Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 18:05     Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:I just read through the booklet that was linked on this thread. There are hundreds of young women pictured, and not one—not ONE!—woman of color. WTH?!

I’m white, if that matters. Is UVA really that non-diverse? Or do POC avoid UVA sororities? Or was it a bad choice of overall photos by the people who devised the booklet?

Where have you been? Greek life has been segregated since its inception. This isn’t a UVa thing, it’s a Greek thing.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 17:10     Subject: Rush at UVA
^^ actually the above is an understatement. Your kid needs to decide if that's the social life they want.

There are differences -- the 2 black fraternities I am (a little) familiar with have strict no alcohol policies, for example.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 17:08     Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:I just read through the booklet that was linked on this thread. There are hundreds of young women pictured, and not one—not ONE!—woman of color. WTH?!

I’m white, if that matters. Is UVA really that non-diverse? Or do POC avoid UVA sororities? Or was it a bad choice of overall photos by the people who devised the booklet?


It's fair to say Greek life is segregated. There are 7 historically black sororities and fraternities at UVA. https://fsl.virginia.edu/national-pan-hellenic-council
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 15:44     Subject: Rush at UVA
I just read through the booklet that was linked on this thread. There are hundreds of young women pictured, and not one—not ONE!—woman of color. WTH?!

I’m white, if that matters. Is UVA really that non-diverse? Or do POC avoid UVA sororities? Or was it a bad choice of overall photos by the people who devised the booklet?
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 15:14     Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Computer generated GPA cuts? This is crazy talk. You, as a parent, cannot get grades without permission from your student.


The computer system they use for rush has the ability to do this. This is not a UVA thing, either.


Privacy violation.


The students give this info willingly. It's pretty common.

I'm sorry, but I think you may want to stay back here. You don't seem familiar with this process and your posts are just going to confuse people.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 15:12     Subject: Rush at UVA
I was never in a sorority. My freshman daughter will be rushing in the coming weeks, so I’ve been reading up on what it is like.

To sum it up, it’s like the hunger games, but they wear nicer things and smile more.

Good luck to all the PNMs
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 14:55     Subject: Re:Rush at UVA
You cannot be serious. OP even says that she has friends whose kids are also rushing at UVA and they're comparing notes and rumors as to how cuts are made. That's insane. And, yes, helicopterish.


1. I am absolutely serious. I think OP sounds like a parent who is worried her DD is going to be hurt. Coming to DCUM to navigate how to potentially reduce that hurt or discuss it with DD does not make her a helicopter. She’s not telling her DD what to do. She’s not calling the sororities or engaging in other controlling behavior that she described.
2. You have obvious issues with reading comprehension. The OP specifically stated that she is NOT discussing rush details with friends who have DDs also going through the process. Read more carefully, little words can drastically change the meaning of a passage.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 14:54     Subject: Rush at UVA
^^NP. Just try writing something that isn’t terrible. Just for fun.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 14:51     Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A mother of a freshmen at a school found out a person was in the desired sorority at the school she attended. She asked that she be her sponsor and said ok and sent over her resume to submit with the recommendation seeing she had known the student for many years.


Sounds pretty simple and easy.


After glancing at the resume, she noticed a lot of made up stuff, specifically number of years on varsity sports, teams the student was never on number of years as captain, choral performances etc

The mother kept asking if the recommendation was sent yet and she was told no, asked why and she was told that she won't recommend someone who is not properly representing themselves, she padded her resume and she won't do it. To which the mother said, fine we will just get someone else.

Then she finds out that the mother submitted a letter on behalf of the person who said no but that is where they screwed up because the recommendation was to be submitted via the sorority portal under the persons account who was submitting the recommendation.

Int he end, the person was not selected by any sorority, when THE MOTHER asked she was told due to circumstances that they can't discuss her daughter was not invited to join a sorority.



There's a zero percent chance, based on this gibberish, that you attend any university, much less UVa.


do we now grade posts on a blog? interesting that you say something about a response and yet the topic is so ridiculous that you really worry where a person went to school? $5 says i went to uva and $5 says you didn't
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 14:27     Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Computer generated GPA cuts? This is crazy talk. You, as a parent, cannot get grades without permission from your student.


The computer system they use for rush has the ability to do this. This is not a UVA thing, either.


Privacy violation.


Not at all or athletes would never lose eligibility.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 14:19     Subject: Rush at UVA
To the PP who asked about legacy status at different schools: For all/most of the Panhellenic Sororities if your mother, grandmother or sister was a member then you get legacy status regardless of school. So yes, if your wife was in a house at UMD then your daughter can check the legacy box at VT.

It doesn’t mean she will get in or even want to be in that house, it’s just a check box that generally gets you through the first cut.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 13:14     Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Computer generated GPA cuts? This is crazy talk. You, as a parent, cannot get grades without permission from your student.


The computer system they use for rush has the ability to do this. This is not a UVA thing, either.


Privacy violation.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 13:12     Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:Computer generated GPA cuts? This is crazy talk. You, as a parent, cannot get grades without permission from your student.


The computer system they use for rush has the ability to do this. This is not a UVA thing, either.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 13:11     Subject: Rush at UVA
Anonymous wrote:Sorority and fraternity rush can be very stressful and even devastating for some kids. We know several students who actually transferred after being shut out of the Greek system (and yes, one was at UVA so it’s not accurate to say everyone gets something). If all of your freshmen friends join sororities/fraternities and suddenly a whole new social world opens up to them, it can be very isolating to be left behind.

That said, there’s not much a parent can do besides being a listening ear/shoulder to cry on, and reminding DC that a process where people are judging you based on 5-10 minute conversations is going to have some arbitrary results that are not reflective of DC’s self-worth.


The only way someone was shut out at UVA would be if the example is from more than a few years ago or the person only put one name down.

These days, everyone who wants to join a sorority gets into one. That is the rule and it is in practice at UVA. You just have to be open to multiple houses.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2020 13:10     Subject: Rush at UVA
Computer generated GPA cuts? This is crazy talk. You, as a parent, cannot get grades without permission from your student.