Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 08:19     Subject: Re:Feeling guilty about early drop off

I had that amazing schedule ... then they went to school and I was so happy to be able to get them at 3 when school ended... but NOOOO they wanted to go to aftercare. Why? It was fun and a bunch of kids with SAHM had kids in aftercare too, because that is where the fun is... so I had to eventually shift my schedule to work until 3:30, PU at 4 so my kids could do aftercare.

It was so nice to have 3-8 with my kids and then eventually 4-9 when they were in school.

I really could not think of a better scenario.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 08:16     Subject: Re:Feeling guilty about early drop off

Anonymous wrote:Morning nanny - 100% worth it. She can come over in AM, feed kids, get them to bus/daycare, and then be done. Hours are 7-9 or so. Being at daycare at 6:30 would mean getting kids up at 5:45 latest to be able to eat, get dressed, etc. That would suck.

Good option if you offer at least $25/hr and can manage a decent relationship with her. Best to look for someone in your neighborhood.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 08:13     Subject: Re:Feeling guilty about early drop off

OP, I’m not going to lie. I’m totally jealous of your part time work schedule and short commute. This is my dream schedule. I would be up with my middle schooler (his bus comes at 6:30am) and my husband would help my elementary school child in the mornings, even though she is plenty self sufficient. I would be home with plenty of time to make dinner, help them if they have questions about math home work, and to drive them to their respective sports. My only recommendation is to stabling an earlier bed time schedule. Good luck to you in your new endeavor!!!
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 08:07     Subject: Re:Feeling guilty about early drop off

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where on earth would you find a morning nanny from 7-9 am? I can’t imagine anyone willing to work such short hours.


There are people who would be willing to work 10-15 hours a week in the morning for some extra money. A college kid who has classes later in the morning or someone who can watch the kids in the AM and then go to a 9:30-5:30 job. Maybe a SAHM with older kids who wouldn't mind some extra money. I suspect that if you looked on CARE.com or talked to a service you could find someone. It is not that different then a college kid who picks your kids up from school and watches them until you get home. I have several friend who have this arrangement.




Look at these boards...part time care with short hours gets you the crappiest, flakiest candidates.


Agreed- many people who have never personally looked for this type of help are assuring us that "there are people who would be willing to work" those hours. Sure - for a week or two. It's my experience that often times (not always, but often) the people working those short shifts oversleep or just lose interest after a few weeks. And a college kid looking for a few extra hours - sure, it works for this semester but not next, then you have to find someone new.

OP - change is hard. Your baby will be fine with an early daycare drop off, especially as they'll be picked up so early! The first few days will be hard, then everyone will get used to the new schedule. Congratulations on the new job, and good luck!
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 08:00     Subject: Feeling guilty about early drop off

I have one child that arrives at my home daycare early. We snuggle up and read books together for the first 1/2 hour. Child cheerfully comes in the door happily chirping about what books they want to start with. The child is also the first one picked up and gets lots of quality family time at home too.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 07:59     Subject: Re:Feeling guilty about early drop off

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, it's fine! Everyone can just go to bed early and get up early. Just shift the sleep schedules a bit. It's great that you will be home so early in the afternoon and great that you have summers off. People shaming the OP are wrong, wrong, wrong.

This!


+1

You just need to keep this schedule all week. You will all be fine.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 07:53     Subject: Feeling guilty about early drop off

Anonymous wrote:Everyone is crazy. I know plenty of kids up at 5:30 and ready to go. And the early pick up is awesome! Your kids will be fine. Congrats on the new position!


Me too, I was that crazy lady at the park at 7am since my kids had been awake for a while.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2019 19:55     Subject: Re:Feeling guilty about early drop off

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where on earth would you find a morning nanny from 7-9 am? I can’t imagine anyone willing to work such short hours.


My friends have a young lady who comes to their house before her full time job starts. She gets the kids up, ready, and drops them off at school, and then goes to work. I think they found her through care.com and she's been with them for over a year.


How much would you pay for someone like this?
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2019 16:51     Subject: Feeling guilty about early drop off

Our kids' childcare was lovely in early mornings and extended afternoon times. It was quieter and the teachers would make it special. Lots of attention.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2019 16:35     Subject: Feeling guilty about early drop off

I gave my kids the option of getting up early to go to morning care, but then not having to stay in after care, and they jumped at it! They don't mind morning care, and love being able to come home right after school.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2019 16:33     Subject: Feeling guilty about early drop off

So you will working in Loudoun? All Loudoun ES teachers have this schedule.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2019 16:31     Subject: Feeling guilty about early drop off

One thing I would consider is keeping to the same schedule rather than 3 days up and out early, two days later and then weekends. Depends on the kids, but three different variations would have been hard on one of mine.
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2019 16:25     Subject: Re:Feeling guilty about early drop off

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's fine! Everyone can just go to bed early and get up early. Just shift the sleep schedules a bit. It's great that you will be home so early in the afternoon and great that you have summers off. People shaming the OP are wrong, wrong, wrong.

This!
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2019 16:19     Subject: Re:Feeling guilty about early drop off

I did the same schedule but both my kids woke at 6am naturally.

then they napped from 8-10 and 1-3, so basically they were in "other"care 1.5+2 hours = 3.5 hours

How is that not ideal?

I loved it!
Anonymous
Post 08/06/2019 16:17     Subject: Re:Feeling guilty about early drop off

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where on earth would you find a morning nanny from 7-9 am? I can’t imagine anyone willing to work such short hours.


There are people who would be willing to work 10-15 hours a week in the morning for some extra money. A college kid who has classes later in the morning or someone who can watch the kids in the AM and then go to a 9:30-5:30 job. Maybe a SAHM with older kids who wouldn't mind some extra money. I suspect that if you looked on CARE.com or talked to a service you could find someone. It is not that different then a college kid who picks your kids up from school and watches them until you get home. I have several friend who have this arrangement.




Look at these boards...part time care with short hours gets you the crappiest, flakiest candidates.