Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Wait -- surely you don't think lactation consultants are actually breastfeeding the postpartum women's babies? Because OP was talking about (some of) the consultants as mean girls, and they are not doing that.

Anonymous wrote:"breast is best" is the worst thing to ever happen to new moms.

And Fed is Best is wielded like a sword., often.

It’s how people emphatically express opinions more than listening that tends to be the problem. Not a feeding method.

Nothing nothing worse than suffering from PPD, my 30 week old baby in the NICU and feeling the pressure to breastfeed with a damn nipple shield on. It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about how awful it all felt....then going home and feeling pressure to pump on a strict schedule....please be kind to new moms. If I were to do it again- I would formula feed mostly and supplement with breastmilk if I felt up for it..... never never make a new mom feel worse than she may already feel.

Honestly that combo feeling of PPD and pressure to breastfeed makes me shudder.

Be kind to people and who are any of us to judge.

You people are nuts! I breast fed my kids because it was easy, convenient, and cheap. Had I found it difficult, I would have used formula. And I would have felt zero guilt about the choice. It doesn’t matter nearly as much as you breast nazis think it does.

Anonymous wrote:I understand OP.

Duke University Hospital 1990"s. I was told continuously breast is best by the Lactation Consultant that worked the maternity wards there. I was not breast feeding, I had my reasons. Those women were ridiculously pushing. DH and nurses and doctors had to ask them to leave.

Last child I switched hospitals UNC Chapel Hill no problems at all.

Funny in dc I had the opposite problem. They would feed my baby formula before getting me to breastfeed her. They were mostly pro formula! I had one good nurse who supported me.

But op doesnt want to hear my story.

I understand OP.

Duke University Hospital 1990"s. I was told continuously breast is best by the Lactation Consultant that worked the maternity wards there. I was not breast feeding, I had my reasons. Those women were ridiculously pushing. DH and nurses and doctors had to ask them to leave.

Last child I switched hospitals UNC Chapel Hill no problems at all.

Why are you attacking each other?


All the attackers should calm down.


Thank you.

There is a special place in hell for women who are mean to moms with infants.

I wonder if OP meant lactation consultants when she said lactavists with certifications. I’ll never forget at my baby friendly hospital after giving birth to #2 who had low blood sugar so we were supplementing with a teeny amount of formula plus breastfeeding around the clock to avoid a NICU stay. I requested an LC to help me with a latch issue and when she came I explained we were combo feeding because of low blood sugar and that I planned to combo feed anyways because I had serious supply issues with my first, visited 3 lactation consultants, did all the things, and my baby still wouldn’t gain unless I supplemented. I managed to make it 8 months by combo feeding my first. So with my LC for my second I was like, listen I just need help with latch. That’s it. We are combo feeding and it is doctor indicated. Thanks. And she still went into her whole spiel and guilt tripped me and told me it would mess up my supply (it did not). I wanted to slap her, honestly. It was so condescending. Luckily I just gave her a simple minded smile, tuned her out, let her Do her 15 minute shame speech and help for 5 minutes with latch, and DH showed her the door.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Breast feeding is not the be end all.

Most kids do just fine in life without being breast fed.

Shaming a mother for choosing formula is ridiculous.

Yes, her assertion absolutely makes sense.

Got it. So, you and OP want to ridicule and shame women who breastfeed. Makes perfect sense.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

You are a horrible person

Agree. Too bad her kids aren't getting kindness along with all that breast milk.

-- Nursed each kid well past two years.

Why? Because I am supposed to care when educated women decide not to breastfeed? I pumped while working full time. For two years. It was hard. I made a decision that was best for my kid. Others can make decisions that they think is best for their kid. It is not my job to raise their children. I have the same attitude for anti vaxxers. They can choose to not get their kid the flu vaccine.

Except anti vaxxers are my problem when I have a baby too young to get vaccinated, or too sick.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There. I said it.

Not all of them, of course. But the ones who insult and roll their eyes and formula shame are just hiding behind their profession as a means to be, well, mean. It’s the only power they have in life.

So the next time one of these Regina Georges makes you feel like a bad mom for wanting to do something other than exclusive breastfeeding, remember that she’s using the couple silly certifications she got to try and bring you down. And don’t fall for it.

What exactly are you referring to?

OP hates women who breastfeed.

It’s that simple.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Formula is convenient. May not be the best for a kid but it is convenient for the mom. I don't know about activism because as a mom who EBF, I don't give a damn if other moms don't bf their kids. My kid gets the best I can give and that what matters, not what other kids are being fed. There is enough literature available about benefits of BF, and I do not need to educate anyone.

Mean girls are selfish. To BF is opposite of being selfish. So your assertion does not make sense.

Should corporations have accomodations for working moms to pump at work or at work daycare etc. Yes. Absolutely.

Lol. Ok mean girl. Too bad you're too busy being selfishly self-righteous to give your kids something really worthwhile: a loving, kind person as their mother.

I don’t understand people who are so insecure in their choices that they must resort to name calling and putting down other women who do things differently. No, PP, every mom who breastfeeds is not doing it to be a mean girl to you. In fact you don’t factor into the decision at all.

Get help. This is a lot of anxiety and projection over what strangers do. And yes, it’s flat out crazy to think that only moms who formula feed are kind.

Anonymous wrote:There. I said it.

Not all of them, of course. But the ones who insult and roll their eyes and formula shame are just hiding behind their profession as a means to be, well, mean. It’s the only power they have in life.

So the next time one of these Regina Georges makes you feel like a bad mom for wanting to do something other than exclusive breastfeeding, remember that she’s using the couple silly certifications she got to try and bring you down. And don’t fall for it.

What exactly are you referring to?

Anonymous wrote:There. I said it.

Not all of them, of course. But the ones who insult and roll their eyes and formula shame are just hiding behind their profession as a means to be, well, mean. It’s the only power they have in life.

So the next time one of these Regina Georges makes you feel like a bad mom for wanting to do something other than exclusive breastfeeding, remember that she’s using the couple silly certifications she got to try and bring you down. And don’t fall for it.

OP, you sound like the mean girl.

Grow up.