Yup, and I never shared mine on FB either. People can see photos when it's an actual baby first.

My MIL did this. It was replaced by a photo of the chi old when born. Old people are weird, OP. get over it.

I think the image itself is very cool. It’s both abstract and realistic at the same time. Most people are not artists though and simply replace it with a baby picture later on.

Anonymous wrote:My first instinct is to shudder and feel like she's tempting fate. (And I say this as someone with no history of loss.)

I don't get this superstition at all. You do realize that hanging a large framed sonogram picture (which I would never do, btw) literally has no bearing on whether a child is brought to term or not, right? Unless the picture were to fall and smash the pregnant belly in a horrible way. But that's it.

Babies are rarer now and I think that's what makes grandparents so excited. DH and I were married for 7 years before our first baby. No one nagged us, but when we announced the pregnancy, everyone cried and cried. I think there was a deep fear in all of our parents that we'd never have kids and they wouldn't be grandparents (wasn't just the moms, the dads were worried too). They all wanted to pass on their interests with grandkids. Our siblings will probably never have children. My mom stated later that she was trying to imagine a full life without grandchildren, but she was really upset thinking about never holding babies or babysitting grandkids. Luckily for them we had 3 kids.

I think the sonogram picture is weird but whatever.

I don’t think not celebrating before a loss makes the loss better. I get not telling people if you prefer to keep it private but I’m not sure I get not being excited.

Anonymous wrote:De gustibus non est disputandum, so stop disputanding it.

I bet you've been hitting Refresh all day, just waiting to see if someone thought you were clever.

personally, i really don't want to see the inside of someone's uterus on the wall of a living room, but that's just me.

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Anonymous wrote:My first instinct is to shudder and feel like she's tempting fate. (And I say this as someone with no history of loss.)

There's some type of privilege in people who have never had to go through loss and can just tempt fate like this. As someone who lost twins at 6 months, I didn't even tell most of my friends I was expecting next time around. Just too much.

I'm sorry for your loss. I've experienced my own gut-wrenching and life altering miscarriage.

That said - there is no "privilege" in those that believe as I do - that nothing I could have done, and nothing that I didn't do - caused the loss of my unborn child. I'm sorry that it affects you in that way - but the Aunt has it hanging in her own home, not painted on the side of her vehicle. She's excited. She's allowed. It's not privilege - it's celebrating and looking forward to another life.

After my loss, although cautious, I was just as excited - if not moreso. Everyone deals with grief - and celebration - in different ways. To say somehow she's wrong is wrong in itself.