Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 19:09     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No regrets. Just bc it started in HS doesn’t mean I had a large number of partners. Is that your implication?


Same here. Started with boyfriend in high school and slept with 5 people total including my husband. I didn't just sleep around like a slut. They were all meaningful relationships.


Slut is an ugly, judgmental word. Please strike it from your vocabulary.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 19:02     Subject: Re:If you had sex in high school...

I was 15, have no regrets.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 19:01     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

Anonymous wrote:No regrets. Just bc it started in HS doesn’t mean I had a large number of partners. Is that your implication?


Same here. Started with boyfriend in high school and slept with 5 people total including my husband. I didn't just sleep around like a slut. They were all meaningful relationships.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:58     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

Anonymous wrote:16 and no regrets. I actually look at people who waited until college and beyond sideways. I assume they are a bit prudish.


By the end of Freshman year of college, I agree.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:56     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

16 and no regrets. I actually look at people who waited until college and beyond sideways. I assume they are a bit prudish.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:51     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

Anonymous wrote:I regret waiting.

I’m pissed that my conservative, Catholic mother made me so scared of mental and moral consequences of having sex. I wonder if she set me up because I was outgoing and friendly, things she is not, and thought I would be some heathen if left to my own devices?

Don’t f-up your children, church ladies!


Yeah this happened to my friend and she’s now stuck as a 40 yo virgin who really regrets the whole dramatic ordeal her family put her through. Family was in that Christian movement where you swear chastity to your dad or something and wear a necklace. Then her dad died and she had all this baggage. What a mess. To be fair though she doesn’t count oral. The Christian guru who spear headed the movement of no dating no sex until marriage had recently divorced his wife and said whoops I was wrong. Yeah great after all the damage he caused.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:45     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

I was 15. Did it with a guy a barely knew, just to get it over with so I regret that. I was fine with the age until my 15 year old DD told me that one of her classmates had sex at a New Years party. I have been sick to my stomach ever since.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:42     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

Anonymous wrote:I regret the partner but not the decision to become sexually active when I did.

Same
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:40     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

I was 16 and have zero regrets.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:39     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

15 with a boyfriend I dated over a year who was one year older than me.

My main "regret" is that we had to "sneak" to do it. It always felt rushed, or like we had to be careful to be quiet, etc. so it was never very enjoyable.

I don't regret it was with him, even though we are no longer together, because we were equally inexperienced (so we got to experience everything together) and we really cared about each other.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:38     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

Anonymous wrote:I regret waiting.

I’m pissed that my conservative, Catholic mother made me so scared of mental and moral consequences of having sex. I wonder if she set me up because I was outgoing and friendly, things she is not, and thought I would be some heathen if left to my own devices?

Don’t f-up your children, church ladies!


+1,000,000

Sexual guilt is ridiculous
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:36     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

I regret waiting.

I’m pissed that my conservative, Catholic mother made me so scared of mental and moral consequences of having sex. I wonder if she set me up because I was outgoing and friendly, things she is not, and thought I would be some heathen if left to my own devices?

Don’t f-up your children, church ladies!
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:35     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

I don't regret it at all. And it was more of the norm than NOT having sex.

-public HS in US

Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:35     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

No regrets. I was 17.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2020 18:33     Subject: If you had sex in high school...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Stop promoting early sex. It’s not appropriate or good for children. They all need to wait.


Yes, that attitude is very effective.


Glamorizing it shouldn’t be the defacto way to deal with it.


Who is glamorizing anything. I think we all know first sex is always kind of a fumbling disaster.


I’m sorry it was that way for you! I didn’t feel that way about it at the time and no amount of subsequent experience has revised that view.

We’d messed around a lot beforehand. We knew each other’s bodies and what we liked at the time. It was great.