Anonymous
01/27/2020 15:02
Subject: do other parents think like this?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one horrified that anyone would NOT be nice to a child???
If the kid is a brat, I ignore them. If at my home and kid is a brat, I will suggest that it is time for you to leave and I will never invite kid to another play date.
That pretty much sums me up too.
+1
Anonymous
01/27/2020 10:09
Subject: do other parents think like this?
Anonymous wrote:Op here:
so I was always kind and nice but didn't care so much. Now I feel like I go out of my way to be kind. I don't complain about any child, not even the bratty ones. I just give benefit of doubt now more. I think now I really have this "it takes a village" mentality that PP talks about.
This is helpful clarification op, I see more what you mean now. Yes I think I do give the benefit of the doubt more. I always had empathy but it’s easier to judge a little in the back of your head if a child is having a hard time before you have your own. I think also once you’re a parent you’re more comfortable being helpful because you have a better sense of what might actually be helpful.
Anonymous
01/27/2020 09:52
Subject: do other parents think like this?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one horrified that anyone would NOT be nice to a child???
I don't understand this thread. Were you not nice to kids before you were a parent? I don't mean to be rude, but I'm not sure what OP does differently than anyone else or differently than before she was a parent?
Np. Before I had kids I lived in DC. I rarely saw children and could go weeks without seeing them. They weren’t in groceries stores, rarely in restaurants (I did mostly go to happy hour places, not touristy) and I didn’t see them on the streets. I think that’s pretty typical and the way society is going. There will be kid cities where kids are allowed and then adult cities bereft of kids. My friends who didn’t have kids really don’t know anything about children and can’t imagine having a conversation with one.
Oh and before anyone says it’s a millennial thing to hate kids, the vast majority of nastiness that my kids get comes from the 50-80 age range. They’ve done their time with kids and now don’t want to see or hear them ever again. Not sure where the nice grandmas are that I remembered as a kid. My son was getting tired of waiting for food in a restaurant last night (but not making noise or misbehaving) and an elderly woman near me thanked me for taking him out. Said kids don’t get enough spankings or time out anymore. I was shocked. My son had been coloring quietly but I thought he could use a nice walk before dinner. I couldn’t even think of a retort.
I thought that you were going to say that she thanked you for taking him out to the restaurant. That is was nice to see kids out and about. That is SO RUDE!
I once had an older woman thank me for bringing my kids to mass when they were having a particularly difficult day. She said hat she knew how hard it could be, and she thought I was a wonderful mother. Since then, I have tried to say something similar when I see new people at mass with their kids. It’s hard!