I know of one. A married gay couple in their thirties started dating another 30s gay man. It only lasted about 6 months. It seemed the new guy had a much stronger relationship with one of the couple than the other. Don't know if that was what led to the breakup but I could see a bit of jealousy / hurt feelings.

I’m poly with a husband and a boyfriend but they don’t date each other. Both men are straight. We do do MFM though.

So .. where is thanksgiving in these poly relationships? Does family know and support?

I’ve been in a poly quad for 3 years now. Gen X.

Anonymous wrote:I have some friends that I suspect this is there arrangement (Hetero married couple and single woman).

I feel like the only men interested in this are looking for MFF. I’d be curious to know how many people in this thread were involved with MFM throuple.

I had a friend who wanted to explore her bisexuality in a hetero marriage, and they were in a lived-in polyamorous relationship with a woman for several years. When they decided to have children, she decided not to make that commitment with them and moved out, and they are still all friends, and the woman who moved out is now married to another woman.

After the kid got older, this same couple has done some swinging and dating outside the relationship. It seems to work very well for them. For me, it sounds very involved.

I have some friends that I suspect this is there arrangement (Hetero married couple and single woman).

I feel like the only men interested in this are looking for MFF. I’d be curious to know how many people in this thread were involved with MFM throuple.

sounds a bit sleazy....

This made me think of the suspected killers of Eric Wone.

How is it different than polygamy?

Boomer here. I was in one in college. We didn't call it anything. It began as a menage-a-trois, and then we rinsed and repeated for a couple of months. FFM.

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Anonymous wrote:Not that I know of. Seems complicated to me, but to each their own.

Disagree with the “to each their own” part. You wait-!it won’t be long before they want this recognized as legal marriage

I mean, I have no interest in being in a throuple, but if three people got married how would it effect you? I've never understood this deep care about what consenting adults do with each other.

Yeah, I recently found out that a family I know (and have known for about 8 years) is in one. I literally thought that the third woman was the nanny! I'm a moron, apparently, because our other friends knew. I just thought they were very attached to the nanny. I thought it was odd when there would be a dinner party and she'd show up with them but just minded my own business.

The husband is straight, the wife is bi, and the third woman is a lesbian.

I've not heard the term throuple, though. They refer to themselves as poly something. Not poly-amorous. It's poly and then something that means committed relationship, not casual sex.

Yes, it’s sooooo common! So common! Like 0.00001% so common! Let’s discuss it some more.

I do, and it's super weird IMO. There is the original hetero couple who lives together with their kids from their first marriages, and then when the kids are with the ex-spouses, the third one lives with them (a woman, they won't bring a man). They look for a third on tinder and have had a few relationships this way. They live in the DMV.

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh I live in Denver and it seems like you can’t swing a dead cat without hitting poly/swingers.
I’m in my early 40s and I’d be open to it. It could be better than my traditional marriage was to a man who became an abusive drunk.

It does seem to be very location specific, apparently it's rather common in the Pacific NW as well. Not really a thing in the DC area as far as I can tell.

People here are way too uptight and rule follower-y