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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my wife acted like a B I’d take my erection elsewhere.

Right, I get that. My question is: Can this be fixed? We used to have a great sex life.

Yes it absolutely can. Be loving, tender and patient. Apologize. Put absolutely no pressure on him in bed.

BJs help.

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Anonymous wrote:Does he get spontaneous erections while sleeping? If so, it is likely psychological and not physical.

YES! He does. This is OP. That is how I know it is psychological too... I am really sad about it... I am so hoping it can be reversed. He still seems to really love me but on some level he must have some resentment...

It's not different to the many many women who have the same issue.

resentment = not wanting sex with the person they resent.

Apparently, it happens to men, too.

When my wife is a b***h, she gets spanked and that usually leads to sex. I think she’s doing it on purpose.

I think that you guys need to see a counselor and work through how you treat each other and react to stress. It may or may not fix his erections, but it's important in its own right.

Anonymous wrote:Does he get spontaneous erections while sleeping? If so, it is likely psychological and not physical.

YES! He does. This is OP. That is how I know it is psychological too... I am really sad about it... I am so hoping it can be reversed. He still seems to really love me but on some level he must have some resentment...

Anonymous wrote:It is physically impossible for your attitude to cause a biological dysfunction in an other person.

You know nothing.

This whole thing made me laugh!

OP the real problem is his nasty comment. No it's not you, but he'll play that blame game. Either it's something medical, or he's not into sex. Honestly I wouldn't care, especially with his nasty disposition. On that note I'd be prepared financially because the red flags are all there.

I read this thread Saturday afternoon and Saturday night couldn't get it up with my new girl. OP is a real wet blanket.

Im sorry OP, but I had to laugh. I like your honesty. I can be snippy to my DH sometimes too. I'm working on it..

You work on it too and maybe we will both have better sex soon.

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Anonymous wrote:It is physically impossible for your attitude to cause a biological dysfunction in an other person..

This could not be more wrong. Sex is very mental and emotional, the brain is a very physical organ. How you feel about someone absolutely affects whether you get turned on for them

That isn's ED, though. That's the second half of the post that you didn't quote.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah DCUM...

If a woman here had posted about how her DH was a jerk during stressful times and now she didn't feel like having sex with him, people would be rallying around her.

But since it's a guy who doesn't want to have sex, its obviously not OP's fault

Nope, she said he can't get and sustain an erection. This is very different from not wanting to have sex.
We all know that ED isn't due to women's faults. Just like an older woman not getting wet isn't a man's fault. Both are BIOLOGY.

At 37 this is psychological ED not old man ED. So yeah this is her fault.

Anonymous wrote:Do you smell bad? Have a yeast infection? You need to wash your crotch.

Funky smell will kill a boner quicker than a cold shower.

WTF?

Anonymous wrote:Ah DCUM...

If a woman here had posted about how her DH was a jerk during stressful times and now she didn't feel like having sex with him, people would be rallying around her.

But since it's a guy who doesn't want to have sex, its obviously not OP's fault

Nope, she said he can't get and sustain an erection. This is very different from not wanting to have sex.
We all know that ED isn't due to women's faults. Just like an older woman not getting wet isn't a man's fault. Both are BIOLOGY.

Does he get spontaneous erections while sleeping? If so, it is likely psychological and not physical.