Anonymous
Post 02/16/2020 06:56     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just go to bed. Tell husband you are going to bed. Shut your door. First time moms never understand this concept. Just take the time and let DH figure it out.


He can’t “figure it out” if he’s asleep. Who wants to go off to bed leaving their sick infant with his half-sleep dad?


Infant? OP said she was making soup for the kid. Infants don’t have soup. She was asked how old the kid was, but hasn’t answered.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2020 05:46     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:Just go to bed. Tell husband you are going to bed. Shut your door. First time moms never understand this concept. Just take the time and let DH figure it out.


This is the real answer. If you don't do this with your first kid, you inevitably do it with your second because you just don't have the stamina.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2020 05:35     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Oh my god OP. F. That. Tell him he is on sick baby duty. Then
either lock yourself in your bedroom with earplugs and a a six
Pack of Gatorade OR leave and go to a hotel. Leave your phone at home.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2020 05:26     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
I was a sahm with very part time at home hours (5-10/week) when I had little babies. My dh would come home and take care of me If I was sick. Just like I would do for him. It doesn’t matter who is working at an office or home taking care of the kid. If you’re sick beyond a typical cold or small malady, you need extra help! I have no clue why you people married these dolts and are allowing them to treat you like this. You need to TALK to him. Tell him exactly how you’re feeling so he knows. Ask him specifically how he can help you. Not just “come home I’m not feeling well” but “I have a giant migraine and can barely see and think I might vomit on our baby. I need to sleep in a dark room. I need you to keep the baby and feed her at x and y time and make sure she’s clean (if he doesn’t know her schedule).” Then close your door and let him do it. Clear communication and reciprocity are keys to a good marriage.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2020 03:20     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had a migraine all day and my son has his first stomach flu. I have piles of laundry to fold and have been wiping and cleaning vomit and poop off the floor. My husband has to go into work today to finish a project and I called him at 12 begging him to come home and bring chicken soup and pedialyte for our son. He brushed me off the first time. I called back and begged him to come home and help.

He comes home and “helps” by sitting on the couch with our son while I make soup for our son and he watches a movie. He then falls asleep and asks me to wake him in “15 minutes.” It’s been over an hour and I tried waking him up and he asked me to let him rest. I asked him if he’s sick too and he says no. He just wants to take a NAP.

My eyes are so puffy they’re nearly swollen shut. I am so sleep deprived and emotionally exhausted. It feels like I have another child in the house. My head is about to split open and I have no one to call and help.


Oh that's definitely time to vacuum the carpet and the couch, noisily and violently bashing the stick into him as you do it. Afterwards, you can wonder out loud what you were doing earlier when you were just not feeling right, what with all the sleep deprivation and different medicines and painkillers and all.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2020 02:05     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:So for all you "well, be thankful that at least he shows up/works/exists" posters, do you really just put up with the fact that your spouses don't pull their weight around the house? Like, you don't say anything and keep doing everything on your own? Because I do NOT let that sh*t go at my house. I work full time, my job is VERY demanding, we decided to have a kid and he talked me into a second, and there's just no way I'm going to drown alone while he rests and snoozes. There's no way my husband would still allowed to be asleep in OP's situation. I would have turned on the lights in that room, raised my voice, and stuck a puking baby in his arms. OP, do NOT let him sleep! Make some noise! You are just as entitled to rest as he is.


All of this.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2020 01:57     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
So for all you "well, be thankful that at least he shows up/works/exists" posters, do you really just put up with the fact that your spouses don't pull their weight around the house? Like, you don't say anything and keep doing everything on your own? Because I do NOT let that sh*t go at my house. I work full time, my job is VERY demanding, we decided to have a kid and he talked me into a second, and there's just no way I'm going to drown alone while he rests and snoozes. There's no way my husband would still allowed to be asleep in OP's situation. I would have turned on the lights in that room, raised my voice, and stuck a puking baby in his arms. OP, do NOT let him sleep! Make some noise! You are just as entitled to rest as he is.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2020 01:44     Subject: I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:FFS I’m so tired of these “my husband doesn’t help” posts. Seriously ladies. You married the guy. The MRA trolls will be out in force saying you got what you deserved overlooking decent somewhat nerdy guys etc.

Suck it up. You wanted tall. You wanted funny. You wanted earnings. You had to know how he was. I knew. I deal with it.


NP. Sorry you have relegated yourself to accepting it’s okay that DH doesn’t do shit.

OP, I’m sorry all these things are hitting at once. Tell your husband you’ll be dealing with the baby in shifts and then go to sleep for a few hours. Hang in there and tomorrow will be a better day.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 23:54     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Try being a single parent

You’ll be fine

Trust me

- signed single parent mom


Unless your husband died, you chose to be a single parent.


Don’t be an ass, you don’t know her situation.


Ok, but she can be an ass? Her comment was completely unhelpful.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 23:47     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let’s look at the positives ... at least he came home after only two phone calls and did not go to a bar instead.


+2


Such low bar of expectation!

And he comes home to give twins to baby mama so she can be a strong woman and do it all!!
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 23:33     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let’s look at the positives ... at least he came home after only two phone calls and did not go to a bar instead.


+2


Such low bar of expectation!
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 23:16     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:Let’s look at the positives ... at least he came home after only two phone calls and did not go to a bar instead.


+2
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 23:16     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Try being a single parent

You’ll be fine

Trust me

- signed single parent mom


Unless your husband died, you chose to be a single parent.


Don’t be an ass, you don’t know her situation.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 23:15     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Anonymous wrote:Just go to bed. Tell husband you are going to bed. Shut your door. First time moms never understand this concept. Just take the time and let DH figure it out.


He can’t “figure it out” if he’s asleep. Who wants to go off to bed leaving their sick infant with his half-sleep dad?
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2020 22:40     Subject: Re:I am exhausted with a sick baby and husband is no help.
Let’s look at the positives ... at least he came home after only two phone calls and did not go to a bar instead.