I felt light years better to be in my own space with my kids and was a much better mom too. It took some time to grieve and adjust, but ever minute forward was an investment in me and my kids, not a dead marriage.

Do you feel more like yourself when apart or away for a weekend, do you dread coming home? If so I would consider leaving sooner than later.

I'm 4 years separated (long complicated divorce) but have zero intentions to marry again. I'm 36. I just don't know why I would.

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Anonymous wrote:Stay for your children. You’re doing the right thing.

+1. Unless there is alcoholism/addiction or abuse, it’s been proven better for the children. Plus divorce and living separately takes money away from the children.

I have absolutely not intention or desire to marry again (widowed). I love being single!

Please cite the study.

Common sense doesn't require citations.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t ever want to marry again but getting divorced at 40 was the best thing for me. I’m now 42 and I am actually enjoying life. My kids are happy and I’ve kept a good relationship with their dad. I am so so so glad that I didn’t stay in an unhappy marriage any longer than I did. I deserve to be happy.

I I I I I - it certainly seems to be all about you!

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Anonymous wrote:Married for 24 years. Divorce was easy. Were still friends. I will never remarry. My alimony would stop and I love living on my own.

You are not living on your own, you are living off your XDH!

I understand alimony is different today but I was a SAHM for many years while he worked his way up. Someone had to take care of the kids and home while he worked and traveled.

It works for us.

Do you still take full time care of those kids, do his laundry, cook him dinner, and provide regular sex to him? Or, are you working an equal number of hours for an equally demanding boss? No? Then sorry but you do not deserve to be supported by your ex husband. Go get a job. If he is still working, you should be doing an equal amount work of work until the day he retires.

Thank GOD that alimony reforms have put an end to the above insanity.

NP, why do you care so much? They have it all figured out and so who cares?

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Anonymous wrote:Married for 24 years. Divorce was easy. Were still friends. I will never remarry. My alimony would stop and I love living on my own.

You are not living on your own, you are living off your XDH!

I understand alimony is different today but I was a SAHM for many years while he worked his way up. Someone had to take care of the kids and home while he worked and traveled.

It works for us.

Do you still take full time care of those kids, do his laundry, cook him dinner, and provide regular sex to him? Or, are you working an equal number of hours for an equally demanding boss? No? Then sorry but you do not deserve to be supported by your ex husband. Go get a job. If he is still working, you should be doing an equal amount work of work until the day he retires.

Thank GOD that alimony reforms have put an end to the above insanity.

We did meditation and came to this agreement. We see nothing wrong with it. And I do work now because my kids are grown. Hate all you want but it works for us.

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Anonymous wrote:Married for 24 years. Divorce was easy. Were still friends. I will never remarry. My alimony would stop and I love living on my own.

You are not living on your own, you are living off your XDH!

I understand alimony is different today but I was a SAHM for many years while he worked his way up. Someone had to take care of the kids and home while he worked and traveled.

It works for us.

Do you still take full time care of those kids, do his laundry, cook him dinner, and provide regular sex to him? Or, are you working an equal number of hours for an equally demanding boss? No? Then sorry but you do not deserve to be supported by your ex husband. Go get a job. If he is still working, you should be doing an equal amount work of work until the day he retires.

Thank GOD that alimony reforms have put an end to the above insanity.

45 year old man and absolutely no way I will marry again. Long term committed relationship, yes. Marriage no

Man here and I've said many times in this forum, I will never marry again. If I even get the slightest notion to change my mind, all I have to do is read this forum and I snap out of it. I enjoy being single a lot more than I've enjoyed being married.

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Anonymous wrote:Married for 24 years. Divorce was easy. Were still friends. I will never remarry. My alimony would stop and I love living on my own.

You are not living on your own, you are living off your XDH!

I understand alimony is different today but I was a SAHM for many years while he worked his way up. Someone had to take care of the kids and home while he worked and traveled.

It works for us.

You could not live off alimony you would eventually have to marry again to survive.

My ex and I are wealthy. No worries for me.

Then why worry about alimony stopping...whoops your fake story just conflicted.

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Anonymous wrote:Married for 24 years. Divorce was easy. Were still friends. I will never remarry. My alimony would stop and I love living on my own.

You are not living on your own, you are living off your XDH!

I understand alimony is different today but I was a SAHM for many years while he worked his way up. Someone had to take care of the kids and home while he worked and traveled.

It works for us.

You could not live off alimony you would eventually have to marry again to survive.

My ex and I are wealthy. No worries for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Married for 24 years. Divorce was easy. Were still friends. I will never remarry. My alimony would stop and I love living on my own.

You are not living on your own, you are living off your XDH!

I understand alimony is different today but I was a SAHM for many years while he worked his way up. Someone had to take care of the kids and home while he worked and traveled.

It works for us.

You could not live off alimony you would eventually have to marry again to survive.

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Anonymous wrote:Married for 24 years. Divorce was easy. Were still friends. I will never remarry. My alimony would stop and I love living on my own.

You are not living on your own, you are living off your XDH!

I understand alimony is different today but I was a SAHM for many years while he worked his way up. Someone had to take care of the kids and home while he worked and traveled.

It works for us.

Divorced mid-40s and never want to share a household FT with another man. I might marry but I’d like to keep separate residences. I don’t want to be responsible for his.

Anonymous wrote:44, single, woman, high earner, have trust fund, three healthy kids.

I’d rather gnaw off my own fingers than allow another man to marry me. Sex, relationships, even long term companionship? Sure. But giving half my things to a fat drunk loser? I’ve had enough of that for this lifetime thanks.

Congrats, welcome to the world for Men. It’s a real bitch to lose HALF!!!!!

44, single, woman, high earner, have trust fund, three healthy kids.

I’d rather gnaw off my own fingers than allow another man to marry me. Sex, relationships, even long term companionship? Sure. But giving half my things to a fat drunk loser? I’ve had enough of that for this lifetime thanks.