Anonymous
Post 09/04/2019 16:54     Subject: ExH is a Bum
Sounds like my ex. At some point, just drop tying to push a relationship on your daughter that the father clearly doesn’t prioritize in the same way. You are not responsible for their relationship. You are responsible for providing fair access to his child so he can develop his relationship with the child.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2019 15:38     Subject: ExH is a Bum
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can someone please clarify this...

I always thought that during dad's time, mom has no say regarding who's providing transportation to and from daycare to dad's house, babysitting, etc?

Does the fact that the person picking up DD is is the father's wife (lethally married, rather than a girlfriend) make a difference?

The reason OP is saying no is NOT because she's concerned about her child's welfare when she's with her stepmom... she's already admitted it's because she feels her ex isn't putting enough effort as it is.

That being said, if OP isn't concerned for her child's welfare/safety with stepmom, how would a judge view this?

Would the judge think that OP is overstepping by making this decision based on HER perspective?

Would a judge think it's the OP's place to determine what her ex's level of effort should be, or would this decision be entirely up to the judge if she protested?


Most judges support parents having right of first refusal - meaning before one parent outsources childcare, they offer the time to the other parent first.

This is common practice. A judge wouldn’t blink at OP offering to pick up her daughter on days her dad can’t make it.


Offering, sure. Demanding or purposely cutting into her ex’s parenting time if her ex wants his wife to pick up the kid, no. OP doesn’t get to decide that and I’m fairly sure a judge would say the same thing if this were taken into court. Judges don’t look favorably upon one parent trying to limit the time of the other parent for no valid reason. We’re talking a pickup where she is going to spend time with his dad and legal wife, who are now a team for parenting purposes. Sorry you hate your ex but it doesn’t work this way.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2019 15:29     Subject: ExH is a Bum
I haven’t read your other threads, but you’ve got to let him deal with your child on his terms when it’s his time. He’s married, he gets to arrange childcare during his time, and if it’s his wife whose going to do some/all of his pick ups and drop offs you’ve just gotta let him do it. You don’t get to monopolize his parenting time.