Anonymous
12/03/2019 07:07
Subject: Mixed-collar dating
Anonymous wrote:Don’t do this unless you want to live the blue collar life.
Working in coal mines? What sort of blue collar life do you envision for residents of the DC metro area?
Anonymous
12/03/2019 01:30
Subject: Mixed-collar dating
I have a doctorate and am a business executive. He’s an E7 in the Army. We balance one another well. I think it helps I grew up middle class (at best) in a military family while my mom was a registered dietician.
Anonymous
12/03/2019 01:17
Subject: Mixed-collar dating
If you find a good man you love, it doesn't matter. There are lazy jerks at every education level and profession. You could find someone with a better job who is financially irresponsible or is a cheater. I'd take blue collar over that any day.
Anonymous
12/03/2019 01:13
Subject: Re:Mixed-collar dating
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not sure what he does but blue collar guys can make great incomes, just so people know.
My stepdad (general contractor, no college degree) makes more than most doctors etc. I don’t think is terribly unusual actually.
Also mechanics, electricians, plumbers can do REALLY well.
Just thought I’d mention, because people often do not realize this.
The people I know who have married across “collars” are all happy, as far as I know.
It does not matter if the blue collar makes decent money. You still will be living the blue collar lifestyle. Hard no.
Not everyone wants to live the “white collar lifestyle,” especially if it’s full of judgmental a**holes like you.
Anonymous
12/03/2019 00:14
Subject: Re:Mixed-collar dating
Anonymous wrote:I’m in a marriage like this. Sometimes it is annoying but I don’t regret it. It became more of an issue when kids arrived. When you become a parent you want to pass down your values to your kids. At that time it became apparent DH and I didn’t want to pass down the same values at times. It’s a struggle but we make it work. I would suggest not taking any of your values for granted and assuming they are shared.
NP: I'm just curious. What were the different values?
Anonymous
12/02/2019 23:58
Subject: Mixed-collar dating
Depends what your lifestyle is. My mom has 2 masters and my dad went to trade school, but my mom was a teacher and her friends’ husband had similar jobs.
My husband has a PhD, but he’s a Fed and most of his coworkers’ spouses are teachers, nurses, and other solidly middle class jobs. I only have a BS, but my profession is more lucrative and my coworkers and their partners have a much different lifestyle than my husband’s peers. Together we’re very similar to our neighbors.
My husband has a PhD, but he’s a Fed and most of his coworkers’ spouses are teachers, nurses, and other solidly middle class jobs. I only have a BS, but my profession is more lucrative and my coworkers and their partners have a much different lifestyle than my husband’s peers. Together we’re very similar to our neighbors.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 23:43
Subject: Re:Mixed-collar dating
I’m in a marriage like this. Sometimes it is annoying but I don’t regret it. It became more of an issue when kids arrived. When you become a parent you want to pass down your values to your kids. At that time it became apparent DH and I didn’t want to pass down the same values at times. It’s a struggle but we make it work. I would suggest not taking any of your values for granted and assuming they are shared.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 22:34
Subject: Re:Mixed-collar dating
My Dad is very blue collar - a high school grad who liked working with his hands. By age 30 he had built a very successful home construction business and by age 50 he was in commercial development, infrastructure and for some reason car dealerships. He’s the smartest man I know.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 22:26
Subject: Re:Mixed-collar dating
Anonymous wrote:Not sure what he does but blue collar guys can make great incomes, just so people know.
My stepdad (general contractor, no college degree) makes more than most doctors etc. I don’t think is terribly unusual actually.
Also mechanics, electricians, plumbers can do REALLY well.
Just thought I’d mention, because people often do not realize this.
The people I know who have married across “collars” are all happy, as far as I know.
It does not matter if the blue collar makes decent money. You still will be living the blue collar lifestyle. Hard no.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 22:24
Subject: Mixed-collar dating
Anonymous wrote:I’ve recently started seeing a guy who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and he’s thoroughly blue-collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?
I’ve recently started seeing a woman who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and she’s thoroughly blue collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?
Anonymous
12/02/2019 22:21
Subject: Mixed-collar dating
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Of course. A partner at my old law firm is married to a firefighter.
Firefighters can be pretty well educated. At our big, well regarded state school, lots of guys get building science degrees and do the general contractor/fireflighter split when they graduate. Extremely lucrative.
My best friend from college (an ivy) who has a very successful career in public administration is married to a firefighter with a masters degree in fire protection sciences. He's a professor on his "off" days.
Point is, i don't think firefighter is particularly "blue collar".
If your job is physical and you work with your hands, and you wear a uniform, THAT is blue-collar.
That’s interesting. I have a BS, an MS, and a certificate in my specialty. I’m a cardiac nurse who wears a uniform and works with her hands.
I knew I should’ve pursued that BA in social media marketing! No physical stuff there AND you get to boast white collar cred
Anonymous
12/02/2019 22:21
Subject: Mixed-collar dating
Don’t do this unless you want to live the blue collar life.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 22:09
Subject: Re:Mixed-collar dating
My husband is in a blue collar job but college educated. His entire family and friends network are all blue collar workers. My family is all white collar. The thing we have in common is we are all honest, hard working people that love each other.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 22:06
Subject: Mixed-collar dating
Anonymous wrote:Yes,
My sister was a Major in the Marines.
Husband was a Command Sgt Major in the Army.
Husband was the best man you could ever find.
He was the best person in my family. Sadly he
passed away from brain cancer two years ago.
Whoa, yeah that's totally not ok. Bet they didn't mention that? Enlisted-officer relationships can get you kicked out.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 22:04
Subject: Re:Mixed-collar dating
If I ever get divorced or my H passes away, I'd be happy to date someone with their own trade business. I have an ivy degree and a masters from a top school and I think I'm making the same amount as my electrician.