Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:09     Subject: Re:ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Only 5% of mistresses become wives and 60% of those end in divorce.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:09     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
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Anonymous wrote:You care too much about your ex husband


OP - Care is mighty strong. I said I felt a sting. Not that I was writhing in bed drinking tequila shots with tears soaking my pillow. I just found out today. Nearly impossible not to feel a thing about it at all. Unless, that is, you're a non-feeling person.


What stings is he is who he is not who he appeared to be.

Especially if you have kids together itbstings that your kids will deal with this forever.


OP - You are absolutely right. We do have kids. They have to deal with his nonsense far more than I do these days.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:08     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
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Anonymous wrote:It's his money if he got it in the divorce settlement. It's not yours. Whether or not he is a jerk is a different matter, but he can do what he wants with his own money.


OP - You do know that I realize all of this, right?


No, I didn't. I am PP. You said in the OP that he bought it with "my money, basically" which is incorrect.


NP. Don’t be obtuse.


It's not her money anymore. Facts are facts.


There are more facts than those you’re paying attention to. Hence my request that you not be obtuse.


They are irrelevant. He bought a ring with money given to him by OP as per court decree. OP can be as upset as she wants, and you can look for any obscurities you want, but the facts are that he bought something with his money. No further conversation necessary, unless it is with OP and a therapist.


Guess what another fact is?

No one gives a damn about your opinion, because this is an EMOTIONAL repose and EMOTIONS aren’t always validated by facts. They are, in fact, often illogical.

#FunFacts


Tell it to the therapist. Also, I think you mean "response," above.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:08     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:It's his money if he got it in the divorce settlement. It's not yours. Whether or not he is a jerk is a different matter, but he can do what he wants with his own money.


OP - You do know that I realize all of this, right?


We don't, because you just posted about feeling terrible about it. You could have just told is your ex is engaged to someone else after just 8 months. Sorry about that. Your best revenge is to live life fully.


Well, yes, I do feel terrible about handing my ex money and him running to a jewelry store to buy his mistress an engagement ring, you know, with the money I just handed him. Eight months later.


I’d be pissed too, but honestly, you have no bearing whatsoever on his ratchetness. It’s not a reflection of your value or worth. That is ALL him/her. Rise above the grime. Be thankful you can start 2020 with a clean slate. Keep your hard from being cold about this, and you will open the door to something wonderful down the road.


+1 I'm sorry, OP, that really stinks and I'd feel exactly the same way you do. Just remember this is an opportunity for you to explore completely new directions in your life.


OP - I totally agree!!
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:07     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You care too much about your ex husband


OP - Care is mighty strong. I said I felt a sting. Not that I was writhing in bed drinking tequila shots with tears soaking my pillow. I just found out today. Nearly impossible not to feel a thing about it at all. Unless, that is, you're a non-feeling person.


What stings is he is who he is not who he appeared to be.

Especially if you have kids together itbstings that your kids will deal with this forever.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:07     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's his money if he got it in the divorce settlement. It's not yours. Whether or not he is a jerk is a different matter, but he can do what he wants with his own money.


OP - You do know that I realize all of this, right?


No, I didn't. I am PP. You said in the OP that he bought it with "my money, basically" which is incorrect.


NP. Don’t be obtuse.


It's not her money anymore. Facts are facts.


There are more facts than those you’re paying attention to. Hence my request that you not be obtuse.


They are irrelevant. He bought a ring with money given to him by OP as per court decree. OP can be as upset as she wants, and you can look for any obscurities you want, but the facts are that he bought something with his money. No further conversation necessary, unless it is with OP and a therapist.


OP - A therapist?? Really?? It's not that deep. I found out today. I said it stung. How did you extract that I need therapy from that?!
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:06     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's his money if he got it in the divorce settlement. It's not yours. Whether or not he is a jerk is a different matter, but he can do what he wants with his own money.


OP - You do know that I realize all of this, right?


We don't, because you just posted about feeling terrible about it. You could have just told is your ex is engaged to someone else after just 8 months. Sorry about that. Your best revenge is to live life fully.


Well, yes, I do feel terrible about handing my ex money and him running to a jewelry store to buy his mistress an engagement ring, you know, with the money I just handed him. Eight months later.


I’d be pissed too, but honestly, you have no bearing whatsoever on his ratchetness. It’s not a reflection of your value or worth. That is ALL him/her. Rise above the grime. Be thankful you can start 2020 with a clean slate. Keep your hard from being cold about this, and you will open the door to something wonderful down the road.


+1 I'm sorry, OP, that really stinks and I'd feel exactly the same way you do. Just remember this is an opportunity for you to explore completely new directions in your life.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:06     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You care too much about your ex husband


OP - Care is mighty strong. I said I felt a sting. Not that I was writhing in bed drinking tequila shots with tears soaking my pillow. I just found out today. Nearly impossible not to feel a thing about it at all. Unless, that is, you're a non-feeling person.


Agree, OP. Your care is a reflection of you being a compassionate person. You’re human.


But eff him.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:06     Subject: Re:ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Kids not odd
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:04     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Anonymous wrote:You care too much about your ex husband


OP - Care is mighty strong. I said I felt a sting. Not that I was writhing in bed drinking tequila shots with tears soaking my pillow. I just found out today. Nearly impossible not to feel a thing about it at all. Unless, that is, you're a non-feeling person.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:03     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's his money if he got it in the divorce settlement. It's not yours. Whether or not he is a jerk is a different matter, but he can do what he wants with his own money.


OP - You do know that I realize all of this, right?


No, I didn't. I am PP. You said in the OP that he bought it with "my money, basically" which is incorrect.


NP. Don’t be obtuse.


It's not her money anymore. Facts are facts.


There are more facts than those you’re paying attention to. Hence my request that you not be obtuse.


They are irrelevant. He bought a ring with money given to him by OP as per court decree. OP can be as upset as she wants, and you can look for any obscurities you want, but the facts are that he bought something with his money. No further conversation necessary, unless it is with OP and a therapist.


Exactly,the money should be used for the odd college or something like that.

He is pathetic. But he is no longer OPs pathetic loser.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:03     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's his money if he got it in the divorce settlement. It's not yours. Whether or not he is a jerk is a different matter, but he can do what he wants with his own money.


OP - You do know that I realize all of this, right?


No, I didn't. I am PP. You said in the OP that he bought it with "my money, basically" which is incorrect.


NP. Don’t be obtuse.


It's not her money anymore. Facts are facts.


There are more facts than those you’re paying attention to. Hence my request that you not be obtuse.


They are irrelevant. He bought a ring with money given to him by OP as per court decree. OP can be as upset as she wants, and you can look for any obscurities you want, but the facts are that he bought something with his money. No further conversation necessary, unless it is with OP and a therapist.


Guess what another fact is?

No one gives a damn about your opinion, because this is an EMOTIONAL repose and EMOTIONS aren’t always validated by facts. They are, in fact, often illogical.

#FunFacts
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:02     Subject: Re:ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
It was her Money she was court ordered to give him! She earned it. Jeez lots of people who live off othernpeople’s Money don’t like to hear it’s not their money.

An inheritance was my grandparents money, now it is mine they gave me but I’m not going to pretend it was not their money.0
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:02     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Keep your **heart** From getting cold or bitter, don’t be an Elsa!
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2020 23:01     Subject: ExH bought former mistress/now gf ring with divorce settlement
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's his money if he got it in the divorce settlement. It's not yours. Whether or not he is a jerk is a different matter, but he can do what he wants with his own money.


OP - You do know that I realize all of this, right?


No, I didn't. I am PP. You said in the OP that he bought it with "my money, basically" which is incorrect.


NP. Don’t be obtuse.


It's not her money anymore. Facts are facts.


There are more facts than those you’re paying attention to. Hence my request that you not be obtuse.


They are irrelevant. He bought a ring with money given to him by OP as per court decree. OP can be as upset as she wants, and you can look for any obscurities you want, but the facts are that he bought something with his money. No further conversation necessary, unless it is with OP and a therapist.