Anonymous
10/28/2019 11:51
Subject: Re:Naming baby same name as an exes ex
I agree that there are way too many layers here for it to ever be a problem.
Unless it really IS a problem in your head, and if so, you should move on.
One of my kids has the same name as an ex that was pretty significant to one of us. But, being honest, it's such a common name that there are a million OTHER associations that have nothing to do with the ex. (Think Elizabeth or Michael.)
Unless it really IS a problem in your head, and if so, you should move on.
One of my kids has the same name as an ex that was pretty significant to one of us. But, being honest, it's such a common name that there are a million OTHER associations that have nothing to do with the ex. (Think Elizabeth or Michael.)
Anonymous
10/28/2019 11:46
Subject: Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Were you married or just dating? Dating = doesn't matter.
Anonymous
10/28/2019 11:41
Subject: Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Anonymous wrote:Is there a typo in the subject or did you really mean an the ex of your ex?
So you’re married to John and having his baby. But you used to date Don and before you Don used to date Suzy. And you’re worried about naming your baby Suzy? Is that right?
If so, I think there are so many levels in between you and this person that I really can’t see it mattering it all. Do you really have strong feelings about an ex’s ex? Even now that you’ve moved on with your life?
I mean if that’s the case, you seem to hold on to grudges for a long time so maybe better to choose another name for the baby.
This is how i read it but not how most responders in the thread did. If its as you describe it seems fine esp as OP has now moved on and married.
Anonymous
10/28/2019 09:40
Subject: Re:Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Personally, I couldn't name my kid a name with which I have a negative association. There's a boy name I love but the only man I've ever known with the name was a jerk, so whenever I imagine giving it to my son I just think about the jerk. Maybe it's irrational, but it's how I feel, so we're choosing another name.
Anonymous
10/27/2019 19:56
Subject: Naming baby same name as an exes ex
If you’re so hurt, then don’t use the name. But it is not a common reason not to use a name if that’s the question you’re asking.
Anonymous
10/27/2019 17:50
Subject: Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Anonymous wrote:Is there a typo in the subject or did you really mean an the ex of your ex?
So you’re married to John and having his baby. But you used to date Don and before you Don used to date Suzy. And you’re worried about naming your baby Suzy? Is that right?
If so, I think there are so many levels in between you and this person that I really can’t see it mattering it all. Do you really have strong feelings about an ex’s ex? Even now that you’ve moved on with your life?
I mean if that’s the case, you seem to hold on to grudges for a long time so maybe better to choose another name for the baby.
OP here. Yes but Suzy and Don are bad news and I'd rather not get into it on DCUM. There are people from High School or earlier or later who hurt us so bad it's still engrained in our minds.
To another PP, I am mid 30s.
Anonymous
10/27/2019 14:43
Subject: Re:Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You seem hung up on your ex. Move on.
HA ha! She’s married and having a baby with someone else. How much “moved on” could she be?!
Such a typical parroted DCUM response but your use was so absurd it did make me laugh out loud. So thanks for the giggle.
The ex seems to be living rent free in the head, no?
“Living rent free in your head”?! Dear God, stop the parroting! Next you’re going to write about “boundaries” or how when “you point your finger at someone, you have three pointing back at you”.
Seek therapy.
OP is asking about naming a baby the same name as someone she feels hurt her.
To OP: if you truly weren’t over the past relationship, you wouldn’t consider the name.
Unclench.
NP here. Do you ever write anything that isn’t an overused DCUM response?
Bye, Felicia. LOL.
Bye Felicia
Anonymous
10/27/2019 14:41
Subject: Re:Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You seem hung up on your ex. Move on.
HA ha! She’s married and having a baby with someone else. How much “moved on” could she be?!
Such a typical parroted DCUM response but your use was so absurd it did make me laugh out loud. So thanks for the giggle.
The ex seems to be living rent free in the head, no?
“Living rent free in your head”?! Dear God, stop the parroting! Next you’re going to write about “boundaries” or how when “you point your finger at someone, you have three pointing back at you”.
Seek therapy.
OP is asking about naming a baby the same name as someone she feels hurt her.
To OP: if you truly weren’t over the past relationship, you wouldn’t consider the name.
Unclench.
NP here. Do you ever write anything that isn’t an overused DCUM response?
Anonymous
10/27/2019 14:39
Subject: Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nats: Natalie
Astrid: Astros
Houston
Washington
All ugly
All names terrible. Please move on and choose something else.
Wrong, Natalie is beautiful and I wish my DH hadn’t rejected it.
Anonymous
10/27/2019 13:34
Subject: Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Is there a typo in the subject or did you really mean an the ex of your ex?
So you’re married to John and having his baby. But you used to date Don and before you Don used to date Suzy. And you’re worried about naming your baby Suzy? Is that right?
If so, I think there are so many levels in between you and this person that I really can’t see it mattering it all. Do you really have strong feelings about an ex’s ex? Even now that you’ve moved on with your life?
I mean if that’s the case, you seem to hold on to grudges for a long time so maybe better to choose another name for the baby.
So you’re married to John and having his baby. But you used to date Don and before you Don used to date Suzy. And you’re worried about naming your baby Suzy? Is that right?
If so, I think there are so many levels in between you and this person that I really can’t see it mattering it all. Do you really have strong feelings about an ex’s ex? Even now that you’ve moved on with your life?
I mean if that’s the case, you seem to hold on to grudges for a long time so maybe better to choose another name for the baby.
Anonymous
10/27/2019 12:51
Subject: Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So before you were married, you dated John. And before you dated John, he dated Astra.
And now you and your husband are having a little girl, and you love the name Astra, but you are thinking you can't name your daughter Astra?
FFS, OP. That's ridiculous.
I think it's more like while she dated John Astra interfered in the relationship and eventually caused the breakup
Well then Astra is partly responsible for OP and her DH getting together. A blessing in disguise.
++1
OP here, that's a beautiful way to put it actually.
The other PP before that, it was 8 years ago, we were close friends for 5 years before dating for 1.
How old are you, OP?
Anonymous
10/27/2019 12:41
Subject: Re:Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Sure.
Our children are all boys, but had one of them been a girl we would have named her "Christina." Dh's high school sweetheart was "Christine." For some reason MIL was enraged by this. I didn't think it was a big deal.
Our children are all boys, but had one of them been a girl we would have named her "Christina." Dh's high school sweetheart was "Christine." For some reason MIL was enraged by this. I didn't think it was a big deal.
Anonymous
10/27/2019 09:49
Subject: Re:Naming baby same name as an exes ex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You seem hung up on your ex. Move on.
HA ha! She’s married and having a baby with someone else. How much “moved on” could she be?!
Such a typical parroted DCUM response but your use was so absurd it did make me laugh out loud. So thanks for the giggle.
The ex seems to be living rent free in the head, no?
“Living rent free in your head”?! Dear God, stop the parroting! Next you’re going to write about “boundaries” or how when “you point your finger at someone, you have three pointing back at you”.
OP is asking about naming a baby the same name as someone she feels hurt her.
To OP: if you truly weren’t over the past relationship, you wouldn’t consider the name.
Unclench.
NP here. Do you ever write anything that isn’t an overused DCUM response?