Anonymous wrote:There are a couple of things that go into this.
You cannot build muscle on a calorie deficit. It isn't scientifically possible. The reason why people encourage lifting heavy when someone is looking to "lose weight" it is because for most people, their goal is actually to look better/smaller. Let's say you decided not to work out at all, and only ate 1000 calories a day. Very likely you would see the scale decrease, because you'd be losing fat AND existing muscle. This also means you probably wouldn't look very good even after losing a good chunk of scale weight.
If you lift heavy weights and eat a deficit, you will lose fat and SOME muscle, but much less muscle than you would have without the weight training. As a result, the scale doesn't go down as much, but inches are lost. The result is that you are smaller and look better. This is also why people recommend not paying too much attention to a scale, because a woman who cuts calories and loses a lot of scale weight may be doing more harm than good by losing muscle.
It is EXTREMELY difficult to build muscle, even with the right diet, when you are a woman. It's even harder when you're closer to menopause age. Truthfully, most of us will struggle just to maintain the muscle we have as we get older.
I truthfully don't know why you would be unhappy that you lost inches. YOU LOST INCHES. Isn't that good? Why does it matter that the scale is the same or a widely-known error riddled DEXA scan didn't spout out the numbers you wanted? That's crazy.
You sound like me. i said this back on page 1

I am honestly shocked and surprise that the trainer OP is working with hasn't explained this and was surprised she didn't gain muscle. Also shocked a trainer doesn't understand that gaining pounds of muscle doesn't happen in 14 weeks.