Anonymous
02/23/2020 22:35
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a 13 year old, so it isn’t an issue yet, but he knows there is an open box of condoms in the medicine cabinet beside the soap and tampons and zit cream. I restock them all as needed.
+1. Planning to do the same when my kids are teenagers. I mentioned this in another thread, but my dad kept "his" condoms in the upstairs linen closet for years when my brother and I were teens. We'd help ourselves as needed. Many years later, we found out our dad had gotten a vasectomy when we were toddlers. I am being serious when I say I never had sex without a condom until I was engaged, not even once (I was also on the Pill from age 14 because I had terrible periods but also because my mom did NOT play).
I’m female and I never even thought to buy condoms or provide my daughter. D’oh. I don’t know why that never occurred to me. I planned on getting and IUD or such for dd when she was old enough. But yes, STDs are a thing too. For both genders.
I only slept with 2 guys. The first was a virgin and the second was the guy I married. I think dh and I used condoms until marriage (married 9 years so it’s hard to remember). I never used birth control because I had bad issues with it and was later somewhat infertile.
I guess to me it would be like not remembering what form of transportation you used to get the job you held from 2008-2011. It’s not important to remember now, I guess, but it just doesn’t seem it would be that hard to recall?
I know this has nothing to do with anything, and it REALLY does not matter for this thread, especially. But I guess I find it a bit curious that you don't remember what you did with your DH before marriage. IDK, I've only slept with my DH, and I've been married over 20 years, and I remember these kinds of things? Like I would assume that with only 1 or 2 partners, this would be easy to recall.
IDK just something that struck me.
I’m someone who has a good memory and I can’t imagine not remembering whether I used birth control with my spouse prior to marriage. I suppose some people forget large parts of their lives. I often am struck by people’s lack of recalling basic facts of their lives.
Yeah, I’m that immediate PP and was genuinely not being snarky— directly or passive aggressively. I guess what struck me as... unrelatable? Surprising? Was that she said 9 years like that was so long ago, most people wouldn’t remember. I do have an unusually good memory, I guess, but that just seems like something that most people would remember, especially after only 9 years and 2 partners.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 22:33
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a 13 year old, so it isn’t an issue yet, but he knows there is an open box of condoms in the medicine cabinet beside the soap and tampons and zit cream. I restock them all as needed.
+1. Planning to do the same when my kids are teenagers. I mentioned this in another thread, but my dad kept "his" condoms in the upstairs linen closet for years when my brother and I were teens. We'd help ourselves as needed. Many years later, we found out our dad had gotten a vasectomy when we were toddlers. I am being serious when I say I never had sex without a condom until I was engaged, not even once (I was also on the Pill from age 14 because I had terrible periods but also because my mom did NOT play).
I’m female and I never even thought to buy condoms or provide my daughter. D’oh. I don’t know why that never occurred to me. I planned on getting and IUD or such for dd when she was old enough. But yes, STDs are a thing too. For both genders.
I only slept with 2 guys. The first was a virgin and the second was the guy I married. I think dh and I used condoms until marriage (married 9 years so it’s hard to remember). I never used birth control because I had bad issues with it and was later somewhat infertile.
I know this has nothing to do with anything, and it REALLY does not matter for this thread, especially. But I guess I find it a bit curious that you don't remember what you did with your DH before marriage. IDK, I've only slept with my DH, and I've been married over 20 years, and I remember these kinds of things? Like I would assume that with only 1 or 2 partners, this would be easy to recall.
IDK just something that struck me.
I’m someone who has a good memory and I can’t imagine not remembering whether I used birth control with my spouse prior to marriage. I suppose some people forget large parts of their lives. I often am struck by people’s lack of recalling basic facts of their lives.
Yeah, I’m that immediate PP and was genuinely not being snarky— directly or passive aggressively. I guess what struck me as... unrelatable? Surprising? Was that she said 9 years like that was so long ago, most people wouldn’t remember. I do have an unusually good memory, I guess, but that just seems like something that most people would remember, especially after only 9 years and 2 partners.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 20:50
Subject: Re:What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.
I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?
Will he talk to you about this? I’m the woman on page 1 who bought condoms as a teen but I was older than your son. I would have never spoken to my parents about condoms or birth control and would have been more likely to talk to an aunt, uncle, older sibling or cousin. It’s great if your son will talk to you about this. Then leave the condoms around the house. I’d also call Uncle Joe or cousin Mike if there is someone he is close with. They can give him some.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 18:06
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:Our HS son has a serious gf and a job. If he and gf believe they are old enough/mature enough to have sex, then they are old enough/mature enough to buy condoms.
Cannot believe parents actually do this.
And teenagers are ruled by hormones in the moment. I’ll buy my son condoms if it means he’s never in the moment without one. I chanced it more than I care to remember as a teen because we didn’t have one, and I’ve always been pretty risk adverse. I’d prefer not to even think about grandchildren for 10-15 years, so it’s as much for me as him.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 18:04
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You do realize that condoms basically ensure they will get pregnant, right?
Ensure? No.
Birth control availability + good sex ed = lower rates of pregnancy.
Nope. Unplanned pregnancy rate has increased with availing of birth control and sex ed. Meanwhile, condom actual use fail rate staggered high, higher among teens.
https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/contraception/index.htm
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1070796/
I don’t see where those links say that condom access causes increases teen pregnancies, much less ensures it.
If anybody wants to see a different perspective: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/files/6813/9611/7632/Reducing_Teen_Pregnancy.pdf
Anonymous
02/23/2020 17:52
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
*availability
*staggeringly
Forgive the typos. Hate to see another pair of young kids train wreck their lives because boomers still believe condoms work.
*staggeringly
Forgive the typos. Hate to see another pair of young kids train wreck their lives because boomers still believe condoms work.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 17:50
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You do realize that condoms basically ensure they will get pregnant, right?
Ensure? No.
Birth control availability + good sex ed = lower rates of pregnancy.
Nope. Unplanned pregnancy rate has increased with availing of birth control and sex ed. Meanwhile, condom actual use fail rate staggered high, higher among teens.
https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/contraception/index.htm
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1070796/
Anonymous
02/23/2020 17:36
Subject: Re:What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
I would have a serious conversation about how sex changes a relationship dynamic and that legally he is too young to consent. So that could land her in jail. They both should wait until the age of consent in the eyes of the law. Then it shouldn't be done without protection.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 17:25
Subject: Re:What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.
I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?
I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?
Anonymous
02/23/2020 16:52
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:Our HS son has a serious gf and a job. If he and gf believe they are old enough/mature enough to have sex, then they are old enough/mature enough to buy condoms.
Cannot believe parents actually do this.
The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 16:48
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Our HS son has a serious gf and a job. If he and gf believe they are old enough/mature enough to have sex, then they are old enough/mature enough to buy condoms.
Cannot believe parents actually do this.
Cannot believe parents actually do this.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 15:48
Subject: Re:What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Give them money so that they can buy it if they need it.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 15:46
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a 13 year old, so it isn’t an issue yet, but he knows there is an open box of condoms in the medicine cabinet beside the soap and tampons and zit cream. I restock them all as needed.
+1. Planning to do the same when my kids are teenagers. I mentioned this in another thread, but my dad kept "his" condoms in the upstairs linen closet for years when my brother and I were teens. We'd help ourselves as needed. Many years later, we found out our dad had gotten a vasectomy when we were toddlers. I am being serious when I say I never had sex without a condom until I was engaged, not even once (I was also on the Pill from age 14 because I had terrible periods but also because my mom did NOT play).
I’m female and I never even thought to buy condoms or provide my daughter. D’oh. I don’t know why that never occurred to me. I planned on getting and IUD or such for dd when she was old enough. But yes, STDs are a thing too. For both genders.
I only slept with 2 guys. The first was a virgin and the second was the guy I married. I think dh and I used condoms until marriage (married 9 years so it’s hard to remember). I never used birth control because I had bad issues with it and was later somewhat infertile.
I know this has nothing to do with anything, and it REALLY does not matter for this thread, especially. But I guess I find it a bit curious that you don't remember what you did with your DH before marriage. IDK, I've only slept with my DH, and I've been married over 20 years, and I remember these kinds of things? Like I would assume that with only 1 or 2 partners, this would be easy to recall.
IDK just something that struck me.
I’m someone who has a good memory and I can’t imagine not remembering whether I used birth control with my spouse prior to marriage. I suppose some people forget large parts of their lives. I often am struck by people’s lack of recalling basic facts of their lives.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 15:42
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:I have a 13 year old, so it isn’t an issue yet, but he knows there is an open box of condoms in the medicine cabinet beside the soap and tampons and zit cream. I restock them all as needed.
I only wish I were getting laid that much as a teen much less at middle age that restocks were needed. Some people have all the luck.
Anonymous
02/23/2020 15:27
Subject: What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?
Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize parents ever bought condoms for their kids. Part of having sex was awkwardly going to buy condoms. We did it and were teen girls. No one got them from parents.
But if you are planning on it, then the bathroom idea that PP had sounds like a good one. I guess DH and I will have to have this discussion.
+ 1