Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 14:49     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH gets so frustrated with me over a similar issue - that I get the mat wet while drying off after a shower (in the bathroom). I guess he thinks I should dry off IN the shower?


My husband has asked me multiple times to dry off in the shower.


Pp here - Don’t you agree that it is hard to get effectively dry while you were still in the shower? I don’t know why I have such an issue with this, LOL

I also have long hair so I step out before wrapping that in a turban towel


It's really not hard at all. PP gave step by step directions for anyone who can't envision it.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 14:41     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
If he's going to act like an animal, tell him to shake it off like a dog in the shower to at least cut down on some of the dripping.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 14:39     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Get him some nice terry cloth towel slippers for when he steps out of the shower.

The water will dry. He isn’t going to start wiping down dry now after making it this long in life otherwise.


This would be a good solution but it’s not just his feet that are wet. His whole body is dripping water. I guess I could wear the slippers to avoid my feet/socks getting wet but it just seems like one of those things that is so easy to avoid by just drying off in the bathroom. It’s not like it saves him time to dry off outside of the bathroom rather than in the bathroom.

He told me that me leaving dishes in the sink to soak rather than washing them off and putting them right into the dishwasher annoyed him so I stopped doing it. It took a little time to make the adjustment but I did it. This is more of a pattern for him—he decides it’s just my issue so he shouldn’t have to change to accommodate. He does the same thing with his snoring. He refuses to go to a doctor or try an over the counter remedy or go to another room. He says the snoring doesn’t bother him so if it bothers me I should sleep in another room or wear ear plugs. So even though this is about a wet carpet it’s not really just about a wet carpet. -OP


Sorry, you're married to an *sshole, OP. Not sure there's a solution to that.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 14:35     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH gets so frustrated with me over a similar issue - that I get the mat wet while drying off after a shower (in the bathroom). I guess he thinks I should dry off IN the shower?


My husband has asked me multiple times to dry off in the shower.


Pp here - Don’t you agree that it is hard to get effectively dry while you were still in the shower? I don’t know why I have such an issue with this, LOL

I also have long hair so I step out before wrapping that in a turban towel
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 14:24     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
Anonymous wrote:

This would be a non issue if DH would take 2 minutes to dry off with the towel in the bathroom instead of in the bedroom.


It would also be a nonissue if you put on shoes or slippers after putting on socks when he is showering. There really is more than one way to solve the problem. You want him to change when it would be just as easy for you to take steps to prevent your feet from getting wet. And if you asked him and he’s not changing then your only option is to change your behavior by either not getting irritated by wet feet or by taking action that keeps your feet from getting wet.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 13:05     Subject: Re:DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
That's pretty gross and weird.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 13:01     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
The real issue is why doesn't he respect your very reasonable request.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 12:39     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
If he won’t do this small thing for you, your marriage is not going to last. Don’t have children with a selfish man.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 08:54     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
My DH likes to roll around on the soft bedroom carpet to dry off. Just like a dog.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 08:39     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
He sounds like a slob. Why wouldn’t he at least mostly dry himself off either in the shower or while standing on the mat? In any case, you should just start wearing slippers. He’s not going to break this habit now.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 08:17     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
Anonymous wrote:My DH gets so frustrated with me over a similar issue - that I get the mat wet while drying off after a shower (in the bathroom). I guess he thinks I should dry off IN the shower?


My husband has asked me multiple times to dry off in the shower.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 08:00     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Get him some nice terry cloth towel slippers for when he steps out of the shower.

The water will dry. He isn’t going to start wiping down dry now after making it this long in life otherwise.


This would be a good solution but it’s not just his feet that are wet. His whole body is dripping water. I guess I could wear the slippers to avoid my feet/socks getting wet but it just seems like one of those things that is so easy to avoid by just drying off in the bathroom. It’s not like it saves him time to dry off outside of the bathroom rather than in the bathroom.

He told me that me leaving dishes in the sink to soak rather than washing them off and putting them right into the dishwasher annoyed him so I stopped doing it. It took a little time to make the adjustment but I did it. This is more of a pattern for him—he decides it’s just my issue so he shouldn’t have to change to accommodate. He does the same thing with his snoring. He refuses to go to a doctor or try an over the counter remedy or go to another room. He says the snoring doesn’t bother him so if it bothers me I should sleep in another room or wear ear plugs. So even though this is about a wet carpet it’s not really just about a wet carpet. -OP


So he’s rigid and controlling. Do you guys have kids? If not (but if you’re planning to), I would try to work through this behavior with him in marriage counseling before having kids. This kind of behavior will get worse rather than better otherwise, and can escalate into abuse, especially once children are in the picture (since they are more unpredictable and he will have a harder time controlling a baby’s behavior, routines, etc.).


Yes, we have one elementary school aged child. It was difficult for DH to adjust, but no abusive behavior. We were in counseling when the child was a toddler. -OP
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 07:45     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Get him some nice terry cloth towel slippers for when he steps out of the shower.

The water will dry. He isn’t going to start wiping down dry now after making it this long in life otherwise.


This would be a good solution but it’s not just his feet that are wet. His whole body is dripping water. I guess I could wear the slippers to avoid my feet/socks getting wet but it just seems like one of those things that is so easy to avoid by just drying off in the bathroom. It’s not like it saves him time to dry off outside of the bathroom rather than in the bathroom.

He told me that me leaving dishes in the sink to soak rather than washing them off and putting them right into the dishwasher annoyed him so I stopped doing it. It took a little time to make the adjustment but I did it. This is more of a pattern for him—he decides it’s just my issue so he shouldn’t have to change to accommodate. He does the same thing with his snoring. He refuses to go to a doctor or try an over the counter remedy or go to another room. He says the snoring doesn’t bother him so if it bothers me I should sleep in another room or wear ear plugs. So even though this is about a wet carpet it’s not really just about a wet carpet. -OP


OH your husband is an asshole. If you don't have kids, you can quickly fix this issue.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 07:39     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
Does he have long hair? I don’t understand how he’s that wet? Dh steps out into the mat, dries off for 10 seconds and is nearly all dry. Same with my sons who don’t have hair. Where is the water coming from?

Do you have a bath mat down? Also make him bring his clothes into the bathroom so he has to change in there. We all dress in the bathroom after showering. It’s too cold to walk around
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2019 07:23     Subject: DH won’t dry off in the bathroom (wet carpet)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH gets so frustrated with me over a similar issue - that I get the mat wet while drying off after a shower (in the bathroom). I guess he thinks I should dry off IN the shower?


Ideally, yes. Get most of the water off IN the shower. Towel down on the mat. Only then should you leave the bathroom to go elsewhere.


but how can you feel at all dry when you're still in the damp freezing shower? And won't your wet feet still make prints on the mat? What am I missing, LOL

It's not freezing, it's still warm because the bathroom is still warm with the door closed.
Instructions: Dry off body while standing in tub, leaving only wet feet. Life one foot, place on edge of tub, dry it off and place it outside the tub. Lift the remaining foot that is in the tub onto the edge of the tub, dry it off, and place it next to the foot on the outside of the tub. Now you are dry and there is no water anywhere. I have taught this to my boys from their first showers and I expect my future DIL to be appreciative!


Pp here - I see what you’re saying except for our shower is separate from the tub. Just a glass door.


NP. Extrapolate a little here. As you step out, lift your foot high enough to dry with the towel then place it outside the shower. Do the same when you lift the second foot. It’s not hard or complicated.