Anonymous
08/06/2019 07:02
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:FWIW I tend to get quiet during birth experience stories because I had an amazing planned C, and I was so happy and thrilled with the experience that I feel bad talking about it with people who had much worse vaginal birth experiences.
I can't imagine what's "amazing" about having major surgery. Most people would choose not to do so. I wouldn't classify my vaginal birth as "amazing" but I was up and walking around the day after birth and I didn't have to stay in the hospital for 4 days to recover from surgery.
I was up and walking around the day after my emergency cs.
Anonymous
08/06/2019 01:19
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
Anonymous wrote:FWIW I tend to get quiet during birth experience stories because I had an amazing planned C, and I was so happy and thrilled with the experience that I feel bad talking about it with people who had much worse vaginal birth experiences.
I can't imagine what's "amazing" about having major surgery. Most people would choose not to do so. I wouldn't classify my vaginal birth as "amazing" but I was up and walking around the day after birth and I didn't have to stay in the hospital for 4 days to recover from surgery.
Anonymous
08/06/2019 01:17
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
FWIW I tend to get quiet during birth experience stories because I had an amazing planned C, and I was so happy and thrilled with the experience that I feel bad talking about it with people who had much worse vaginal birth experiences.
Anonymous
08/06/2019 00:22
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
Anonymous wrote:I’m the PP who wished for a reason to have a scheduled c section instead of a VBAC. I’m aware that it’s my choice and I can make it without guilt. (No one is pressuring me into a VBAC—in fact my mom has gently suggested she thinks I shouldn’t do it and am not missing anything but stepped back after sharing her feelings. DH doesn’t care. OB is very supportive of trying a VBAC if I want but hasn’t pushed it either.)
I’m genuinely struggling with the decision and feel like fear of all the issues with vaginal deliveries mentioned here is the only reason I’d pick a c section and I try not to make decisions on fear alone. My emergency c section was traumatic; not even seeing my dd for 12 hours and not holding her for 36 hours and leaving the hospital without her for 6 weeks was traumatic. And while none of that had anything to do with me having a c section I do hate the idea of choosing another situation where I’m physically unable to immediately hold my baby and one where I’m in too much physical pain to lift the baby or care for him myself for probably 7-10 days. I feel like I really missed out on bonding with my newborn last time and it took months to build a bond with her. So while none of *my* reasons for hesitating to schedule a c section should impact OP since she already had a vaginal birth, it is a tough choice for me to make and I can’t help but wish it would just be taken out of my hands.
I’ve had two c-sections and with both the baby was put on my chest right away and had hardly any pain. Definitely took care of them myself the first week. Could definitely lift them up. Changed diapers in the hospital, etc... Your fear of not being able to take care of the baby will not happen in a normal, planned c-section.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 23:15
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
Lots of reasons. I forget. Try Wikipedia
Anonymous
08/05/2019 23:13
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
Anonymous wrote:I’m the PP who wished for a reason to have a scheduled c section instead of a VBAC. I’m aware that it’s my choice and I can make it without guilt. (No one is pressuring me into a VBAC—in fact my mom has gently suggested she thinks I shouldn’t do it and am not missing anything but stepped back after sharing her feelings. DH doesn’t care. OB is very supportive of trying a VBAC if I want but hasn’t pushed it either.)
I’m genuinely struggling with the decision and feel like fear of all the issues with vaginal deliveries mentioned here is the only reason I’d pick a c section and I try not to make decisions on fear alone. My emergency c section was traumatic; not even seeing my dd for 12 hours and not holding her for 36 hours and leaving the hospital without her for 6 weeks was traumatic. And while none of that had anything to do with me having a c section I do hate the idea of choosing another situation where I’m physically unable to immediately hold my baby and one where I’m in too much physical pain to lift the baby or care for him myself for probably 7-10 days. I feel like I really missed out on bonding with my newborn last time and it took months to build a bond with her. So while none of *my* reasons for hesitating to schedule a c section should impact OP since she already had a vaginal birth, it is a tough choice for me to make and I can’t help but wish it would just be taken out of my hands.
I had an emergency C after a long labor, and I held my baby as soon as they got all her stats (and for the trip being wheeled down the hall back to recovery). I definitely took it easy for the first 2 days in the hospital but it was nowhere near 7-10 days before I could lift/care for her. I think there's an element of fear in your description of c-section aftermath because it's all very worst-case scenario.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 23:09
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Better than what? Whatever your complications that made your doctor recommend a C-section, it's probably better than the worst-case scenario there.
No obviously yes that. Grateful to be doing a C bc it’s the safest option for both of us but what are the pros of C that I wouldn’t think of?
It's scheduled. Otherwise, nothing.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 23:01
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
My #1 would be the ability to use your sick leave for 8 weeks vs just 6 weeks. It bumped a lot of women in my moms group to 14 weeks paid vs 12 weeks. Even if it’s not paid, an extra 2 weeks is great.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 22:26
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
I’m the PP who wished for a reason to have a scheduled c section instead of a VBAC. I’m aware that it’s my choice and I can make it without guilt. (No one is pressuring me into a VBAC—in fact my mom has gently suggested she thinks I shouldn’t do it and am not missing anything but stepped back after sharing her feelings. DH doesn’t care. OB is very supportive of trying a VBAC if I want but hasn’t pushed it either.)
I’m genuinely struggling with the decision and feel like fear of all the issues with vaginal deliveries mentioned here is the only reason I’d pick a c section and I try not to make decisions on fear alone. My emergency c section was traumatic; not even seeing my dd for 12 hours and not holding her for 36 hours and leaving the hospital without her for 6 weeks was traumatic. And while none of that had anything to do with me having a c section I do hate the idea of choosing another situation where I’m physically unable to immediately hold my baby and one where I’m in too much physical pain to lift the baby or care for him myself for probably 7-10 days. I feel like I really missed out on bonding with my newborn last time and it took months to build a bond with her. So while none of *my* reasons for hesitating to schedule a c section should impact OP since she already had a vaginal birth, it is a tough choice for me to make and I can’t help but wish it would just be taken out of my hands.
I’m genuinely struggling with the decision and feel like fear of all the issues with vaginal deliveries mentioned here is the only reason I’d pick a c section and I try not to make decisions on fear alone. My emergency c section was traumatic; not even seeing my dd for 12 hours and not holding her for 36 hours and leaving the hospital without her for 6 weeks was traumatic. And while none of that had anything to do with me having a c section I do hate the idea of choosing another situation where I’m physically unable to immediately hold my baby and one where I’m in too much physical pain to lift the baby or care for him myself for probably 7-10 days. I feel like I really missed out on bonding with my newborn last time and it took months to build a bond with her. So while none of *my* reasons for hesitating to schedule a c section should impact OP since she already had a vaginal birth, it is a tough choice for me to make and I can’t help but wish it would just be taken out of my hands.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 21:37
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
I had a planned c section for stubbornly breech DD. I post often, but it wad the most amazing “birth story” I could ever imagine.
I was able to work up until the morning of my section (my choice - I have a great job and it allowed for me to tie up loose ends). I walked into L and D, they wrapped me in a gloriously warm gown that pumped out heat for the two hours it took for pre op (it was late December and -30C Where I live). I asked for a light environment.. and I got it. Everyone was laughing and joking; the nurses played a few jokes on the OB. My midwife was with me, the resident took pics of DH in his scrub gear.. it was everything that I didn’t want but so, so perfect.
I didn’t have the pain that so many people have. I was in Naprosyn and ibuprofen coming home.
Like anything, it wasn’t all perfect, I did have some complications, but ultimately, it was a really good day / experience.
I was able to work up until the morning of my section (my choice - I have a great job and it allowed for me to tie up loose ends). I walked into L and D, they wrapped me in a gloriously warm gown that pumped out heat for the two hours it took for pre op (it was late December and -30C Where I live). I asked for a light environment.. and I got it. Everyone was laughing and joking; the nurses played a few jokes on the OB. My midwife was with me, the resident took pics of DH in his scrub gear.. it was everything that I didn’t want but so, so perfect.
I didn’t have the pain that so many people have. I was in Naprosyn and ibuprofen coming home.
Like anything, it wasn’t all perfect, I did have some complications, but ultimately, it was a really good day / experience.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 21:26
Subject: Re:Tell me why a C section’s better
You might have to get a c section after all that pain trying to deliver through hard core labor! 1 had q c section with my now 12 yr old and another c with my now b/g 9 yr old twins
Anonymous
08/05/2019 21:14
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
I wouldn’t think of it in terms of “better” or “worse”. I would think of it as “different”. There are pros and cons to both, and a planned c/s is definitely better than an emergency after a long labor, and with a planned c/s risks can be effectively mitigated.
Good luck! Enjoy your baby!
Good luck! Enjoy your baby!
Anonymous
08/05/2019 21:11
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
I mean, I wouldn’t say they are better. In your Caden it sounds like it’s safer, so that’s a plus
Anonymous
08/05/2019 21:10
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
A c section is better than a dead baby or a dead mother. That’s why they were invented and improved upon for the past 100 years.
Anonymous
08/05/2019 20:56
Subject: Tell me why a C section’s better
Anonymous wrote:It really makes no difference. I did not plan a C-section with my first but ended up having an emergency one. Had elective one with my second to avoid the same situation. They are now eight and five and I haven’t thought about it since. I don’t pee when I jump. Maybe that’s a benefit? Honestly it makes no difference at all. Just enjoy your healthy baby.
Don’t dismiss the difficulty of incontinence. If you haven’t thought about your deliveries since and have had no lasting impacts on your body, you should be grateful and feel fortunate.