trying to work.

We could still send DD to daycare, but the only kids there are ones whose parents work in the medical field so it's not worth the risk.

It's effing crazy, and I don't know how much longer my sanity is going to last, but what choice do we have?

We are similar with one essential worker and one teleworker and after doing this almost a month it’s hard to imagine doing it for months longer.

Same. If Trump truly sends feds back to the office May 1, we will cave. We might cave by then anyway.

I won’t. If forced to pick between going into the office for a job that is 100% able to be done remotely just to bolster Trump’s re-election bid vs. my family’s health and safety, I will pick my family. I understand some people are essential or need to be at work, but those of us who can telework should be to help decrease the risk to those who cannot stay home. It is really hard to work with kids at home, but I view staying home to work and care for my children to be my civic duty right now to help flatten the curve.

There is no reason for my work to be done in the office except because the orange one wants to stick his head in the sand and pretend things can go back to normal. Sorry, not sacrificing for something so meaningless.

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Anonymous wrote:One essential parent goes in every other week, I full time telework and keep DD with me while trying to work.

We could still send DD to daycare, but the only kids there are ones whose parents work in the medical field so it's not worth the risk.

It's effing crazy, and I don't know how much longer my sanity is going to last, but what choice do we have?

We are similar with one essential worker and one teleworker and after doing this almost a month it’s hard to imagine doing it for months longer.

Same. If Trump truly sends feds back to the office May 1, we will cave. We might cave by then anyway.

I don’t see how group daycare is going to be safe for quite a while. I expect to see a increase in the demand for nanny positions.

Anonymous wrote:One essential parent goes in every other week, I full time telework and keep DD with me while trying to work.

We could still send DD to daycare, but the only kids there are ones whose parents work in the medical field so it's not worth the risk.

It's effing crazy, and I don't know how much longer my sanity is going to last, but what choice do we have?

We are similar with one essential worker and one teleworker and after doing this almost a month it’s hard to imagine doing it for months longer.

One essential parent goes in every other week, I full time telework and keep DD with me while trying to work.

We could still send DD to daycare, but the only kids there are ones whose parents work in the medical field so it's not worth the risk.

It's effing crazy, and I don't know how much longer my sanity is going to last, but what choice do we have?

Yes. We need to work.

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Anonymous wrote:I know everyone's work is different, but I'm not finding it terribly difficult to handle mine while working at home. Two parents are home, both work full time. We trade off who is on child duty, and work a little after they are in bed. It's not fun, but it's not impossible.

How old are your kids? We’re finding it very difficult with 2 kids under 5, particularly our toddler who is always getting into something. Our house is small so the working parent is frequently getting interrupted and we sometimes have conflicting conference calls during which we pray the iPad will occupy the kids. Our toddler doesn’t have a long attention span for screens and has also now decided to drop nap. The nature of our jobs means we need to be available during business hours so just logging on at night isn’t working.

That said, we still wouldn’t use childcare if it were open. But I am finding caring for small kids while working to be incredibly challenging to the point of being on the brink of a meltdown.

Also have two kids under 5, and I feel the exact same way. There's a reason we aren't allowed to do it normally!!

Anonymous wrote:I know everyone's work is different, but I'm not finding it terribly difficult to handle mine while working at home. Two parents are home, both work full time. We trade off who is on child duty, and work a little after they are in bed. It's not fun, but it's not impossible.

How old are your kids? We’re finding it very difficult with 2 kids under 5, particularly our toddler who is always getting into something. Our house is small so the working parent is frequently getting interrupted and we sometimes have conflicting conference calls during which we pray the iPad will occupy the kids. Our toddler doesn’t have a long attention span for screens and has also now decided to drop nap. The nature of our jobs means we need to be available during business hours so just logging on at night isn’t working.

That said, we still wouldn’t use childcare if it were open. But I am finding caring for small kids while working to be incredibly challenging to the point of being on the brink of a meltdown.

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Anonymous wrote:We are not using childcare even though it is technically open and we are still paying.

Same.

Same for now but if it goes on longer than another month and spouse goes back into the office and kids have been quarantined I will send them back. Just not realistic to keep getting work done.

Agree. But keep in mind many essential workers are being exposed, and the children may be as well unless they are staying in a separate home.

OP here- this is what we've settled on. Going to make it work for now to reduce risks, but if it goes on beyond April we will have to re-evaluate. It's likely we are all going to be exposed eventually (if we haven't already) but I see the value in minimizing the risks NOW before reaching the peak.

The build up to peak is the danger zone. Not arguing here, you are resolved. But maybe take a bit longer to consider this. It’s your child.

Sorry, i misunderstood your response. Ignore.

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Anonymous wrote:We are not using childcare even though it is technically open and we are still paying.

Same.

Same for now but if it goes on longer than another month and spouse goes back into the office and kids have been quarantined I will send them back. Just not realistic to keep getting work done.

Agree. But keep in mind many essential workers are being exposed, and the children may be as well unless they are staying in a separate home.

OP here- this is what we've settled on. Going to make it work for now to reduce risks, but if it goes on beyond April we will have to re-evaluate. It's likely we are all going to be exposed eventually (if we haven't already) but I see the value in minimizing the risks NOW before reaching the peak.

The build up to peak is the danger zone. Not arguing here, you are resolved. But maybe take a bit longer to consider this. It’s your child.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm in a similar situation. 2 essential workers. We live in MD so it would be free, plus our neighbors run an approved in-home child care facility. My husband goes in to work for a full day every day, I telework. Neither of us feels comfortable sending our kids to daycare though. My kids are 5 and 7 so they are old enough to entertain themselves while I work. Yes, they interrupt me a ton and it's start-stop all day. Plus online class meetings and schoolwork for the 7 year old. I just don't feel right about potentially exposing them and vice versa. We don't absolutely have to, so we don't. I try not judge those who don't have any other choice, depending on the circumstances. Unemployment is a pretty sweet deal these days....if it comes down to it, my husband will take that deal since he is the lower earner.

But would he have a job to come back to? The “sweet” unemployment deal will not last forever.

OP, I'm in a similar situation. 2 essential workers. We live in MD so it would be free, plus our neighbors run an approved in-home child care facility. My husband goes in to work for a full day every day, I telework. Neither of us feels comfortable sending our kids to daycare though. My kids are 5 and 7 so they are old enough to entertain themselves while I work. Yes, they interrupt me a ton and it's start-stop all day. Plus online class meetings and schoolwork for the 7 year old. I just don't feel right about potentially exposing them and vice versa. We don't absolutely have to, so we don't. I try not judge those who don't have any other choice, depending on the circumstances. Unemployment is a pretty sweet deal these days....if it comes down to it, my husband will take that deal since he is the lower earner.

We plan to send our daughter in for a short period of time. This is why:

- We are both essential workers. I work every other week, so when I am home, she will be with me. When I am at work, my husband works from home. Why can't he balance his work and taking care of her, you ask? Two reasons: first, his work is INCREDIBLY busy right now and she is 3 and not self-sufficient, so it's very stressful for him to deal with meetings and her. Second, he has a chronic neurological condition that is exacerbated with stress. We cannot afford to have him have an episode, especially now.

- Her preschool is doing a TON to keep the kids as safe as possible:

- Temperature taking of every child and faculty member before they enter the building, midday, and at pickup. No one enters if they have any sort of elevated temperature. Parents drop off and pick up at the entrance.

- HALO fogger in use throughout the school, in addition to other sanitizing procedures.

- Keeping the rooms limited to 10 individuals at most and no mixing of classes.

She will be nowhere except school and our home. You can judge if you want to, but ultimately we cannot have my husband suffer a neurological episode that could have lifelong implications for his ability to walk, speak, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Single mom with three kids. Work remotely. I have a sitter (college woman with parents both drs - she’s been living here and I’m paying her for 5 hours a day while I’m working. Kids are 10-13 but she helps w school while I focus on work

Essential worker and we hired a babysitter too. Daughter of a coworker who’s also an essential worker.