Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 14:48     Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:As a male married 22 years I’m happy to have sex 2-3 times a week and that takes up about 1 or 2 hours in a week. There are 168 hours in a week, less 50 hours for sleeping for a net of 118 hours less 60 hours for working/commuting for a net, net of 58 hours. So I’ve got 58 hours of available family time and sex only takes up 1-2 hours. There is a ton I want in the other 56 hours - if I’m not happy and enjoying myself with my wife and children for many of those hours sex for 1-2 hours is not going to make up for it. Yes, those 2 hours are great but if the other 54 hours suck my life will not be good. Fortunately I have a wonderful wife and great but at times challenging children so those other hours make for a very happy life. And, those happy other hours make the 1-2 hours of sex even better.

So no, men do not only want one thing.


Take that 1-2 hours of sex out of your week and in the other 166 hours in the week you will not be happy at all.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 14:48     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It is part of toxic masculinity.


What’s toxic about wanting sex?


Nothing is toxic about wanting sex. What is toxic is perpetuating the notion that men only want sex. The message this sends to boys and young men and the pressure it puts them under is toxic.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 14:47     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They want one thing, which is to be satisfied by someone else - through sex, food, attention/caring. Women do not have the same drive for any of that.
yes, we do.


I have a secret for the men who think women aren't into sex: It's not that we're not into sex. It's that we're not into sex with YOU.


It's not a secret. It's just that a lot of men are in denial about it.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 14:45     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman but I know my husband would say it's false. He and his brothers also want somebody to talk to, an equal partner in a relationship, somebody they can admire as far as work and ambition (even if that's just being a stay at home mom), somebody who is a good enough mom to their kids, and of course they want to be good people themselves and provide their wives with what their wives need need. And of course they want financial success, fun hobbies, kids, friends, all that. Yes, lots of sex is something they want but it's just one of many things.

I think men who think that men only want one thing and that's sex are emotionally stunted and need therapy.


If he's not getting sex, all those other good things are going to pale into insignificance, and yes, he will start looking for ways to get sex elsewhere.

Women who think sex is not necessary to a successful marriage are stunted and need therapy.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 14:43     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're an abject failure if you've made it to adulthood and believe that men don't need emotional support or close bonds.


I believe many men would say I can get that from somebody other than a wife or a significant other.


Maybe, but what's the point of being married to her if she's not giving that to you?
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 14:41     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If they're getting that thing, they also want other stuff. If they aren't getting that thing, the other stuff becomes less of a priority.


Same with women. If they are getting the other stuff..he'll get "that thing"!


Nah, some women set the bar too damn high.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 14:18     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:If they're getting that thing, they also want other stuff. If they aren't getting that thing, the other stuff becomes less of a priority.


Same with women. If they are getting the other stuff..he'll get "that thing"!
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 14:10     Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:As a male married 22 years I’m happy to have sex 2-3 times a week and that takes up about 1 or 2 hours in a week. There are 168 hours in a week, less 50 hours for sleeping for a net of 118 hours less 60 hours for working/commuting for a net, net of 58 hours. So I’ve got 58 hours of available family time and sex only takes up 1-2 hours. There is a ton I want in the other 56 hours - if I’m not happy and enjoying myself with my wife and children for many of those hours sex for 1-2 hours is not going to make up for it. Yes, those 2 hours are great but if the other 54 hours suck my life will not be good. Fortunately I have a wonderful wife and great but at times challenging children so those other hours make for a very happy life. And, those happy other hours make the 1-2 hours of sex even better.

So no, men do not only want one thing.


I think you’re a unicorn on this site.

I typically hear the opposite on this forum: sex makes those other 50 something hours better. Conclusion is that sex is the most important for men. I also hear that most men cheat, regardless of whether he has sex at home. Again, conclusion is that sex is the most important thing to a man.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 13:54     Subject: Re:Men only want one thing
As a male married 22 years I’m happy to have sex 2-3 times a week and that takes up about 1 or 2 hours in a week. There are 168 hours in a week, less 50 hours for sleeping for a net of 118 hours less 60 hours for working/commuting for a net, net of 58 hours. So I’ve got 58 hours of available family time and sex only takes up 1-2 hours. There is a ton I want in the other 56 hours - if I’m not happy and enjoying myself with my wife and children for many of those hours sex for 1-2 hours is not going to make up for it. Yes, those 2 hours are great but if the other 54 hours suck my life will not be good. Fortunately I have a wonderful wife and great but at times challenging children so those other hours make for a very happy life. And, those happy other hours make the 1-2 hours of sex even better.

So no, men do not only want one thing.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 13:54     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They want one thing, which is to be satisfied by someone else - through sex, food, attention/caring. Women do not have the same drive for any of that.
yes, we do.


I have a secret for the men who think women aren't into sex: It's not that we're not into sex. It's that we're not into sex with YOU.


you realize that you're mostly a bunch of women talking about what men want, and you're arguing with each other


So why don’t you post?
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 13:36     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They want one thing, which is to be satisfied by someone else - through sex, food, attention/caring. Women do not have the same drive for any of that.
yes, we do.


I have a secret for the men who think women aren't into sex: It's not that we're not into sex. It's that we're not into sex with YOU.


you realize that you're mostly a bunch of women talking about what men want, and you're arguing with each other


And you know that how? Most of the posters don't identify their gender.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 13:35     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They want one thing, which is to be satisfied by someone else - through sex, food, attention/caring. Women do not have the same drive for any of that.
yes, we do.


I have a secret for the men who think women aren't into sex: It's not that we're not into sex. It's that we're not into sex with YOU.


you realize that you're mostly a bunch of women talking about what men want, and you're arguing with each other
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 13:15     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They want one thing, which is to be satisfied by someone else - through sex, food, attention/caring. Women do not have the same drive for any of that.
yes, we do.


I have a secret for the men who think women aren't into sex: It's not that we're not into sex. It's that we're not into sex with YOU.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 13:00     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:Usually, but not always, men want to be able to take their penis out of their pants.


That's why ED is a woman's best friend!
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2019 13:00     Subject: Men only want one thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't know...my husband likes sandwiches too.

So maybe they want two things.


and if he could never eat a sandwich ever again?


And not the same sandwich. Every day. Until he dies.


That's fine then don't get married.