Anonymous
11/04/2019 17:39
Subject: Am I crazy? Try again at 45
Anonymous wrote:OP. Like yourself, I've been trying for sibling the last 6 years with track record of 3BFP, 3MC, 1PGS normal not implanting, etc. I am trying my last cycle at the age of 45, too. We have MF and need ICSI so we also don't have that option to "TRY every month".
Although I feel fortunate that we have our first kid, I have to be honest here that at times I still resent DH for him hesitating and not taking the sperm analysis test sooner. I had done my part of test a whole lot earlier than him. Had we known his condition sooner, we could have started this journey a lot sooner. DH's take was "Oh, if we have kid that is great, if not, we'll just have a great time just two of us" mentality. This was before his MF was discovered.
I was sooooooo annoyed by his comments. Like, you knew how much I wanted a baby and you knew I had been seeing a Dr. to run a preliminary tests and all? and say these things?!!
(years later, I still get super annoyed remembering his dumb comments).
I feel you - its really hard not to resent DH - i also feel like its his fault that we're in this boat (same thing - i'm not in a rush, we need to wait till I graduate (from a freaking doctoral program that took 5 years))... I am thinking its not healthy to feel resentful - have you figured out how to handle?
Anonymous
11/04/2019 16:06
Subject: Am I crazy? Try again at 45
OP. Like yourself, I've been trying for sibling the last 6 years with track record of 3BFP, 3MC, 1PGS normal not implanting, etc. I am trying my last cycle at the age of 45, too. We have MF and need ICSI so we also don't have that option to "TRY every month".
Although I feel fortunate that we have our first kid, I have to be honest here that at times I still resent DH for him hesitating and not taking the sperm analysis test sooner. I had done my part of test a whole lot earlier than him. Had we known his condition sooner, we could have started this journey a lot sooner. DH's take was "Oh, if we have kid that is great, if not, we'll just have a great time just two of us" mentality. This was before his MF was discovered.
I was sooooooo annoyed by his comments. Like, you knew how much I wanted a baby and you knew I had been seeing a Dr. to run a preliminary tests and all? and say these things?!!
(years later, I still get super annoyed remembering his dumb comments).
Although I feel fortunate that we have our first kid, I have to be honest here that at times I still resent DH for him hesitating and not taking the sperm analysis test sooner. I had done my part of test a whole lot earlier than him. Had we known his condition sooner, we could have started this journey a lot sooner. DH's take was "Oh, if we have kid that is great, if not, we'll just have a great time just two of us" mentality. This was before his MF was discovered.
I was sooooooo annoyed by his comments. Like, you knew how much I wanted a baby and you knew I had been seeing a Dr. to run a preliminary tests and all? and say these things?!!
(years later, I still get super annoyed remembering his dumb comments).
Anonymous
09/06/2019 09:07
Subject: Am I crazy? Try again at 45
Agree with others that it is worth a shot if you have the finances and physical and emotional health to manage it not working out in the end.
If you're curious about being an older parent, I would not sweat that. I have many friends who are 45+ as new or secondtime parents. My DH is 50 and we have a one year old.
If you're curious about being an older parent, I would not sweat that. I have many friends who are 45+ as new or secondtime parents. My DH is 50 and we have a one year old.