Anonymous
11/24/2019 14:04
Subject: Re:Daycare or Nanny?
OP here. We can afford a daycare or a nanny but not sure a nanny is worth double the price. The daycare we are looking at is very highly recommended by online reviews, friends, and neighbors. It's from infant through pre-k. We still haven't made a decision, but unless we find a nanny we really like, we might go with daycare. A nanny sounds nice but the worry of relying on one person worries us. What if we choose a bad fit? What if the nanny isn't as engaging as we had hoped? We have a bi-weekly housekeeper who can do the laundry if becomes an issue, but we don't mind doing it. I like that he will get plenty of socialization at daycare, but I do worry about him getting sick.
Anonymous
11/24/2019 13:53
Subject: Daycare or Nanny?
OP - there are a lot of wealthy moms who have too much time on their hands on this board and they are ALL going to recommend a nanny. I'm just saying.
Both of my kids were in a small in-home daycare until they were 2-3, then moved to an all-day preschool, and are now in public school. They were very well cared for in both places and are now well-adjusted, super smart, and very sweet children. Your baby will be fine no matter what choice you make. And if you feel it's the wrong choice, you have other options.
Both of my kids were in a small in-home daycare until they were 2-3, then moved to an all-day preschool, and are now in public school. They were very well cared for in both places and are now well-adjusted, super smart, and very sweet children. Your baby will be fine no matter what choice you make. And if you feel it's the wrong choice, you have other options.
Anonymous
11/24/2019 13:51
Subject: Daycare or Nanny?
Daycare is fine - especially since it's so close to your home!! One thing I would consider is if you do part time, make sure it's 3 consecutive days and not every other day, otherwise it will get confusing for a baby. We had ours in daycare Tuesday/Wednesday/Thursday while DH had his AWS day on Friday and mine was on Monday.
Anonymous
11/24/2019 13:23
Subject: Daycare or Nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Nanny at least during the winter months for an infant, because of flu season.
+ 1 Kids get sick a lot at daycare. Ideally you would wait until baby is a year and has his measles vaccine.
Anonymous
11/24/2019 12:39
Subject: Daycare or Nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny. But the cost was never an issue for us. And I wanted our baby to be cared for specifically. Not herded along in a group, forced to eat and nap when the daycare decided it was time.
Herded? You should see the bayonets they use to keep the toddlers in line. It is actually really cute and sweet to see the little kids line up to go to the playground and the like.
Also, they don't try to keep infants on a schedule. They eat and sleep when they want to.
There are pros and cons to both set ups; it is just really funny to see some of the caricatures that people have of daycare, in most cases by people who have never used a daycare, or at least a good one.
Please name some daycares that you think are such a great places for a four month old baby.
Both daycare we used for our kids (we switched because of a move) were very good places for babies and even better once they got a little older. I don't know why specific names are important to you because you clearly aren't in the market for a daycare.
Anonymous
11/24/2019 12:09
Subject: Re:Daycare or Nanny?
Anonymous wrote:I would do a daycare. Unless you happen to get lucky, $16-$20/hr is on the lower side for nanny care. That's not to mention additional costs that creep up unexpectedly.
If you do use a daycare, I would also suggest trying to find a couple of babysitters as backups for the backup grandma. Kids get sick a lot when they are in daycare for the first year or so. Grandma might not be able to cover all that time and/or handle the fussy baby for long periods of time.
$16-20 is not on the low side of care spending on where OP lives.
Anonymous
11/23/2019 23:10
Subject: Re:Daycare or Nanny?
I would do a daycare. Unless you happen to get lucky, $16-$20/hr is on the lower side for nanny care. That's not to mention additional costs that creep up unexpectedly.
If you do use a daycare, I would also suggest trying to find a couple of babysitters as backups for the backup grandma. Kids get sick a lot when they are in daycare for the first year or so. Grandma might not be able to cover all that time and/or handle the fussy baby for long periods of time.
If you do use a daycare, I would also suggest trying to find a couple of babysitters as backups for the backup grandma. Kids get sick a lot when they are in daycare for the first year or so. Grandma might not be able to cover all that time and/or handle the fussy baby for long periods of time.
Anonymous
11/23/2019 21:48
Subject: Daycare or Nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny. But the cost was never an issue for us. And I wanted our baby to be cared for specifically. Not herded along in a group, forced to eat and nap when the daycare decided it was time.
Herded? You should see the bayonets they use to keep the toddlers in line. It is actually really cute and sweet to see the little kids line up to go to the playground and the like.
Also, they don't try to keep infants on a schedule. They eat and sleep when they want to.
There are pros and cons to both set ups; it is just really funny to see some of the caricatures that people have of daycare, in most cases by people who have never used a daycare, or at least a good one.
Please name some daycares that you think are such a great places for a four month old baby.
Anonymous
11/23/2019 21:46
Subject: Re:Daycare or Nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Choose a good nanny over daycare. A good nanny will speak, narrate, read, sing and engage your baby. As the baby gets older, a good nanny will find play groups, story times, free concerts and free forest classes to socialize your baby. A good nanny will have art projects and other sensory stimulations available. There is nothing comparable in early childhood education. Daycares cannot compete.
However, a good daycare is better than a bad nanny. A good daycare is better than a nanny who treats the baby like a sack of potatoes - never plays with the baby, never sings or talks to the baby. If you hire a nanny to be a housekeeper and just keep your baby alive, your baby is much better off in daycare.
I agree completely.
Anonymous
11/23/2019 21:41
Subject: Daycare or Nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Nanny. But the cost was never an issue for us. And I wanted our baby to be cared for specifically. Not herded along in a group, forced to eat and nap when the daycare decided it was time.
Herded? You should see the bayonets they use to keep the toddlers in line. It is actually really cute and sweet to see the little kids line up to go to the playground and the like.
Also, they don't try to keep infants on a schedule. They eat and sleep when they want to.
There are pros and cons to both set ups; it is just really funny to see some of the caricatures that people have of daycare, in most cases by people who have never used a daycare, or at least a good one.
Anonymous
11/23/2019 21:37
Subject: Re:Daycare or Nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Would you consider a nanny-share? You could do it at your house for convenience and it cuts the price way down-closer to daycare costs (at least in DC)
Very bad idea for a 4 mos old infant.
Anonymous
11/23/2019 21:35
Subject: Daycare or Nanny?
Nanny. But the cost was never an issue for us. And I wanted our baby to be cared for specifically. Not herded along in a group, forced to eat and nap when the daycare decided it was time.
Anonymous
11/23/2019 21:27
Subject: Daycare or Nanny?
Once I had DC#3, I went with a nanny (previously in home daycare, which was fabulous). Benefits have been:
Able to drive older DCs to preschool
Connection with my youngest DC (born as nanny started)
Security in knowing another adult is your "emergency contact"
Transition to afternoon nanny as kids go to school
Honestly, I loved my in-home daycare in the early years. It was perfect. But the combo of nanny/preschool was also ideal in the later years.
Able to drive older DCs to preschool
Connection with my youngest DC (born as nanny started)
Security in knowing another adult is your "emergency contact"
Transition to afternoon nanny as kids go to school
Honestly, I loved my in-home daycare in the early years. It was perfect. But the combo of nanny/preschool was also ideal in the later years.
Anonymous
11/23/2019 21:22
Subject: Re:Daycare or Nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Would you consider a nanny-share? You could do it at your house for convenience and it cuts the price way down-closer to daycare costs (at least in DC)
OP here. We are not interested in a nanny share.
Anonymous
11/23/2019 21:18
Subject: Re:Daycare or Nanny?
Would you consider a nanny-share? You could do it at your house for convenience and it cuts the price way down-closer to daycare costs (at least in DC)