Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 12:04     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

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Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.


Not quite. They aren’t “others” because of their skin color. They are “other” because we are talking about a teen mom with 3 kids. This story is about a person who makes bad decisions.



How do you

Jesus. You act like this mom was out doing drugs while her kids were who knows where. She was taking the kids to the playground. She was helping the older child with her homework. You keep telling yourself that it’s not because of her skin color.


That is the mom's story. We don't really know what happened to Dulce, do we? Can we just assume that a mother who would allow her 3 and 5 year old to play alone on a playground while she was distracted a good distance away AND then did not call the police for an hour or more once the child was discovered missing...is also completely trustworthy and truthful?

This is a 19 year old girl who has two children and is pregnant with a third (3 different fathers). Her reality is not something that most of us could ever relate to. You don't know who she was hanging around with or what she may have been involved in. She could be lying because she is terrified for all we know.


How do you know all of this background info about the mother?



I’m not the pp you quoted, but all of this info is in various mainstream news articles.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 12:02     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.


Not quite. They aren’t “others” because of their skin color. They are “other” because we are talking about a teen mom with 3 kids. This story is about a person who makes bad decisions.



How do you

Jesus. You act like this mom was out doing drugs while her kids were who knows where. She was taking the kids to the playground. She was helping the older child with her homework. You keep telling yourself that it’s not because of her skin color.


That is the mom's story. We don't really know what happened to Dulce, do we? Can we just assume that a mother who would allow her 3 and 5 year old to play alone on a playground while she was distracted a good distance away AND then did not call the police for an hour or more once the child was discovered missing...is also completely trustworthy and truthful?

This is a 19 year old girl who has two children and is pregnant with a third (3 different fathers). Her reality is not something that most of us could ever relate to. You don't know who she was hanging around with or what she may have been involved in. She could be lying because she is terrified for all we know.


How do you know all of this background info about the mother?
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 11:43     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.


Not quite. They aren’t “others” because of their skin color. They are “other” because we are talking about a teen mom with 3 kids. This story is about a person who makes bad decisions.


Jesus. You act like this mom was out doing drugs while her kids were who knows where. She was taking the kids to the playground. She was helping the older child with her homework. You keep telling yourself that it’s not because of her skin color.


Just stop. It’s not about race. It’s a very sad situation, and hopefully the child is found unharmed.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 11:06     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:There but by the grace of God go I...
Hope they find her.


+1
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 11:03     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.


Not quite. They aren’t “others” because of their skin color. They are “other” because we are talking about a teen mom with 3 kids. This story is about a person who makes bad decisions.


Jesus. You act like this mom was out doing drugs while her kids were who knows where. She was taking the kids to the playground. She was helping the older child with her homework. You keep telling yourself that it’s not because of her skin color.


That is the mom's story. We don't really know what happened to Dulce, do we? Can we just assume that a mother who would allow her 3 and 5 year old to play alone on a playground while she was distracted a good distance away AND then did not call the police for an hour or more once the child was discovered missing...is also completely trustworthy and truthful?

This is a 19 year old girl who has two children and is pregnant with a third (3 different fathers). Her reality is not something that most of us could ever relate to. You don't know who she was hanging around with or what she may have been involved in. She could be lying because she is terrified for all we know.


Yes - all of this, sadly. A 19 year old mother of almost 3, is not someone who is helping ANYONE with homework. Sorry.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 10:52     Subject: Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

^And, yes, gang and/or sex trafficking would be a very real concern.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 10:50     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.


Not quite. They aren’t “others” because of their skin color. They are “other” because we are talking about a teen mom with 3 kids. This story is about a person who makes bad decisions.


Jesus. You act like this mom was out doing drugs while her kids were who knows where. She was taking the kids to the playground. She was helping the older child with her homework. You keep telling yourself that it’s not because of her skin color.


That is the mom's story. We don't really know what happened to Dulce, do we? Can we just assume that a mother who would allow her 3 and 5 year old to play alone on a playground while she was distracted a good distance away AND then did not call the police for an hour or more once the child was discovered missing...is also completely trustworthy and truthful?

This is a 19 year old girl who has two children and is pregnant with a third (3 different fathers). Her reality is not something that most of us could ever relate to. You don't know who she was hanging around with or what she may have been involved in. She could be lying because she is terrified for all we know.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 10:41     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.


Not quite. They aren’t “others” because of their skin color. They are “other” because we are talking about a teen mom with 3 kids. This story is about a person who makes bad decisions.


Jesus. You act like this mom was out doing drugs while her kids were who knows where. She was taking the kids to the playground. She was helping the older child with her homework. You keep telling yourself that it’s not because of her skin color.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 08:48     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.


Not quite. They aren’t “others” because of their skin color. They are “other” because we are talking about a teen mom with 3 kids. This story is about a person who makes bad decisions.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 08:17     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.



Nailed it.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 08:15     Subject: Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

The hovering over your children all the time thing is fairly new, only really in the past generation. Those of us who grew up in the 80s or earlier did not experience this. It's really sad how many of you are blaming the mom, instead of the scumbag man who took a child; that is the far more alarming facet.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 08:11     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


Ok I am PP and reading these responses and I finally get it. I was trying to figure out why the media coverage was so inconsistent and inaccurate and why so many people are just like - well it was the mom’s fault her child got abducted. It’s because the child was an “other” and the mom was an “other”. If she were a blue eyed blond little girl, there would be a well-controlled media message to GET THIS GIRL FOUND AND HOME AND SAFE, thoughts and prayers for the family, protectiveness for the family, and focus on finding her instead of placing blame on the mother.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 07:51     Subject: Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Sure are a lot of perfect parents in this thread.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2019 06:00     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??


She has a history of criminal behavior, so of course she wants to avoid having police involved.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2019 23:24     Subject: Re:Missing child from NJ- Dulce Alvarez

Anonymous wrote:PPs who are blaming the mom are seriously disgusting me right now. Callous, uncalled for, and placing blame in the wrong hands. The risk of abduction is remarkably low, the lowest it’s ever been in history. Yes it happens, and lightning can also strike your child. I just can’t believe that when this is clearly a case where the child is taken by a stranger and meant to be harmed in a horrible way, the focus is on the “neglect” of the mother who dared to take her children to the playground while helping her niece with her homework in her car.


First she wasn't watching her young children or she would have noticed a man luring her 5 year old into a van. Then she waited an HOUR to call the police - WTH??