We do use my parents regularly but the first time are using our nanny to stay with them one night when my parents aren't available and we both have to travel for work. Kids are 3 and 1 and it's one night. I probably wouldn't feel comfortable with a sitter or nanny for much more than that until the kids are a little older.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We took over 125 trips as a couple before we had kids, two thirds international to all parts of the world, and the rest domestic. So we’re good on that front. Agree with the PP who said to do it before you have kids. And it helps if you marry young.

Sure...just marry young and have a lot of free money and time to fulfill all of your desires. Easy peasy. Why didn't I think of that?

Not that unusual for the vast number of DINKs in this town.

The short answer is, you just don't if you're not ok with leaving your child with a sitter.

My family all live in another country and my child is still very young so I accepted that long, leisurely trips are out for me for a few more years. I was older when I got pregnant, so like one PP, I got the travel bug out of my system before I had a kid. I still long to take a really great trip, but I'm okay with waiting until my kid is old enough that it's actually a vacation.

Instead, we do long weekend getaways and get a sitter for a night or two, and always book a suite so we have some privacy. My DC has an early bedtime, so there are still many hours to fill with just the two of us.

Op, we went away to a BIG house in a resort area off season. It was a luxury to have so much space. That was the treat. So much easier with the kids. And something new.

And many couples have no one. We had loving families and yet only 2 nights where our kids where looked after by my parents of inlaws. It is what it is. You say, "I think DH would like to go away". Sounds like he's managing. Sounds like the two of you are managing. Don't worry re: how to solve a problem when you really don't have a problem.

Anonymous wrote:We took over 125 trips as a couple before we had kids, two thirds international to all parts of the world, and the rest domestic. So we’re good on that front. Agree with the PP who said to do it before you have kids. And it helps if you marry young.

Sure...just marry young and have a lot of free money and time to fulfill all of your desires. Easy peasy. Why didn't I think of that?

We took over 125 trips as a couple before we had kids, two thirds international to all parts of the world, and the rest domestic. So we’re good on that front. Agree with the PP who said to do it before you have kids. And it helps if you marry young.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get that out of your system before you have kids. It isn’t about you anymore once you have kids, don’t be so selfish. Seriously.

A weekend alone with your spouse once every few years is obviously the height of selfishness.

It’s not best for the kids. And if you are a loser, you will try to justify that it’s best for the kids to have alone time.,,,blah blah. Date night is good enough.

Who is this sure about things? This level of self-righteousness from people amazes me.

What I think is that a happy family is driven by happy parents who are in a happy, healthy marriage. Different people get to that place differently. However anyone gets and stays in that good place with their spouse, which is not always easy, is what's best for the kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought people just took their children on vacations with them.

I've learned from bitter experience that a vacation with my high energy 1 year old and 2.5 year old is anything BUT vacation.

Then stay home!

Nobody told you to have kids 1.5 years apart, you chose that. Vacation is not a necessity. Stay home instead of dumping your responsibility on others. Who said a Vacation is a right?

You gotta take some deep breaths, lady. Why are you so angry? I didn't say any of what you just ranted, you just made stuff up based on a single sentence. Please don't put your baggage on me, ok?

Sounds like PP needs a kid free vacation

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought people just took their children on vacations with them.

I've learned from bitter experience that a vacation with my high energy 1 year old and 2.5 year old is anything BUT vacation.

Then stay home!

Nobody told you to have kids 1.5 years apart, you chose that. Vacation is not a necessity. Stay home instead of dumping your responsibility on others. Who said a Vacation is a right?

You gotta take some deep breaths, lady. Why are you so angry? I didn't say any of what you just ranted, you just made stuff up based on a single sentence. Please don't put your baggage on me, ok?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get that out of your system before you have kids. It isn’t about you anymore once you have kids, don’t be so selfish. Seriously.

A weekend alone with your spouse once every few years is obviously the height of selfishness.

It’s not best for the kids. And if you are a loser, you will try to justify that it’s best for the kids to have alone time.,,,blah blah. Date night is good enough.

*raises hand* Guess I'm the loser you're talking about. Also happily married. Also have well adjusted kids.

Anonymous wrote:We've flown to where trusted family live. My parents are in California, so we'll fly out there for a week in the summer and take a night away to ourselves. That's the longest we've ever been away together since DS was born 5 years ago though.

That’s normal, not brag worthy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get that out of your system before you have kids. It isn’t about you anymore once you have kids, don’t be so selfish. Seriously.

A weekend alone with your spouse once every few years is obviously the height of selfishness.

It’s not best for the kids. And if you are a loser, you will try to justify that it’s best for the kids to have alone time.,,,blah blah. Date night is good enough.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought people just took their children on vacations with them.

I've learned from bitter experience that a vacation with my high energy 1 year old and 2.5 year old is anything BUT vacation.

Then stay home!

Nobody told you to have kids 1.5 years apart, you chose that. Vacation is not a necessity. Stay home instead of dumping your responsibility on others. Who said a Vacation is a right?

Anonymous wrote:Get that out of your system before you have kids. It isn’t about you anymore once you have kids, don’t be so selfish. Seriously.

A weekend alone with your spouse once every few years is obviously the height of selfishness.

Get that out of your system before you have kids. It isn’t about you anymore once you have kids, don’t be so selfish. Seriously.