Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s actually worse than a choice between mother and baby because there are numerous reports of Catholic hospitals insisting that they will not permit the fetus to be removed when there’s a heartbeat even though it is clear it cannot survive and the mother is septic.
Is that legal?
They are being reckless in denying care
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would have chosen the baby’s life over my own - until I became a mother. DC #1 and #2 deserved to have their mom.
I don't get what you are saying
Would it not be better for the kids to have some kind of mother instead of no mothy
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s actually worse than a choice between mother and baby because there are numerous reports of Catholic hospitals insisting that they will not permit the fetus to be removed when there’s a heartbeat even though it is clear it cannot survive and the mother is septic.
Is that legal?
They are being reckless in denying care
Anonymous wrote:I would have chosen the baby’s life over my own - until I became a mother. DC #1 and #2 deserved to have their mom.
Anonymous wrote:It’s actually worse than a choice between mother and baby because there are numerous reports of Catholic hospitals insisting that they will not permit the fetus to be removed when there’s a heartbeat even though it is clear it cannot survive and the mother is septic.
Anonymous wrote:I just want to say that a lot of expectant mothers would choose to save the baby's life over their own. So this isn't just a Catholic thing. There was even a thread on DCUM about this where most people would choose their baby's life over theirs. I personally would choose me and made this clear to DH. I need to be alive to care for my other children and I can have more children later. It's a personal decision. But I always had that discussion with DH while I was pregnant because he'd make the decisions for me if I was incapacitated.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
At Georgetown, I understood very clearly that some doctors saw themselves as my doctor, while others viewed themselves as the baby's doctor. A situation arose during my three-day induction, when I decided to ride out the time of the doctor on duty to get the care I needed.
After delivery, a nurse did come to me to ask about Obama. I'm black, maybe that's why?!!! He was newly-elected, so maybe she was doing this to everyone? She was quite young and seemed sweet. Never asked about the birth or the baby. She pulled my blanket straight then launched into a diatribe about how sad it was that Obama was going to kill all of the babies. I held my firstborn in my arms and remained silent until she wandered out.
I used one of those feedback cards to state my discomfort and note how inappropriate I thought it was for her to talk about such things as a representative of the hospital.
They also had very strange policies about cord blood donations. It had something to do with stem cells.
I had no issues with cord blood there. It is a completely separate source of stem cells than those from aborted fetuses. When expected my younger DD, we were encouraged to bank hers due to her rather unusual mixed ancestry.
Anonymous wrote:I had a miscarriage while seeing doctors at Georgetown and they gave me the option of letting it play out naturally or having a D&C.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When I was a teenager, my mom told me that if I ever had a baby, don't go to a Catholic hospital because if something went wrong and the doctor had to choose just one of us to save, he’d save the baby. Was there any truth to that? I assume it’s not true today.
This is almost verbatim from a novel from the 60s. I want to say Peyton Place? I remember reading my mom’s copy decades ago.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just last week, something similar happened in a small town in Washington state where the only hospital was Catholic.
https://rewire.news/article/2019/09/25/miscarriage-catholic-hospital/
And more info here in a Forbes article about how widespread this is.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/judystone/2016/05/07/health-care-denied-at-550-hospitals-because-of-catholic-doctrine/#25d6a0c5ad9d
Just to be fair, it looks like the people enacting these laws were hospital administrators and nurses. The people seen in the ED were “providers,” and the only MD mentioned was essentially an admin as well. From the article, the physicians involved in the actual
patient care were the ones who advocated for and saved these women.
This. Don’t conflate doctors with administrators. Catholic doctors are actively fighting these policies at their specific institutions.
Catholic doctors invented oral contraceptives and are continuing to look for contraception that doesn’t violate the church’s policies. Catholic doctors are on call 24/7 in hospital ethics committees with decisions made within minutes. Catholic doctors are caring for patients anyway and risking getting fired. Catholic doctors are getting patients transferred out of these hospitals. In every case posted here, the doctors are taking care of patients.
Still though, if a choice of hospitals is available, wouldn’t you choose the one which doesn’t have policies and administrators and nurses who are more concerned with church doctrine than patient care? That’s all OP’s mom was saying. And if you have a choice, you’re lucky - in a lot of areas of this country you don’t have a number of hospitals to pick from.