Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 22:31     Subject: Re:Has your elderly mother become a trouble maker/drama starter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? You are recommending Grey Rock as a strategy for someone with dementia and you're proudly bragging about using it as a strategy with your 90+ year old parents? That's horrible.

I hope that someday your children treat you the way you're treating your parents. You deserve it.


Not the poster you are responding to, but I don't think you get it. It's about being able to maintain a relationship and not set off tantrums. It's highly compatible with what experts say to do with dementia cases where there is extreme anxiety and irritability. You avoid setting them off by sticking to what some consider boring topics, but a person who can only live in the moment might appreciate. Don't talk about deep things. Stick to "beautiful weather. Let me take you outside to see the lovely clouds." "I like the colors in that wallpaper!"




I don't think you know what the GREY ROCK therapy and actions really are, and what one hopes to achieve in the application.

-Therapist
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 20:46     Subject: Re:Has your elderly mother become a trouble maker/drama starter
Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? You are recommending Grey Rock as a strategy for someone with dementia and you're proudly bragging about using it as a strategy with your 90+ year old parents? That's horrible.

I hope that someday your children treat you the way you're treating your parents. You deserve it.


Not the poster you are responding to, but I don't think you get it. It's about being able to maintain a relationship and not set off tantrums. It's highly compatible with what experts say to do with dementia cases where there is extreme anxiety and irritability. You avoid setting them off by sticking to what some consider boring topics, but a person who can only live in the moment might appreciate. Don't talk about deep things. Stick to "beautiful weather. Let me take you outside to see the lovely clouds." "I like the colors in that wallpaper!"
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 18:48     Subject: Re:Has your elderly mother become a trouble maker/drama starter
Are you serious? You are recommending Grey Rock as a strategy for someone with dementia and you're proudly bragging about using it as a strategy with your 90+ year old parents? That's horrible.

I hope that someday your children treat you the way you're treating your parents. You deserve it.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 16:10     Subject: Has your elderly mother become a trouble maker/drama starter
Anonymous wrote:Grey Rock google it. It’s what I’m doing with my parents, 92 and 90 right ow. I have great sympathy for those posters who are dealing with these issues.. please don’t judge




Yep. I do the same thing. It works! Yes, no judging people dealing with this. Just support to anyone in our shoes!
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 10:12     Subject: Has your elderly mother become a trouble maker/drama starter
Grey Rock google it. It’s what I’m doing with my parents, 92 and 90 right ow. I have great sympathy for those posters who are dealing with these issues.. please don’t judge


Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 09:52     Subject: Has your elderly mother become a trouble maker/drama starter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: She used to be drama avoidant with just the occasional flare up with stress. Now she seems to attempt to stir the pot for no reason. I see through it and back away, but my siblings get sucked into it and even though I point it out they cannot seem to grasp she changed. I wonder if this is an early sign of dementia. She had a checkup 6 months ago and no red flags for other issues came up.


I would have her screened by a neurologist for FTD or other dementia’s starting with a neuro quant brain MRI-not a standard brain MRI.


I would love to and have been pushing for this. Siblings won't support me because they don't want to deal with her wrath so they just go along with her delusions that she is fine. I wanted to go the PCP route and clue her/him in so the person makes a referral, but could not find out who mom's PCP is and she had the checkup 6 months ago.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 08:44     Subject: Has your elderly mother become a trouble maker/drama starter
Anonymous wrote: She used to be drama avoidant with just the occasional flare up with stress. Now she seems to attempt to stir the pot for no reason. I see through it and back away, but my siblings get sucked into it and even though I point it out they cannot seem to grasp she changed. I wonder if this is an early sign of dementia. She had a checkup 6 months ago and no red flags for other issues came up.


I would have her screened by a neurologist for FTD or other dementia’s starting with a neuro quant brain MRI-not a standard brain MRI.