It’s fine.

Anonymous wrote:If you're going to be holding your baby the whole time or if you're okay with baby being on the floor trampled by 4 year olds having fun I'd say go ahead bring baby.

If you're the type to want the host to baby proof for you, clear a space for the pack and play or constantly chastising the 4 year olds for almost knocking baby over , give the party a skip.

Alternatively, do you have any trusted friends attending the party who wouldn't mind talking your 4 year old allowing you to stay home with baby?

No one is this type. You're just being dramatic and writing fiction.

If you're going to be holding your baby the whole time or if you're okay with baby being on the floor trampled by 4 year olds having fun I'd say go ahead bring baby.

If you're the type to want the host to baby proof for you, clear a space for the pack and play or constantly chastising the 4 year olds for almost knocking baby over , give the party a skip.

Alternatively, do you have any trusted friends attending the party who wouldn't mind talking your 4 year old allowing you to stay home with baby?

It's fine. I wouldn't ask. It's not like the 8 month old is going eat a piece of cake or make a scene begging for a party favor.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg of course it?s fine... the hosts are parents, they get that you need to bring your baby.

This is not a given. At all.

You might find yourself rather embarrassed when you ask where the birthday kid?s baby brother is and the parents tell you they got a babysitter.

No one hires a babysitter for one of their own kids when their other kid is having a birthday! Birthdays are family events.

Um, I have, and lots of my friends have as well. I don't want to be chasing after a toddler when I'm trying to socialize with the moms, offer drinks, answer the door, restock the veggie tray and play with the birthday child.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg of course it?s fine... the hosts are parents, they get that you need to bring your baby.

This is not a given. At all.

You might find yourself rather embarrassed when you ask where the birthday kid?s baby brother is and the parents tell you they got a babysitter.

No one hires a babysitter for one of their own kids when their other kid is having a birthday! Birthdays are family events.

I would hate it but would also have a hard time saying no.
On the other hand, it was rare for my kid to have a friend without younger siblings, so I had to put up with that.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg of course it’s fine... the hosts are parents, they get that you need to bring your baby.

When I was hosting my 4 year old’s party I had a friend watch my 1 year old at her home so the party could just be for big kids - like my 4 year old asked.

Please don’t bring your toddlers to older kids parties. Let them have something that’s just about them on their birthday! A 4 year old’s party is not about you and your baby. If you can’t bring your invited kid without being rude, just RSVP “no” and be done with it. Everyone will survive.

I would be horrified if one of my kid’s friend’s parents thought that I thought like this.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Omg of course it’s fine... the hosts are parents, they get that you need to bring your baby.

When I was hosting my 4 year old’s party I had a friend watch my 1 year old at her home so the party could just be for big kids - like my 4 year old asked.

Please don’t bring your toddlers to older kids parties. Let them have something that’s just about them on their birthday! A 4 year old’s party is not about you and your baby. If you can’t bring your invited kid without being rude, just RSVP “no” and be done with it. Everyone will survive.

I would be horrified if one of my kid’s friend’s parents thought that I thought like this.

No need to post this on a forum, just ask!

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Anonymous wrote:Non walking baby totally fine.

8 month olds are crawling all over the place.

Not appropriate.

None of my kids were crawling at 8 months. And even after learning to walk they all happily snuggled in the carrier if we weren’t at home. YMMV.

So, then it depends on the baby.

I stand by the assertion that it’s okay if and only if the baby can be worn in a carrier. If the baby is going to be crawling or toddling around it’s not appropriate.

Totally agree.

Sure if you're OK with the entire party

8 weeks old is ok, just wear in a carrier and they sleep. 8 months is too old. They cry more and expect to touch things and explore a bit. Not okay.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg of course it’s fine... the hosts are parents, they get that you need to bring your baby.

This is not a given. At all.

You might find yourself rather embarrassed when you ask where the birthday kid’s baby brother is and the parents tell you they got a babysitter.

Anonymous wrote:Omg of course it’s fine... the hosts are parents, they get that you need to bring your baby.

When I was hosting my 4 year old’s party I had a friend watch my 1 year old at her home so the party could just be for big kids - like my 4 year old asked.

Please don’t bring your toddlers to older kids parties. Let them have something that’s just about them on their birthday! A 4 year old’s party is not about you and your baby. If you can’t bring your invited kid without being rude, just RSVP “no” and be done with it. Everyone will survive.