Anonymous wrote:OP you have every right to post WHATEVER YOU WANT on facebook.

Ten years from now you will want to go back and reflect on those days--how much it meant to you to have a break so that when you picked up your little one you were rested and "fresh' and the fun things you were able to do the rest of the day.

Your neighbor is an ass. You owe him nothing.

I agree that it's your page and you can post whatever you want. He was an ass and and you should say you can't help. You don't owe it to anyone to help or not help.

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Anonymous wrote:Posting that was obnoxious. He responded in kind. You can either help out a neighbor who is a struggling single dad who doesn’t have additional help, or you can’t. That’s on you.

He’s not struggling too much if he has time to harass the neighbors.... just sayin...

I’ve never led asking someone for a go or with an insult or put down. Being a single dad is no excuse for being an entitled a$$hole.

Staying at home without kids there is the epitome of entitled asshole.

Anonymous wrote:You’re both asshats. You deserve each other. Yes, he’s a jerk. Don’t help him. But you behaved badly too, so just drop it and continue with your resolution to do and be better.

Having free time is a type of privilege. You used your FB post to rub your privilege in others’ faces. He’s probably not the only one who was miffed. He’s just the only one who’s struggling enough to have lashed out, or who lacks the social awareness to just keep quiet.

I agree with this. You both sound like asshats.

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Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.

I would've told him no and I would've told him why it could've been yes but is now no. Maybe he'll stop being a jerk. I realize you welcomed this commentary by posting on FB but do we really think it's ok to tell people to get a job AND tag their spouse in the post? He's an ass.

Yep, he’s a jerk. Tell him no, that you stay home so you can have quality time with your kids.

Your kids who are in school and you’re so happy to have time without them.

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Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.

All this speaks to is your own (deserved) massive insecurity..

No, don't help this guy. He's an ass. But you also don't need to point anything out to him. Just tell him ,"That won't work for me."

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Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

To this and all the other PP who said she shouldn't posted this etc...why?? Because it might hurt her manbaby neighbor's feels?
Nah.

Y'all need to have more wine. Or something.

I guess I am the I my one who got Bob’s sense of humor. He was joking. Just relax and be kind.

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Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.

+1. The people saying it was an obnoxious post have obviously never spent time as a stay at home parent. It is exhausting and 24/7. Nothing wrong with being excited to get a little time to yourself back.

I’m a SAHM of two. It IS exhausting and neither kid is in school yet. Occasionally I get my mom to take them both and I aimlessly shop at Target or HomeGoods OR if I can get my husband to do the drop off on his way to work then I stay home and sleep. Both options are glorious. I’m on FB all the time but NEVER would I make an obnoxious post bragging about my free time. At most I’d mention it directly to other SAHM friends at a later time who get how nice a middle of the day break is but it’s childish and silly to make a FB status about it. Clearly OP has learned this and left social media but I think she asked for it in this case and shouldn’t be petty to the neighbor. If neighbor dad lashed out on a non-bragging post (ex. if she posted something sentimental about sending her last little one off to school instead of bragging about lounging around and doing nothing and he still told her to go get a job) then I’d feel differently.

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Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

To this and all the other PP who said she shouldn't posted this etc...why?? Because it might hurt her manbaby neighbor's feels?
Nah.

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Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.

+1. The people saying it was an obnoxious post have obviously never spent time as a stay at home parent. It is exhausting and 24/7. Nothing wrong with being excited to get a little time to yourself back.

Anonymous wrote:I think I would mention this is why me not working is what is best for our family. I would say yes to helping (assuming I can). If I couldn’t I would just say no but not mention this is why staying home works for our family:

Just say no.

I think I would mention this is why me not working is what is best for our family. I would say yes to helping (assuming I can). If I couldn’t I would just say no but not mention this is why staying home works for our family:

You’re both asshats. You deserve each other. Yes, he’s a jerk. Don’t help him. But you behaved badly too, so just drop it and continue with your resolution to do and be better.

Having free time is a type of privilege. You used your FB post to rub your privilege in others’ faces. He’s probably not the only one who was miffed. He’s just the only one who’s struggling enough to have lashed out, or who lacks the social awareness to just keep quiet.

Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.