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Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This is where I am at (JCrew seems like a splurge now that we have 2 kids) and we have a HHI over $500k. How much do you have to make to dress like that? Or do most of you not have kids?

I’m the person who posted this originally. Our combined HHI is about $110k. I am really careful about putting money in my retirement fund, but am guessing you put much more away if we shop the same way by you make over four times when I do.

If I made $500k, I would absolutely be able to shop in different stores. I’d probably still shop at J. Crew...but I wouldn’t have to wait and hope someone I liked would still be around in my size once it was marked down!

Anonymous wrote:Land Rover.

do you live in the Scottish highlands? Otherwise driving around a large urban city in a Land Rover is silly looking

Land Rover.

I think my life might end before I buy a $2500 handbag.

I have to agree about Mercedes. Ours just won’t die.

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Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This is where I am at (JCrew seems like a splurge now that we have 2 kids) and we have a HHI over $500k. How much do you have to make to dress like that? Or do most of you not have kids?

How is that possible - how much do you spend on childcare and mortgage? We make a little less than you, mortgage is $800k and childcare about $50k but certainly j crew doesn’t feel like a splurge!

Mortgage is $500k, childcare is $15k, I don’t know, I just feel like designer clothes seem so out of our range! I think we would have to have millions banked, college fully loaded, etc before I could justify buying a $2500 bag or $900 shoes!

You’re either saving a TON or your spending it on stuff other than clothing.

We make a similar HHI, save a lot , and I probably spend $10-15k a year on designer clothing. Plus another $2-3k in shoes. I simply value dressing well and looking out together.

I think we would just have to have all savings goals reached before considering spending money like that on clothes. For what it’s worth, I think it’s still possible to dress nice on a JCrew level clothing budget. Will people think you’re rich? no, probably not. Will it fit as nice? I would love that but I guess with two young kids it just doesn’t make sense right now.. a lot of my clothes get stained and ruined from the kids spilling on me. I just can’t imagine spending $18k a year on clothes for myself. That sounds absolutely amazing!

Most of our friends are in a similar income bracket and buy similar prices points as JCrew (on sale!) with some contemporary (usually nicer jeans or coat) mixed in or maybe one splurge bag a year. The only people I personally know that dress in mostly designer are making 7 figure incomes, have major family money .. so I don’t think I’m the only one who feels that is out of range on our HHI.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This is where I am at (JCrew seems like a splurge now that we have 2 kids) and we have a HHI over $500k. How much do you have to make to dress like that? Or do most of you not have kids?

How is that possible - how much do you spend on childcare and mortgage? We make a little less than you, mortgage is $800k and childcare about $50k but certainly j crew doesn’t feel like a splurge!

Mortgage is $500k, childcare is $15k, I don’t know, I just feel like designer clothes seem so out of our range! I think we would have to have millions banked, college fully loaded, etc before I could justify buying a $2500 bag or $900 shoes!

You’re either saving a TON or your spending it on stuff other than clothing.

We make a similar HHI, save a lot , and I probably spend $10-15k a year on designer clothing. Plus another $2-3k in shoes. I simply value dressing well and looking out together.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This is where I am at (JCrew seems like a splurge now that we have 2 kids) and we have a HHI over $500k. How much do you have to make to dress like that? Or do most of you not have kids?

How is that possible - how much do you spend on childcare and mortgage? We make a little less than you, mortgage is $800k and childcare about $50k but certainly j crew doesn’t feel like a splurge!

Mortgage is $500k, childcare is $15k, I don’t know, I just feel like designer clothes seem so out of our range! I think we would have to have millions banked, college fully loaded, etc before I could justify buying a $2500 bag or $900 shoes!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This is where I am at (JCrew seems like a splurge now that we have 2 kids) and we have a HHI over $500k. How much do you have to make to dress like that? Or do most of you not have kids?

How is that possible - how much do you spend on childcare and mortgage? We make a little less than you, mortgage is $800k and childcare about $50k but certainly j crew doesn’t feel like a splurge!

PP, I want to add.. I dream of the day I can just walk into Bottega Veneta and buy a bag. I lived in Rome as a poor grad student for 2 years and would return and shop, just seems like with college to save for, mortgage..retirement.. it just doesn’t seem like we will ever get there. I just don’t know how people afford designer bags and clothes.

Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This is where I am at (JCrew seems like a splurge now that we have 2 kids) and we have a HHI over $500k. How much do you have to make to dress like that? Or do most of you not have kids?

Anonymous wrote:If I could afford it, I'd wear Armani all the time.

Me, too. And Yamamoto.

Anonymous wrote:What I love and what I can afford are very different things!

My taste is pretty simple and classic. I appreciate it when people take interesting risks, but they aren’t for me, personally. I would love to be able to wear Max Mara or Burberry. I’ve always admired Bottega Veneta leather bags. Todd’s driving mocs. Chanel ballet flats. Hermès anything.

I can afford J. Crew. On sale.

I have an Hermès scarf that a relative gave me years ago. Anytime I take it out and try to wear it, I feel foolish and fold it back up and out it away. Putting it on a tote from the Tory outlet doesn’t seem right and goodness knows it looks lame with my J. Crew dresses.

This makes me so sad! You clearly have great taste. Wear that scarf, dear, just put on some great stud earrings, a turleneck and jeans and flats, and a great lipstick, that scarf is the perfect addition. Could be for a dinner party or a date. Don't try to overdress it up with a dress + scarf. Winter is the perfect time for your lovely present!