Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 21:54     Subject: Re:I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Let it go! She’s made her decision and her reasons are not up for debate.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 21:53     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:One thing you maybe haven’t considered is how much easier nursing is than formula once you get the hand of it. Going out? Great, pack a diaper and wipes. No need for formula, water, sterile bottle, and cleaning it all over again when you get home. For me, I was so glad to give up the bottle with my second.


One think you haven't considered is that it is HER FREAKIN' BODY and she gets to decide what to do with it.

OP, I am absolutely livid on your behalf that your husband would even exert the most minimum pressure here on you. I would tell him once "I am not breastfeeding, and it is not up for discussion." And then literally do not answer him (or anyone else) if they mention it again. What are they going to do, rip off your shirt and force the baby on your breast?

Also, bring those little bottles of premade formula to the hospital, and be prepared to tell the nurses & doctors that you are not breastfeeding. If they suggest you try, just say "that won't be possible."

Nobody pressured me to BF I’m the hospital. I was ready to fight, but was pleasantly surprised. After delivering, a nurse asked if I would be BFing. I said no. She brought in a 4-pack of those ready feed bottles. She watched DD latch and eat. She left. That was literally the end.

Oh, but hoard away those bottles before you leave, and ask for samples at your pediatrician. I left the hospital with a case (I asked for samples) and two tubs from my pediatrician (he offered).
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 21:51     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:One thing you maybe haven’t considered is how much easier nursing is than formula once you get the hand of it. Going out? Great, pack a diaper and wipes. No need for formula, water, sterile bottle, and cleaning it all over again when you get home. For me, I was so glad to give up the bottle with my second.


Are you joking? Being the only one who can feed your baby is not easy at all. Nursing is much harder than formula. With formula, anyone can feed your baby. Your husband, mother, mother in law, friend, heck anyone, can help with overnight feedings or bedtime feedings. You could even get a sitter!

When you’re a new mom, the feeding time is pretty precious, even during the night. The breastfeeding hormones kept me from being exhausted. Once I got over the soreness and things started to seem like a new normal around 4-5 weeks, I loved that I had a reason to get everyone to stop hogging my baby. She was mine. I mean, imagine hiring a babysitter for a newborn. WTF.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 21:48     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. Formula is not as good as breastmilk.
2. Moot point because it’s your choice.
3. Keep an open mind but say whatever you need to keep everyone off your back.


Formula is absolutely as good as breastmilk. Stop acting like you're so clever- you're obviously a zealot.

Science much?

PP said it was OP’s choice and offered zero judgment so obviously they’re not a zealot.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 21:46     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:One thing you maybe haven’t considered is how much easier nursing is than formula once you get the hand of it. Going out? Great, pack a diaper and wipes. No need for formula, water, sterile bottle, and cleaning it all over again when you get home. For me, I was so glad to give up the bottle with my second.


One think you haven't considered is that it is HER FREAKIN' BODY and she gets to decide what to do with it.

OP, I am absolutely livid on your behalf that your husband would even exert the most minimum pressure here on you. I would tell him once "I am not breastfeeding, and it is not up for discussion." And then literally do not answer him (or anyone else) if they mention it again. What are they going to do, rip off your shirt and force the baby on your breast?

Also, bring those little bottles of premade formula to the hospital, and be prepared to tell the nurses & doctors that you are not breastfeeding. If they suggest you try, just say "that won't be possible."
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 21:43     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:One thing you maybe haven’t considered is how much easier nursing is than formula once you get the hand of it. Going out? Great, pack a diaper and wipes. No need for formula, water, sterile bottle, and cleaning it all over again when you get home. For me, I was so glad to give up the bottle with my second.


I found nursing way more difficult than bottle feeding. I was very uncomfortable with doing it in public, so I'd have to go sit in the car with a cover on.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 21:42     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:1. Formula is not as good as breastmilk.
2. Moot point because it’s your choice.
3. Keep an open mind but say whatever you need to keep everyone off your back.


Formula is absolutely as good as breastmilk. Stop acting like you're so clever- you're obviously a zealot.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 21:39     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:One thing you maybe haven’t considered is how much easier nursing is than formula once you get the hand of it. Going out? Great, pack a diaper and wipes. No need for formula, water, sterile bottle, and cleaning it all over again when you get home. For me, I was so glad to give up the bottle with my second.


Are you joking? Being the only one who can feed your baby is not easy at all. Nursing is much harder than formula. With formula, anyone can feed your baby. Your husband, mother, mother in law, friend, heck anyone, can help with overnight feedings or bedtime feedings. You could even get a sitter!
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 21:30     Subject: Re:I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
You don't need a reason not to breastfeed. If YOU don't want to BF, don't. Nobody can decide that for you, and you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 20:53     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Don’t breastfeed. Tell people you’re not crowdsourcing it. Tell DH you really hear him and understand his points, but after giving it a lot of thought, you’ve made your decision. When there’s an impasse, the person whose body it is gets the final say.

I didn’t love BF and was thrilled to stop. My regret was that I didn’t stop sooner, because I spent a lot of energy and emotion agonizing about it and disliking it. I could have put that energy into enjoying my baby.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 20:46     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
One thing you maybe haven’t considered is how much easier nursing is than formula once you get the hand of it. Going out? Great, pack a diaper and wipes. No need for formula, water, sterile bottle, and cleaning it all over again when you get home. For me, I was so glad to give up the bottle with my second.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 20:43     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
1. Formula is not as good as breastmilk.
2. Moot point because it’s your choice.
3. Keep an open mind but say whatever you need to keep everyone off your back.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 20:43     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just be prepared for all the judgement you will feel when you bottle feed a small baby in public.


OK, are you also going to warn OP that if she does choose to breastfeed, to be ready for the glares and "that bitch is crazy" shared glances that others gave me when I had the audacity to breastfeed in public? And YES, I used a cover. Every time.

I also got a lot of leering commentary from old, disgusting men.


NP. What sort of places are you frequenting, PP? I’m in California (where I guess there’s more of a push towards being healthy) but it’s totally normal to breastfeed here.


Well, wouldn't logic dictate that--as I'm posting on DC Urban Moms and Dads--I'm frequenting...the DC area?

It's also normal to breastfeed here. Tons of women do. We do get some looks and comments. And we keep on keeping on.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 20:39     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
OP, I wouldn’t stock up on any formula - you don’t know which one is going to work the best. We tried a few things, and then settled on one that thankfully was similar enough to the Target generic to use that. Formula is very well regulated so don’t tie yourself in knots looking for “the best”.
Anonymous
Post 10/06/2019 20:19     Subject: I Don't Want To Breastfeed..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just be prepared for all the judgement you will feel when you bottle feed a small baby in public.


OK, are you also going to warn OP that if she does choose to breastfeed, to be ready for the glares and "that bitch is crazy" shared glances that others gave me when I had the audacity to breastfeed in public? And YES, I used a cover. Every time.

I also got a lot of leering commentary from old, disgusting men.


NP. What sort of places are you frequenting, PP? I’m in California (where I guess there’s more of a push towards being healthy) but it’s totally normal to breastfeed here.