Pp here. The divorced dad has invited my child over for a play date. I didn’t even know the parents were divorced. Dads can plan play dates too.

Also my husband is the one who takes my two sons to all their sports. I don’t think my husband has ever coordinated a play date in his life but it isn’t that hard. I would say he does soccer 95% of the time. One Saturday I went and a fellow team mate ran up to my son. They are in the same class. I introduced myself to the dad and said my son has spoken about his son before and perhaps they could have a play date. He said his wife would text me. I could just have easily coordinated with the dad. I coordinated a movie and DH took the boys to see a movie.

You can do this, OP.

Interesting that the posters state that since the wife works she is too busy to help the kids social life but those same people expect OP who we presume is employed to be able to handle the social life.

Smells like female hypocrisy. How shocking.

I’m not a girly girl and don’t necessarily click with the other moms but my 8yo has tons of friends.

My son is friends with a boy and it feels very hard to coordinate with his parents, who happen to be divorced. It feels like dad is willing to let child come when he has custody but the mom is more difficult to plan with. I think she plans things with the kids when she has custody? There are other moms who are married and at least look like sorority girls who are also hard to plan with. Then there are working moms who are hard to plan with too.

I’m a SAHM of 3 kids and I would guess we do 3-4 play dates per week amongst the 3 kids. There are some people who seem to have a very similar schedule with us and easy to plan and we see those people often. Some moms work. Some moms don’t. Some moms look like sorority girls. Others are MIT nerds.

My 8yo boy is the most social of my 3 kids. It is he who drives the play dates, not me. He would have a play date everyday if he could. He and his friends seem to be the one who makes plans. The kids ask the parents and we coordinate.

Troll.

You should become a Boy Scout leader.

Accept the things you cannot change, OP. Change the things you can. As others have noted, you can change what you do but you can't change what your ex-dw does.

Be a father to your child bastard. It isnt a one way street

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Anonymous wrote:My ex DW is not a girly girl. She doesn't do junior league or volunteer at food centers or any other of the things my son's friends moms do. She does not click with them at all. She's not socially awkward at all and is quite successful professionally, but she just isn't a sorority girl.

As such, my 8 year old son gets excluded from a lot of thing organized by the other moms.

How do I change this?

Wtf is junior league and why do you even know what it is?

What a troll.

For real. I was IN junior league (a very short time) and I don’t think my husband would recognize the term if he heard it or knows what it is

I say troll

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course, trash the husband! Encourage your ex to sign him up for team activities such as basketball or little league or anything that involves a lot of children.

People with penises can also sign up children for activities and transport them there.

they can, but they'll be told they're doing things wrong. they'll be told this repeatedly.

Well, maybe they should be a grown up and not suck at things.

This reminds me of when my husband kept mentioning to me that no one had volunteered to be room parent for my son's PK4 classroom. Finally after the third time I pointed out that the role is room parent, not just room mom, so he should perhaps consider volunteering himself. Which, to his credit, he then did.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course, trash the husband! Encourage your ex to sign him up for team activities such as basketball or little league or anything that involves a lot of children.

People with penises can also sign up children for activities and transport them there.

they can, but they'll be told they're doing things wrong. they'll be told this repeatedly.

Anonymous wrote:My ex DW is not a girly girl. She doesn't do junior league or volunteer at food centers or any other of the things my son's friends moms do. She does not click with them at all. She's not socially awkward at all and is quite successful professionally, but she just isn't a sorority girl.

As such, my 8 year old son gets excluded from a lot of thing organized by the other moms.

How do I change this?

Wtf is junior league and why do you even know what it is?

What a troll.

We each make play dates as well as invite whole families over on the weekend to hang out. Both of you should be doing that, but school is social enough plus a couple activities each weekend. Once 4th grade hits more homework, clubs and sports pick up.

why aren't you doing Boy Scouts or coaching or something so that you can ensure your son has a social life?