Anonymous
10/25/2019 10:03
Subject: Birthday party logistics
OP, I think you should take most of these answers with a grain of salt. You've already driven these kids, so you can ignore all the people who won't let their kids be driven or require a booster seat (you already know whether your guests do or don't), or won't let their kids out of an adult's sight at 10 yr old. In my circle, we allow other parents to drive, we pick up and drop off at different locations liberally. It's very common and not a big deal at all. You know your group, so go from there.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 09:56
Subject: Birthday party logistics
Anonymous wrote:I'd prefer to do as much driving of my child as possible (suffering from that statistical phenomenon where more than 50% of people think they are better than average drivers) so I'd prefer to drop off and pick up wherever minimizes my child being driven by people whose driving skills I don't know anything about. That said, I'm happy to transport kids. I think you should give people options, then coordinate to maximize happiness according to individual preferences (which may also make your life easier, as you might get some volunteer drivers like me).
Then you just contact the mom who offered to drive your child. Hi Sally, It would work better for us if I dropped Larla at the rink and picked her up from pizza. Please let me know what time I should be there.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 09:52
Subject: Birthday party logistics
Anonymous wrote:I'd prefer to do as much driving of my child as possible (suffering from that statistical phenomenon where more than 50% of people think they are better than average drivers) so I'd prefer to drop off and pick up wherever minimizes my child being driven by people whose driving skills I don't know anything about. That said, I'm happy to transport kids. I think you should give people options, then coordinate to maximize happiness according to individual preferences (which may also make your life easier, as you might get some volunteer drivers like me).
The only problem I see with offering that as an option is that I'm not expecting to treat volunteer parents to lunch/dinner as well. Also, my expectation is that all the kids will want to be in whichever vehicle my child is in, since they really are only friends with her, and not really with each other.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 08:33
Subject: Birthday party logistics
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.
Mine is as well, and is the only one in the group that is in one. That's one of the reasons I limited the total number of girls. I can fit 6 comfortably in the back seats, and while a couple are bigger than I am physically, no one is allowed to ride in the front passenger seat.
Talk to the parents. It would really depend on how well I know you at that point if you will use a booster seat. I don't want my kid free roaming at a public venue and if you weren't one to supervise I'd probably say I'd drive to each location or offer to help. If I knew you well and you supervised I'd drop off/pick up where ever you needed me to.
The girls are 10! They'll run around together giggling the whole time. Have you never met girls that age? They'll be FINE "free roaming."
I have a 10 year old. I wouldn't let them free roam with one parent who isn't watching.
Sorry to hear that your child is immmature and ill-behaved. Typical 10 year olds can be trusted to behave appropriately.