Anonymous wrote:

If he wants/needs to be doing that, he can manage it in ten minutes in the morning, or take as long as he’d like at night

Gross

Leave him be. He's solving the problem, in the shower, the best be knows how.

I don’t see how my comment is any more gross than the fact it is happening in the first place. And his “solving” his problem is creating another problem for the whole house.

If this was happening at night, aside from wasting water, it would be much less of an issue.

If he wants/needs to be doing that, he can manage it in ten minutes in the morning, or take as long as he’d like at night

Gross

Leave him be. He's solving the problem, in the shower, the best be knows how.

This is very simple. Tell him how long he has. Set a timer for him. Tell him if the shower is still running afte 10 mins you are coming in. He will sort it. Also you could just stand outside the door singing show tunes which would ruin any masturbating OR could create weird sexual feelings about Broadway. I know it is frustrating but there is no reason to make this into WWIII ! Of all the things teens and frankly people can do to you this is pretty benign keep it in perspective.

Anonymous wrote:OP - you DO know what he's doing in there, right? You want him doing it there, not somewhere else. Get a much bigger water heater. Others take their showers some other time.

Of course I know.

And, the issue is not the size of the water heater, or others taking their showers at another time. If he wants/needs to be doing that, he can manage it in ten minutes in the morning, or take as long as he’d like at night.

OP - you DO know what he's doing in there, right? You want him doing it there, not somewhere else. Get a much bigger water heater. Others take their showers some other time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see the problem. I have five kids. They are all 18 and older. You are the parent. Tell him he has ten minutes to shower in the morning. If he stays in longer, you punish. Take his car, phone, computer.....whatever works...for the rest of the day. Your house, your rules.

A parent with common sense! This is a rare find on DCUM.

OP here.

I agree with this, in theory.

And we, as a collective, have been watered down in our ability to parent. We are counseled to sit them down, have a conversation, discuss consequences, give them a voice, etc., etc. etc.

So...

Discuss/negotiate/enforce boundaries? Or just punish?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see the problem. I have five kids. They are all 18 and older. You are the parent. Tell him he has ten minutes to shower in the morning. If he stays in longer, you punish. Take his car, phone, computer.....whatever works...for the rest of the day. Your house, your rules.

Seriously. Some of these suggestions are beyond. Taking the lock off the bathroom door? Embarrassing the kid about masturbation?

Be a parent.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see the problem. I have five kids. They are all 18 and older. You are the parent. Tell him he has ten minutes to shower in the morning. If he stays in longer, you punish. Take his car, phone, computer.....whatever works...for the rest of the day. Your house, your rules.

A parent with common sense! This is a rare find on DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see the problem. I have five kids. They are all 18 and older. You are the parent. Tell him he has ten minutes to shower in the morning. If he stays in longer, you punish. Take his car, phone, computer.....whatever works...for the rest of the day. Your house, your rules.

Seriously! This is the answer, mom.

I don’t see the problem. I have five kids. They are all 18 and older. You are the parent. Tell him he has ten minutes to shower in the morning. If he stays in longer, you punish. Take his car, phone, computer.....whatever works...for the rest of the day. Your house, your rules.

Take the lock off the bathroom door. It will probably solve the problem immediately.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you have another shower or two? Why do you have to wait? We have 3 and 3 people can take shower at the same time.

Or simply, "3 people can take a shower at the same time."

That works too!

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you have another shower or two? Why do you have to wait? We have 3 and 3 people can take shower at the same time.

Or simply, "3 people can take a shower at the same time."

Don’t you have another shower or two? Why do you have to wait? We have 3 and 3 people can take shower at the same time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not a troll. I have this issue too. My husband takes 45 min showers. He could care less that my hair and makeup melt when I’m getting ready or that there isn’t enough hot water for others.Selfish. I’m resentful.

That is beyond. He needs to grow the eff up.

No one in this world needs a 45 minute shower.

Agreed, but my husband is the same. He just loves being in warm water, whether it's a tropical beach, swimming pool, sauna, or simply the daily shower...

That's fine.

And, environmental considerations aside, I hope yours has the executive skills and level of respect necessary to not do so when there is a line of others waiting behind him to shower.