Interesting to see others not care that much about cheating. I feel the same, like if my wife screwed someone else so what, it's totally a normal urge and then we can get real about exploring the doldrums of monogamy.

But of equal importance, why on Earth would I shred my finances and my kids future and my ability to retire just because she took some strange?

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Anonymous wrote:Husband. We’ve been together 24 years and I’ve never cheated and I doubt she has either. With this much time together if I found out she slipped up I wouldn’t be angry, in fact I’d be kind of happy for her.

Interesting. Why?

different poster, also a man, and I actually totally understand this. Monogamy is a real slog, I am not a sexually jealous person and would be happy to each have our own get out of jail free for a moment to experience that thrill again. I would probably high-five my wife if she had a great time, as long as she didn't catch anything. If you're married a long time, it starts to make more sense than you think

Same here and I'm the DW. I told him that I don't want to know, but we're not getting divorced under any circumstances. After 25+ years and half my life with him, I don't begrudge him a night off.

If I found out my wife stepped out and didn't fess up quickly I'd probably have some feelings of frustration etc at first, but I think I'd quickly get over it. I'd be happy that the charade of monogamy had been chipped away a little. And I'd definitely take a turn.

But honestly, after being with the same woman for so many years I probably wouldn't be able to perform well for someone new, especially with a condom on. -np

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Anonymous wrote:No, I still adore him. I don't think he has cheated either.
We have sex multiple times per week, with equally matched drives. We both initiate.

Married 17 years, together for 21.

FYI, my cheater Ex was having sex with me multiple tomes a week the entire time he was cheating and I never tutrned him down when he initiated.

It’s a myth that husbands who get enough sex don’t cheat. Mine begged me not to end our relationship when I found out and confronted him. I think he was never so surprised in his life that he wasn’t going to continue sleeping with me.

There are no guarantees, but probabilities do matter.
It is quite rare for a husband who gets enough sex to cheat.
It is even more rare for a husband who does NOT get enough sex to NOT cheat.

Where are you getting these stats? Citation?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I still adore him. I don't think he has cheated either.
We have sex multiple times per week, with equally matched drives. We both initiate.

Married 17 years, together for 21.

FYI, my cheater Ex was having sex with me multiple tomes a week the entire time he was cheating and I never tutrned him down when he initiated.

It’s a myth that husbands who get enough sex don’t cheat. Mine begged me not to end our relationship when I found out and confronted him. I think he was never so surprised in his life that he wasn’t going to continue sleeping with me.

There are no guarantees, but probabilities do matter.
It is quite rare for a husband who gets enough sex to cheat.
It is even more rare for a husband who does NOT get enough sex to NOT cheat.

Where are you getting these stats? Citation?

C'mon you know how people are in these discussions...
Getting them out of thin air of course.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I still adore him. I don't think he has cheated either.
We have sex multiple times per week, with equally matched drives. We both initiate.

Married 17 years, together for 21.

FYI, my cheater Ex was having sex with me multiple tomes a week the entire time he was cheating and I never tutrned him down when he initiated.

It’s a myth that husbands who get enough sex don’t cheat. Mine begged me not to end our relationship when I found out and confronted him. I think he was never so surprised in his life that he wasn’t going to continue sleeping with me.

There are no guarantees, but probabilities do matter.
It is quite rare for a husband who gets enough sex to cheat.
It is even more rare for a husband who does NOT get enough sex to NOT cheat.

Where are you getting these stats? Citation?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you a husband or a wife? How did you cheat on your aoouse? Did they find out?

None of your business.

Why do you even reply to these threads?

HA!!
Couldn't resist!!

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Anonymous wrote:No, I still adore him. I don't think he has cheated either.
We have sex multiple times per week, with equally matched drives. We both initiate.

Married 17 years, together for 21.

FYI, my cheater Ex was having sex with me multiple tomes a week the entire time he was cheating and I never tutrned him down when he initiated.

It’s a myth that husbands who get enough sex don’t cheat. Mine begged me not to end our relationship when I found out and confronted him. I think he was never so surprised in his life that he wasn’t going to continue sleeping with me.

There are no guarantees, but probabilities do matter.
It is quite rare for a husband who gets enough sex to cheat.
It is even more rare for a husband who does NOT get enough sex to NOT cheat.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Husband. We’ve been together 24 years and I’ve never cheated and I doubt she has either. With this much time together if I found out she slipped up I wouldn’t be angry, in fact I’d be kind of happy for her.

Interesting. Why?

different poster, also a man, and I actually totally understand this. Monogamy is a real slog, I am not a sexually jealous person and would be happy to each have our own get out of jail free for a moment to experience that thrill again. I would probably high-five my wife if she had a great time, as long as she didn't catch anything. If you're married a long time, it starts to make more sense than you think

Same here and I'm the DW. I told him that I don't want to know, but we're not getting divorced under any circumstances. After 25+ years and half my life with him, I don't begrudge him a night off.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I still adore him. I don't think he has cheated either.
We have sex multiple times per week, with equally matched drives. We both initiate.

Married 17 years, together for 21.

FYI, my cheater Ex was having sex with me multiple tomes a week the entire time he was cheating and I never tutrned him down when he initiated.

It’s a myth that husbands who get enough sex don’t cheat. Mine begged me not to end our relationship when I found out and confronted him. I think he was never so surprised in his life that he wasn’t going to continue sleeping with me.

Mine was getting it from me multiple times a week when he cheated, too.

That's why I said, I don't *think* he's cheated. I know it's not about sexual frequency, but we are happy and he's not sneaking around anywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I still adore him. I don't think he has cheated either.
We have sex multiple times per week, with equally matched drives. We both initiate.

Married 17 years, together for 21.

FYI, my cheater Ex was having sex with me multiple tomes a week the entire time he was cheating and I never tutrned him down when he initiated.

It’s a myth that husbands who get enough sex don’t cheat. Mine begged me not to end our relationship when I found out and confronted him. I think he was never so surprised in his life that he wasn’t going to continue sleeping with me.

Mine was getting it from me multiple times a week when he cheated, too.

No, but ex-DH did. My current DH is attentive, supportive, and one of the most likable people you will ever meet. Would be surprised if he has cheated and quite frankly, if it did happen and was short, would rather not know.

If he really wanted sexual variety, I would rather we talk about it and figure out a solution, maybe finding another couple in the same situation and figuring out boundaries. It isn't sexually desiring someone else that would bother me (we're not dead), but the secrets and lying that would hurt.

Anonymous wrote:No, I still adore him. I don't think he has cheated either.
We have sex multiple times per week, with equally matched drives. We both initiate.

Married 17 years, together for 21.

FYI, my cheater Ex was having sex with me multiple tomes a week the entire time he was cheating and I never tutrned him down when he initiated.

It’s a myth that husbands who get enough sex don’t cheat. Mine begged me not to end our relationship when I found out and confronted him. I think he was never so surprised in his life that he wasn’t going to continue sleeping with me.

No, never have. But he cheated on me a few years ago.

No, I've never had a need to as my husband of 31 years is still very happy to jump into bed with me once or twice a week. I can't imagine that my husband has cheated as he has a very strong moral compass and I'm pretty sure I meet his needs.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you a husband or a wife? How did you cheat on your aoouse? Did they find out?

None of your business.

Why do you even reply to these threads?