Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think this is really nice of you. My brother is divorced with one child and lives across the country, and every Christmas I am so sad that he has nothing to open under the tree. His ex has never had their daughter buy him a present.

Most adult men don’t care about gifts. He’s fine. He may miss his kids but that’s a different thing.

They're still going to notice if they (a) don't get a gift, or (b) get a shitty low-effort gift supposedly from the kids but that is really the XW's petty way of giving him the finger.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he is truly a SBXH, dont get him a damn thing.

Have the kids make him a card and leave it at that.

You are a garbage human being.

And you are teaching your kids that you are garbage. Believe me, they're going to notice.

Considering you just called strangers garbage, your opinion doesn’t hold a ton of weight with me. In fact- hiding behind anonymity while calling others names is exactly the sort of things my ex would do. He doesn’t get a gift- see- abusive people who would call other humans “garbage” are the kind who think because they shot a load some years back, they deserve a lifetime of reverence. I disagree and I won’t help groom my children for abuse from others by teaching them to “buy” gifts they don’t mean.

I don't need to know anything about the first PP to know that their behavior is garbage. Their behavior speaks for itself. If that's you, then you have further affirmed your status as garbage with your garbage rationalizing of your garbage behavior.

If you were not garbage you might understand that this is not about you, and your vast reservoir of spite for your XH. This is about your kids, and whatever you might think about him, they deserve to have a good relationship with him. It is not "grooming them for abuse" to do that. Nor are they "buying gifts they don't mean". The kids genuinely do want to give their dad a present.

Now go away until you've learned to be a better person.

Anonymous wrote:get him some toiletries and a jar of tomato sauce

This is funny!

Shopping locations for inexpensive and/or cool gifts for dad, ex or otherwise (yes please help the kids thru the mess caused by the adults):
National Building Museum gift shop (right across from Judiciary Square Metro)
Marshall’s, (there’s one near Friendship Heights metro)
Craft sale every evening downtown, across from Gallery Place Metro/CapOne Arena

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think this is really nice of you. My brother is divorced with one child and lives across the country, and every Christmas I am so sad that he has nothing to open under the tree. His ex has never had their daughter buy him a present.

Most adult men don’t care about gifts. He’s fine. He may miss his kids but that’s a different thing.

Not sure where you are, but Frying Pan Park in Herndon does this but you are too late. You send the kids into the Country Store without you and a helper assists them. They have a bunch of other stuff going on, so next year you can make a day of it. The kids love doing this. My son got his dad a cute coffee mug and honey.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he is truly a SBXH, dont get him a damn thing.

Have the kids make him a card and leave it at that.

You are a garbage human being.

And you are teaching your kids that you are garbage. Believe me, they're going to notice.

+1 They will. Kids that age know that the purpose of gifting is to find something the other person will enjoy.

Op, be a good person and you will raise good kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he is truly a SBXH, dont get him a damn thing.

Have the kids make him a card and leave it at that.

You are a garbage human being.

And you are teaching your kids that you are garbage. Believe me, they're going to notice.

Considering you just called strangers garbage, your opinion doesn’t hold a ton of weight with me. In fact- hiding behind anonymity while calling others names is exactly the sort of things my ex would do. He doesn’t get a gift- see- abusive people who would call other humans “garbage” are the kind who think because they shot a load some years back, they deserve a lifetime of reverence. I disagree and I won’t help groom my children for abuse from others by teaching them to “buy” gifts they don’t mean.