Anonymous wrote:I have younger kids but is it normal for 15-year-olds to be very sexually active with multiple partners at this age? I heard some kids who have already had sex with 5-6 different partners by 15.

If you don’t want your kids getting their freak on at age 15 you don’t have to accept the idea just cause it’s “normal”.
Who gives a shit if it’s normal or not? Question is do do you wanna be a grandma at 40 with both your kid and your grandkid living in your basement?

Hello!! I am 17, and just for fun, I like to read what parents think about us. For the first time decided to respond. To be honest, it's not uncommon to have a 15yr old sexually active, especially for boys some I know started at 12. I would be more shock if you tell me you are a 19-year-old boy and a virgin than you are 16 and had sex. However, DO NOT be it's NORMAL, because I don't believe at such a young age you are mature enough to have consensual sex, and with multiple partners. Just make sure you set boundaries, and TALK & LISTEN to your kids. You can't just be don't do that, you gonna end up preggo and then work at 7/11 to pay for child support, or have STDs. You need to conversate and explain to them the danger of having an active sexual life, especially with multiple people at a young age. Talk to them about contraceptives and please talk to them about RESPECT AND CONSENSUAL SEX no is no.

FYI: Kids aren't innocent, some probably know more stuff than you can imagine

-MKK

Anonymous wrote:No. Studying for SAT and 3 APs. No time for this nonsense.

Who are these children? Are parents in the sex industry?

Wait till your daughter gets to college.

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Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the kids. My DD is 16.5 and is friends with a big group of boys and girls. No one in that friend group is having sex or dating.

That's funny. How would you ever know? And please don't tell me your DD tells you everything. You WERE once that age.

Of course her DD might 1) but know what her friends are up to or 2) not be sharing with her mom. However, given that 40% of American teens graduate high school as virgins, her claim is not outlandish. I do think the peer group matters and if your friends are having sex, there is a better than average chance you aren’t having sex either.

How do you know? I had friends in high school that were very sexually active with hook ups, ones that had sex only with boy friends, ones who hadn’t yet and ones who were waiting for marriage. We all hung out and didn’t judge each other. We were all the “good kids” in honors classes and involved in sports. We certainly weren’t talking to our parents about what we were and weren’t doing.

I went to one of the 3 the most selective elite colleges in the country. Many of the frosh had sex before arriving on campus. All of us managed to ace a challenging courseload in high school and kick butt on the SAT while also having a normal adolescence.

"No. Studying for SAT and 3 APs. No time for this nonsense.

Who are these children? Are parents in the sex industry?"

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Anonymous wrote:Promiscuity is one indicator of abuse, but it’s not a direct correlation.

I did not have sex until I was 20, with a steady partner. My first memory of sexual abuse is roughly around age 8. My coping methods included extremely loose, layered clothing, binding my chest, anything to detract from my appearance.

My sister was not abused, I made sure the attention was directed my way, and she never knew about it until we were both mid-20s. She was very promiscuous, starting at 13, first threesome at 14 and I lost track of the number of her partners by 15. She doesn’t regret most of it, but while it may have been an indicator for someone else, it wasn’t for her.

Just so you know, when kids grow up in homes with a sexually abused sibling, there’s often a correlation of sexual promiscuity in the other children.

Yeah, there are different kinds of “knowing.” It’s also possible that your sister was abused and she didn’t tell you because you took such pains to protect her and she didn’t want you to think you’d failed. I wouldn’t rule out the possibility that your abuse also affected your sister. Kids can react in very different ways to difficult situations growing up.

Anonymous wrote:Promiscuity is one indicator of abuse, but it’s not a direct correlation.

I did not have sex until I was 20, with a steady partner. My first memory of sexual abuse is roughly around age 8. My coping methods included extremely loose, layered clothing, binding my chest, anything to detract from my appearance.

My sister was not abused, I made sure the attention was directed my way, and she never knew about it until we were both mid-20s. She was very promiscuous, starting at 13, first threesome at 14 and I lost track of the number of her partners by 15. She doesn’t regret most of it, but while it may have been an indicator for someone else, it wasn’t for her.

Just so you know, when kids grow up in homes with a sexually abused sibling, there’s often a correlation of sexual promiscuity in the other children.

Anonymous wrote:No. Studying for SAT and 3 APs. No time for this nonsense.

Who are these children? Are parents in the sex industry?

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I’m the poster right after you. I think you might be naive. Plenty of very smart kids are having sex at 16.

Well, as a boy mom I wasn’t sure my information was accurate. A lot of boys can exaggerate on that front still. However, I have several friends with daughters and 15 is often the age things begin to happen with boys sexually. There’s a lot more oral sex in this generation and it’s all pretty casual. The moms I know are making sure their girls are covered on the pregnancy side via IUD and the pill. My sons report that their demographic is definitely using condoms too. Do at least that’s good news. But, I would say it appears there’s a fair amount of casual sex starting around 16. In terms of demographics. NW DC, affluent, educated families, mainly private school kids. I’d say most parents I know have worked hard to educate their kids and have really emphasized consent and protection.

No. Studying for SAT and 3 APs. No time for this nonsense.

Who are these children? Are parents in the sex industry?

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Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the kids. My DD is 16.5 and is friends with a big group of boys and girls. No one in that friend group is having sex or dating.

That's funny. How would you ever know? And please don't tell me your DD tells you everything. You WERE once that age.

Of course her DD might 1) but know what her friends are up to or 2) not be sharing with her mom. However, given that 40% of American teens graduate high school as virgins, her claim is not outlandish. I do think the peer group matters and if your friends are having sex, there is a better than average chance you aren’t having sex either.

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Anonymous wrote:The assertion that a 15-yr-old girl who has intercourse is a victim doesn't seem to fit with the data. According to the Guttmacher data, 45% of girls report that the intercourse was something they wanted. Only 4% report that the intercourse was not wanted. 51% reported having mixed feelings.

A 15-year-old cannot legally give consent in many states. The fact it "was something they wanted" is irrelevant. "Consent' is not a defense to statutory rape.

https://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/statutory-rape-the-age-of-consent.html

Nobody prosecutes a 15yo boy when his 15yo partner consented...

Promiscuity is one indicator of abuse, but it’s not a direct correlation.

I did not have sex until I was 20, with a steady partner. My first memory of sexual abuse is roughly around age 8. My coping methods included extremely loose, layered clothing, binding my chest, anything to detract from my appearance.

My sister was not abused, I made sure the attention was directed my way, and she never knew about it until we were both mid-20s. She was very promiscuous, starting at 13, first threesome at 14 and I lost track of the number of her partners by 15. She doesn’t regret most of it, but while it may have been an indicator for someone else, it wasn’t for her.

Who said these 45% of girls who chose to have sex did so with partners who were adults? Get a clue. They're having sex with boys.

Anonymous wrote:The assertion that a 15-yr-old girl who has intercourse is a victim doesn't seem to fit with the data. According to the Guttmacher data, 45% of girls report that the intercourse was something they wanted. Only 4% report that the intercourse was not wanted. 51% reported having mixed feelings.

A 15-year-old cannot legally give consent in many states. The fact it "was something they wanted" is irrelevant. "Consent' is not a defense to statutory rape.

https://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/statutory-rape-the-age-of-consent.html