You say "no". Their reply was not on time. Sorry.

I’m confused. The parent has a reserved seat right next to where all the 5th? Graders are sitting for a party? Obviously this is weird and obviously you give the late replying child your seat and take an open seat behind them.

Were you planning on sitting right there with a group of 10-11 year old or is your seat a few rows back or what?

Sit in the back, these kids are old enough to sit by themselves.

Anonymous wrote:I'd tell the mom there are no more seats available in your row but there are some in the front row if she would like to come and sit with her kid, since you aren't comfortable sitting away from the kids or having kids sit far away... that way it's on her to decide if her kid comes or not (and maybe she'll feel the pain of the late RSVP).

This is not a bad idea. Her mom made the mistake, her mom can fix it (or not.)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I’m not comfortable sitting too far from the group, and the show is pretty much sold out so the theatre wouldn’t be able to rearrange our seats. I’m going to see if I can convince younger sibling to stay home in exchange for a special outing another time (this might work depending on sibs mood). Otherwise I’ll just have to let them know that sorry, the show is sold out :/

Moral of the story-please PLEASE rsvp in a timely manner.

I can’t believe you would do that to your younger child.

Bad.

Terrible Parenting, OP!

Anonymous wrote:I'd tell the mother sorry but you already bought the tickets and it's sold out. Your daughter will be fine with all of her other friends. I definitely would want to sit with the children and no way would I leave a sibling at home because that would be punishing the sibling when it's the other mother's fault.

Yeah, they were rude. When it’s possible to accommodate late-comers I always make the effort. However, I draw a hard line at punishing another child to accommodate. It would be really wrong to make the sibling stay home. That’s terrible parenting. Also, you need to sit with the kids. It’s wrong to not supervise the kids (punish all the parents who RSVPd before the deadline) to accommodate the late RSVP.

No. Say no. Anything else and YOU become the rude one.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I’m not comfortable sitting too far from the group, and the show is pretty much sold out so the theatre wouldn’t be able to rearrange our seats. I’m going to see if I can convince younger sibling to stay home in exchange for a special outing another time (this might work depending on sibs mood). Otherwise I’ll just have to let them know that sorry, the show is sold out :/

Moral of the story-please PLEASE rsvp in a timely manner.

At least they RSVP. We've had parties where 10-15 extra kids who didn't rsvp showed. Bribe the sibling or take the another day or maybe the other parent who isn't going can take the child and sit in a different section.

You were a fool for accommodating them.

Anonymous wrote:Op again, to clarify, I would only leave younger dc home if they seemed receptive to the idea. It wouldn’t be mandatory.

The fact that you would even entertain such an idea is mind boggling!

I would have bought extra seats OP....even just one or two to cover for something like this.

Wait if the younger one is 9 that means the birthday child is 10+. They can sit by themselves. Go sit in the back.

Anonymous wrote:Are yous also having a pizza / cake component to the party somewhere before or after? if so, invite them to that part.

I would probably sit at the back and let the kids sit alone. They are 10-11. Abel to sit by themselves. The only issue would be if one is a trouble maker or something.

Invite him to nothing. She asked for RSVP by a certain date and they didn't. Tough. Now the kid and mother know to reply in a timely manner.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I’m not comfortable sitting too far from the group, and the show is pretty much sold out so the theatre wouldn’t be able to rearrange our seats. I’m going to see if I can convince younger sibling to stay home in exchange for a special outing another time (this might work depending on sibs mood). Otherwise I’ll just have to let them know that sorry, the show is sold out :/

Moral of the story-please PLEASE rsvp in a timely manner.

Why should your younger child suffer because your other child has a friend whose mother is incompetent?! Really mean!

Why should the friend and the birthday child suffer assuming they are good friends? It’s the moms fault. The younger child can go another time.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I’m not comfortable sitting too far from the group, and the show is pretty much sold out so the theatre wouldn’t be able to rearrange our seats. I’m going to see if I can convince younger sibling to stay home in exchange for a special outing another time (this might work depending on sibs mood). Otherwise I’ll just have to let them know that sorry, the show is sold out :/

Moral of the story-please PLEASE rsvp in a timely manner.

Why should your younger child suffer because your other child has a friend whose mother is incompetent?! Really mean!

I would let the kids sit by themselves