If it's just a question of space, you need to explain that there is not enough space and that if she wants something new that's large, she will have to donate or consign a similarly sized toy in the house.

I've had this conversation many times - not for extra large items, because we don't have those, but just regarding general accumulation of toys. If they want new ones, they have to let old ones go, because our house is minuscule!

I think your child is at a great age to start hearing about the practical side of gifts. You can start to explain about how when we want something, we think about the price, and how much space it will take up, and whatever other considerations you have (for example, how much will I use it? Is it recyclable or pretty wasteful? Is it fair trade, if that matters?).

You can model this thinking and decision making by talking about your own purchases. Instead of worrying that you will be disappointing her, think of what a favor you do your child to be giving her guidelines as she makes her way into the world of endless consumerism and consumption we all live in now.

It's ultimately a relief to recognize that yes, there are a billion things we all want, but we make decisions and set boundaries and then focus on being happy with what we have!

Seriously, its a limited time when the play with giant toys. I would just get them and enjoy her enjoyment. In a few years all she will want will be a new iphone and ipods. I miss going to the American Girl store>

In our house, we alternated the "big" presents with siblings. One year sibling #1 got a big present, next year sibling #2, ect. So maybe you could start a similar tradition.

- Odd years = $100 limit, even years = $500 limit
- Odd years = homemade presents, even years = anything

I'm all for fulfilling big Christmas asks when we have the means, and I have the dust-covered PJ Masks HQ and multiple Star Wars whatevers to prove it. My neighbor, however, has employed the "if you really want it, pick 10 things you no longer play with to give away" method with great success. She explained if you really want a big expensive present and are going to play with it as much as you promise, then you need to figure out what you'll no longer play with to make room AND time for Big New Hunk of Plastic. It worked really well for them and I'm definitely keeping it in mind for this Christmas.