Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 17:21     Subject: Re:wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
You again, OP?
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 17:20     Subject: wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Troll.


Right. Do better, OP.


I believe OP because this was my mom growing up. She would do this after every little thing. She is bi-polar and refuses to be medicated. I think you need to get your kids away from this behavior, OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 17:11     Subject: Re:wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:all I was thinking about this morning was getting kids to school and getting work done before I drive parents to the doctor this afternoon. My whole day has been derailed.


Don't over do it Troll, I mean OP.


Yup. His whole day has been derailed. Now he won’t get to volunteer at the soup kitchen after he takes his parents to their chemotherapy appointments this afternoon. Yes - BOTH parents have cancer and OP is their only support system.

Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 16:52     Subject: wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Anonymous wrote:Wife just threw coffee cup across kitchen shattering it on floor with coffee in it because she is angry that I woke her up opening the bedroom door this morning when I was getting daughter ready for school. I wake up and do breakfast for everyone and get kids to school. Wife usually gets up around 9. She got angry while I was getting kids ready and said some mean stuff to me. She is ranting about wanting a divorce. I simply do not deserve this.



I was you. I stuck it out for the kids for years. We are divorced now. Things are better.

Get out

These lazy women who want to "stay at home" and expect their husbands to pick all the slack are just nuts.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 16:50     Subject: wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Anonymous wrote:Dcum can be such a disappointment. The answers would be SO difference if this was the wife posting. You guys should really be ashamed by your double standards.


You post in every thread, and it’s never true.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 16:46     Subject: Re:wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know what happened only because I have been in your shoes, OP.
You don’t think she should sleep in, so you were being passive aggressive and not trying to be quiet when she was sleeping this morning. I am not saying that she should be sleeping, but the way to deal with it is to talk about it and make a different plan, not making a bunch of noise when she is sleeping.

Then when she was upset, you didn’t engage and tell her that you want to redivide household responsibilities. Instead, you acted like she was crazy for noticing the passive aggressive behavior. She got frustrated because you wouldn’t engage, and she upped the ante, then threw the coffee cup across the room.

Now you get to be the good guy!

This isn’t good for your marriage, OP. You need to change the way you deal with conflict. Be direct. If there is something you aren’t happy about, bring it up.


Hah... the DW threw a coffee cup across the room and smashed it, but it's the DH's fault? Such a double standard...


I’m the DW, and I know it’s my fault when I have done this to my husband. He didn’t throw things, but he got angry, and I acted like I have no idea what it was about.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 16:43     Subject: wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Plus one that you woke her deliberately because you don’t want her sleeping in or staying home and you’re not man enough to tell her that. If you get a divorce you’ll need to pay her and you’ll still need to get the kids ready in the morning some days.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 16:41     Subject: Re:wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Anonymous wrote:I know what happened only because I have been in your shoes, OP.
You don’t think she should sleep in, so you were being passive aggressive and not trying to be quiet when she was sleeping this morning. I am not saying that she should be sleeping, but the way to deal with it is to talk about it and make a different plan, not making a bunch of noise when she is sleeping.

Then when she was upset, you didn’t engage and tell her that you want to redivide household responsibilities. Instead, you acted like she was crazy for noticing the passive aggressive behavior. She got frustrated because you wouldn’t engage, and she upped the ante, then threw the coffee cup across the room.

Now you get to be the good guy!

This isn’t good for your marriage, OP. You need to change the way you deal with conflict. Be direct. If there is something you aren’t happy about, bring it up.


Hah... the DW threw a coffee cup across the room and smashed it, but it's the DH's fault? Such a double standard...
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 16:39     Subject: wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Anonymous wrote:If the roles were reversed folks'd be up in arms saying OP should call the cops and have that abusive husband arrested.


Exactly. They would be telling OP to get his affairs in order, meet with an attorney, and so on. Why is it OK for men to accept this abuse? Double standard.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 16:37     Subject: wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Dcum can be such a disappointment. The answers would be SO difference if this was the wife posting. You guys should really be ashamed by your double standards.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 16:22     Subject: Re:wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
I know what happened only because I have been in your shoes, OP.
You don’t think she should sleep in, so you were being passive aggressive and not trying to be quiet when she was sleeping this morning. I am not saying that she should be sleeping, but the way to deal with it is to talk about it and make a different plan, not making a bunch of noise when she is sleeping.

Then when she was upset, you didn’t engage and tell her that you want to redivide household responsibilities. Instead, you acted like she was crazy for noticing the passive aggressive behavior. She got frustrated because you wouldn’t engage, and she upped the ante, then threw the coffee cup across the room.

Now you get to be the good guy!

This isn’t good for your marriage, OP. You need to change the way you deal with conflict. Be direct. If there is something you aren’t happy about, bring it up.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 12:54     Subject: Re:wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
what does she do with her day after she gets up?
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 12:47     Subject: wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She sounds abusive and like she has a major rage problem.

This isn't hormones (all humans have hormones and don't act like this) and this isn't bipolar disorder.

I am sure you have seen this side of her before.


yeah, her behavior has gotten real bad over the last 6 or 7 months. I posted on here because I needed an outlet and she not reasonable to talk to.



Affair is a possibility.

Anyway, you and your kids don't deserve this.

I would document everything
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 12:21     Subject: wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
So, you go to a lawyer and follow through on the divorce she wants.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2020 12:20     Subject: wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school
Anonymous wrote:Have you posted about your wife before and how badly she treats you?


OP, I have only one tip. You need to get up earlier than you do so that you can also finish the cooking and laundry.

Do your parents stay with you?