Lonely_Sojourner
11/02/2019 12:23
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lonely_Sojourner wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?
Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...
OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.
I agree. That can’t be a man.
Hate to disappoint you all; however, I'm all (straight) man and a bit creative. Let me explain, I took pics of the bra/panty tags that she would bring home as that told me: designer, size, style, etc. Yes, I truly enjoyed doting on her for the 17 years of our marriage as our relationship was nothing short of utopia. I have to share that I simply do not understand some of these comments. I bought her a set of Mikimoto Pearls for our 10-year anniversary, am I wrong for knowing quality labels, designers in the jewelry arena as well? I'm just a simple guy from the South that truly loved his wife and took every opportunity to ensure she knew such each and every day. Perhaps some of you might consider taking a page from my playbook as life can change in an instant. Tomorrow is not guaranteed...
Anonymous
11/02/2019 11:44
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:Black patent stiletto heels and stockings, done.
Ok, pal.
Anonymous
11/02/2019 11:21
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lonely_Sojourner wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am returning to the dating scene after some years of marriage. Do men expect women to be wearing sexy lingerie if a good date leads to some intimacy?
Welcome to the party as misery loves company!! Yes, from's a man's perspective, I certainly appreciate a bit of effort when the lady I'm with wears a matched set of bra/panties as certainly sets the mood... It doesn't have to be Journelle or Intimissi, so don't go broke...
OK, it is really weird to me that a man would know lingerie brands.
I agree. That can’t be a man.
Different male here, and I know plenty of brands far less main stream than the ones listed above. We regularly invest in nice higher quality pieces. Sometimes my wife buys them, sometimes I do. New house has a smaller walk in just behind DWs walk in just for lingerie. What is wrong with man knowing what his wife likes?
You sound feminine.
Anonymous
11/02/2019 11:21
Subject: Lingerie
Its rare to get my wife to wear even non-stained underwear to bed. Lingerie just gets used once and then goes in the drawer. On the plus side, she’s very fit and looks great naked.
Anonymous
11/02/2019 11:12
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You all must be newly dating and trying to impress, newlyweds or incredibly wealthy. I've been married 20 plus years, and. The last time I bought lingerie (or my husband bought it for me) was well over a decade ago. My husband could care less, as whatever I have on comes off very quickly. We have other things we'd rather spend our money on than articles of clothing with such limited use that are worn for such a short period of time.
Uh, i've been married for 20 years with a kid and a full time job. I'm the PP who posted the journelle bra and panties above. That's the kind of underwear I wear on a daily basis (unless an outfit requires a specific type of underwear). You have to wear underwear/bra every day. Why would you buy an ugly nude VS cheap number when you could wear the prettier journelle type of underwear? It's like saying that because you've been married for 20 years, you only wear sweat pants every day. You have to put pants on so why not choose flattering, stylish pants that make you feel good (and your spouse feel good about you)?
PS DS also puts thought into his daily underwear.
Completely agree. And also with the journelle recommendation. They have a wide variety of inventory at different prices, different aesthetics, and easy ordering/returns. I've been married 13 yrs and do what the above PP does as well. I consider lingerie to be part of my outfit and likewise what it to look and feel nice on me.
Anonymous
11/02/2019 09:44
Subject: Lingerie
Athol Kay wrote about the amusing but all-too-true concept of the "Lingerie Vault."
http://marriedmansexlife.com/2010/07/how-to-get-your-wife-to-wear-lingerie/
Back in the day I had a problem with my darling wife. When ever I’d go buy some sort of lingerie item as a gift for her, she would always semi-grimace at it as she opened it up. Then later there would be some sort of modeling of the lingerie where she would looking uncomfortable but compliant and just wanting the ordeal over. It’s the same face I’ve seen patients make when you give them an enema. Um.. not hawt sweetheart, my bad. After that there would be sex, and then after that lingerie would be removed and stashed into a special drawer I came to think of as The Lingerie Vault.
Things go into The Lingerie Vault. Nothing comes out. It’s the Bermuda Triangle of silk.
So basically any lingerie purchase was a one time event. Suffice to say, I learned to stop buying her the stuff. Oh I’d try once every other year or so, but get that same self conscious face and indifferent response and another piece of silk slipped into The Lingerie Vault forever.
http://marriedmansexlife.com/2010/07/how-to-get-your-wife-to-wear-lingerie/
Anonymous
11/02/2019 09:25
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You all must be newly dating and trying to impress, newlyweds or incredibly wealthy. I've been married 20 plus years, and. The last time I bought lingerie (or my husband bought it for me) was well over a decade ago. My husband could care less, as whatever I have on comes off very quickly. We have other things we'd rather spend our money on than articles of clothing with such limited use that are worn for such a short period of time.
I bet that’s not true.
DH here. I agree.
I’ve bought a few pieces for my wife over the years and she’ll wear them once to indulge me and she looks amazing when she does. However, they usually end up packed away somewhere never to be seen again.
Anonymous
11/02/2019 08:26
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:You all must be newly dating and trying to impress, newlyweds or incredibly wealthy. I've been married 20 plus years, and. The last time I bought lingerie (or my husband bought it for me) was well over a decade ago. My husband could care less, as whatever I have on comes off very quickly. We have other things we'd rather spend our money on than articles of clothing with such limited use that are worn for such a short period of time.
I bet that’s not true.
Anonymous
11/01/2019 18:49
Subject: Re:Lingerie
We’ve been married a long time and I know my husband appreciates me wearing a non-mom nightgown a couple of nights a week. I’m happy to do it because it also gets me in the mood. It never stays on me for more than 5-10 minutes and 30 minutes later I put on my mom nightie. Win/win!
Anonymous
11/01/2019 18:44
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:You all must be newly dating and trying to impress, newlyweds or incredibly wealthy. I've been married 20 plus years, and. The last time I bought lingerie (or my husband bought it for me) was well over a decade ago. My husband could care less, as whatever I have on comes off very quickly. We have other things we'd rather spend our money on than articles of clothing with such limited use that are worn for such a short period of time.
Limited use?
Anonymous
11/01/2019 18:43
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You all must be newly dating and trying to impress, newlyweds or incredibly wealthy. I've been married 20 plus years, and. The last time I bought lingerie (or my husband bought it for me) was well over a decade ago. My husband could care less, as whatever I have on comes off very quickly. We have other things we'd rather spend our money on than articles of clothing with such limited use that are worn for such a short period of time.
Uh, i've been married for 20 years with a kid and a full time job. I'm the PP who posted the journelle bra and panties above. That's the kind of underwear I wear on a daily basis (unless an outfit requires a specific type of underwear). You have to wear underwear/bra every day. Why would you buy an ugly nude VS cheap number when you could wear the prettier journelle type of underwear? It's like saying that because you've been married for 20 years, you only wear sweat pants every day. You have to put pants on so why not choose flattering, stylish pants that make you feel good (and your spouse feel good about you)?
PS DS also puts thought into his daily underwear.
+1
Anonymous
11/01/2019 18:42
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:You all must be newly dating and trying to impress, newlyweds or incredibly wealthy. I've been married 20 plus years, and. The last time I bought lingerie (or my husband bought it for me) was well over a decade ago. My husband could care less, as whatever I have on comes off very quickly. We have other things we'd rather spend our money on than articles of clothing with such limited use that are worn for such a short period of time.
Um... We’ve know each other since HS, one child. Both of us are 49. She likes wearing sexy lingerie, I enjoy seeing her in it and slowly removing panties, bra, etc.
Anonymous
11/01/2019 18:14
Subject: Lingerie
Anonymous wrote:You all must be newly dating and trying to impress, newlyweds or incredibly wealthy. I've been married 20 plus years, and. The last time I bought lingerie (or my husband bought it for me) was well over a decade ago. My husband could care less, as whatever I have on comes off very quickly. We have other things we'd rather spend our money on than articles of clothing with such limited use that are worn for such a short period of time.
Uh, i've been married for 20 years with a kid and a full time job. I'm the PP who posted the journelle bra and panties above. That's the kind of underwear I wear on a daily basis (unless an outfit requires a specific type of underwear). You have to wear underwear/bra every day. Why would you buy an ugly nude VS cheap number when you could wear the prettier journelle type of underwear? It's like saying that because you've been married for 20 years, you only wear sweat pants every day. You have to put pants on so why not choose flattering, stylish pants that make you feel good (and your spouse feel good about you)?
PS DS also puts thought into his daily underwear.
Anonymous
11/01/2019 17:57
Subject: Lingerie
You all must be newly dating and trying to impress, newlyweds or incredibly wealthy. I've been married 20 plus years, and. The last time I bought lingerie (or my husband bought it for me) was well over a decade ago. My husband could care less, as whatever I have on comes off very quickly. We have other things we'd rather spend our money on than articles of clothing with such limited use that are worn for such a short period of time.
Anonymous
11/01/2019 17:56
Subject: Lingerie