Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:98% of men are trying to cheat - but can’t find a willing partner

46% of women are cheating with a willing partner.

The other 54% have not realized the power that they have. Smile at a man, and there’s a 98% chance he thinks your into him. It’s why men cheat instead of opening the marriage. They know that any breathing female can get action. Not so for the men.

WHY is this so? Because women, in general, have terribly low sex drive as compared to men. It's that simple.
That other 54% actually DO know they can have sex with practically any random man, thing is they aren't interested.... because.... like I said, women (on average) just are not much into sex. If they were, they would be having lots more sex, and this disparity would not exist.

Is low drive something that women should be proud of or boast about?

Most married women I know have plenty of sex drive. Just not with their husbands who have given up on themselves and gotten too comfortable.

Anonymous wrote:What constitutes infidelity? That’s the problem. People can cheat in several different ways. Emotionally. Physically (without sex—eg. kissing and fondling). Cyber-sex. Some couples would consider their partner viewing pornography as cheating.

Anonymous wrote:I'd be surprised if the numbers are that high. We're in our 40s and a LOT of our married friends are having marital problems these days -- couples that for a decade had been solid are now struggling. I blame it on: elementary aged kids that involve a lot of parenting/activities/bdays, the novelty of marriage has slightly wore off and careers are in their peak. Of all of our friends having trouble, no matter how f-d up the marital problems, as far as we know, none of them involved a cheating spouse (and we've spoken in yucky level of detail with a lot of these friends).

Anonymous wrote:I'm early 40s with a lot of friends and I feel like no one I know is cheating. How are you all finding out this is happening?

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Anonymous wrote:My first google search said 50-60% of men and 40-50% of women cheat. Some as low as 25% and as high as 75% so who knows but from what I have seen 50% seems right. Assume the question is cheating at any point in a marriage and not at one given moment

https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

These numbers seem very high.

I can only think of a handful of people I know who cheated on a spouse.

One study found from doing genetic testing that approximately 30% of second/middle children in NON-divorced homes were NOT fathered by the husband to the child's mother. In other words, there is a significant amount of paternity fraud being committed in non-divorced households. Women are just as likely to cheat as men.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My first google search said 50-60% of men and 40-50% of women cheat. Some as low as 25% and as high as 75% so who knows but from what I have seen 50% seems right. Assume the question is cheating at any point in a marriage and not at one given moment

https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

These numbers seem very high.

I can only think of a handful of people I know who cheated on a spouse.

One study found from doing genetic testing that approximately 30% of second/middle children in NON-divorced homes were NOT fathered by the husband to the child's mother. In other words, there is a significant amount of paternity fraud being committed in non-divorced households. Women are just as likely to cheat as men.

I find this extremely hard to believe. One out of three second children were not fathered by the spouse? Come on.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My first google search said 50-60% of men and 40-50% of women cheat. Some as low as 25% and as high as 75% so who knows but from what I have seen 50% seems right. Assume the question is cheating at any point in a marriage and not at one given moment

https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

These numbers seem very high.

I can only think of a handful of people I know who cheated on a spouse.

One study found from doing genetic testing that approximately 30% of second/middle children in NON-divorced homes were NOT fathered by the husband to the child's mother. In other words, there is a significant amount of paternity fraud being committed in non-divorced households. Women are just as likely to cheat as men.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:98% of men are trying to cheat - but can’t find a willing partner

46% of women are cheating with a willing partner.

The other 54% have not realized the power that they have. Smile at a man, and there’s a 98% chance he thinks your into him. It’s why men cheat instead of opening the marriage. They know that any breathing female can get action. Not so for the men.

WHY is this so? Because women, in general, have terribly low sex drive as compared to men. It's that simple.
That other 54% actually DO know they can have sex with practically any random man, thing is they aren't interested.... because.... like I said, women (on average) just are not much into sex. If they were, they would be having lots more sex, and this disparity would not exist.

Is low drive something that women should be proud of or boast about?

Anonymous wrote:The GSS is one of the most respected sources of information (I have no idea about this website but they are quoting stats from the GSS). You can see the breakdown of marital infidelity by age.

Bottom line: 15-25% of men, 10-15% of women (roughly). This mirrors some other studies I've seen as well. The nice thing about the GSS is that it covers ALL kinds of economic, social, psychological issues. A lot of the surveys where they conclude that "50% of people cheat" are convenience samples or surveys that bill themselves as surveys about sex. This creates a selection bias because a lot of people who are more promiscuous are more likely to participate in surveys about sex

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My first google search said 50-60% of men and 40-50% of women cheat. Some as low as 25% and as high as 75% so who knows but from what I have seen 50% seems right. Assume the question is cheating at any point in a marriage and not at one given moment

https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

These numbers seem very high.

I can only think of a handful of people I know who cheated on a spouse.

Anonymous wrote:The GSS is one of the most respected sources of information (I have no idea about this website but they are quoting stats from the GSS). You can see the breakdown of marital infidelity by age.

Bottom line: 15-25% of men, 10-15% of women (roughly). This mirrors some other studies I've seen as well. The nice thing about the GSS is that it covers ALL kinds of economic, social, psychological issues. A lot of the surveys where they conclude that "50% of people cheat" are convenience samples or surveys that bill themselves as surveys about sex. This creates a selection bias because a lot of people who are more promiscuous are more likely to participate in surveys about sex

Anonymous wrote:98% of men are trying to cheat - but can’t find a willing partner

46% of women are cheating with a willing partner.

The other 54% have not realized the power that they have. Smile at a man, and there’s a 98% chance he thinks your into him. It’s why men cheat instead of opening the marriage. They know that any breathing female can get action. Not so for the men.