Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 13:15     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had great talks with my dad when he'd drive me to school. He taught me more about periods than my mom ever did. He gave me work advice. I listened to music I liked.

I arrived at school calm and confident.

Hopefully my dad appreciated the time he spent with me also.


Your dad talked to you about your periods?


I was dying to know if anyone besides me read this and thought it was wierd!!!


Mine took the opportunity during a long drive to inform me that when I left home (I was 17 at the time, and this was when many states had 18 year old drinking age--"we can die in viet nam but can't have a beer?" rationale) and went out with a guy, always make sure he was one drink ahead of me because guys lose the ability to have sex but girls lose the ability to prevent guys from attempting it.




Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 13:13     Subject: Re:Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:Your youngest is a Junior in high school. You lost this battle five or ten years ago. Yes, your wife is ridiculous, but unless you can build a time machine you need to let it go!


It can still be fought.

Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 13:11     Subject: Re:Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:Your wife has control issues.

The kids will be fine.


+1
Why does she insist? Because she doesn't mind and likes it?
If there are no safety issues (bus is actually safer, less pollution, more peer boding, etc), and you do mind the drive - your days, the kids take the bus.
Your wife's arbitrary rules doesn't apply to everyone, if she doesn't get that, that's your biggest problem.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 13:04     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
You sound very weak-willed and whiny. If you don't want to fight this out with your wife, why are you venting here?
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 13:03     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The school bus or the city bus? If school bus, your wife is crazy and you shouldn’t defer to her.


Why does that matter?

DP.
My kid takes the school bus in the burbs, but I've read stories in the Post about people in Southeast DC driving their children to school because they don't want them hanging around on the bus stops for security reasons. I understand that, and I'm surprised that you don't.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 13:02     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
Bus in high school is fine- my MS son road the school bus for a year. Rampant, egregious bullying on the bus.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 12:59     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had great talks with my dad when he'd drive me to school. He taught me more about periods than my mom ever did. He gave me work advice. I listened to music I liked.

I arrived at school calm and confident.

Hopefully my dad appreciated the time he spent with me also.


OP here. Thank you for this as I do realize it is about my perspective and that with a different perspective I would be enjoying our time together. Part of it is my 16 old DD and our level of engagement as she is playing on her phone with eardbuds in while I drive which further increaes my frustration. Perhaps the new deal is if you want me to drive you we have to engage, i.e. no phone and earbuds.

I am glad that you enjoyed your time with your Dad.


When I was this age my dad would say “talk to me kid!!” (I was reading a book because that was pre smart phone but same thing.) Engage with your kid!
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 12:53     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had great talks with my dad when he'd drive me to school. He taught me more about periods than my mom ever did. He gave me work advice. I listened to music I liked.

I arrived at school calm and confident.

Hopefully my dad appreciated the time he spent with me also.


Your dad talked to you about your periods?


I was dying to know if anyone besides me read this and thought it was wierd!!!
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 12:51     Subject: Re:Why can't kids take the bus ?
Your youngest is a junior... that ship has sailed.

Why are you picking a fight?
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 12:47     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
I take my kids to school everyday too. Sometimes they are grumpy and sometimes they talk. My kids get to sleep an extra 20 minutes because I take them to school. That's an extra 1 hour and 40 minutes a week. Totally worth it.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 12:07     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:You are an equal partner in your marriage and so you get to decide what you will or won't do. Unless your wife is a controlling tyrant, she doesn't get to tell you that you will drive your daughter to school. She is welcome to driver her herself if she wishes to and you are more than welcome to say that you won't be driving her as you need to get to work.

I think an adult taking time off work to drive a teen behind the bus is ridiculous. Don't argue with your wife about it. Just state what you will be doing. Let your daughter know. Find out the info with her that she will need to take the bus and then wish her well. If your wife wishes to rearrange her work schedule to drive her, that is her choice. You aren't going to convince your wife at this point to encourage resilience or independence so don't make it about values or that. Just state your decision about your own actions.


Agree with this. Your wife is ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 11:51     Subject: Re:Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If your kid is a junior, why can’t she drive herself to school? My kids drove themselves starting at 16.


Not every junior has

a. a driver's license
b. a car


c. a parking spot. Especially if the school is in a fairly densely populated area.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 11:48     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
I agree with the PPs who say they should take the bus. Both of ours do, even though dropping them off wouldn’t significantly affect our day as the schools are close. I do drive my middle schooler a couple times a week since I drive literally past her school on my way to work and we have good bonding time. This will stop next year when she’s in high school, so I’m enjoying it now.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 07:12     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t ow what the bus your kid would ride is like, but my MS students complain about bullying and sexual harassment On the bus. DH teaches at a different school and they regularly have to pull the camera footage to verify who assaulted whom first. Students riding the busses to our schools are from middle class neighborhoods.


Yes, middle-schoolers from middle-class families also misbehave.

-person whose kids take the bus
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2019 06:39     Subject: Why can't kids take the bus ?
Anonymous wrote:I had great talks with my dad when he'd drive me to school. He taught me more about periods than my mom ever did. He gave me work advice. I listened to music I liked.

I arrived at school calm and confident.

Hopefully my dad appreciated the time he spent with me also.


Your dad talked to you about your periods?