Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 08:52     Subject: Re:6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Trendy things you can buy in the store are nice, but it doesn't make people like you. I know you want to help her to fit in, but it sounds to me like your DD already has the "right stuff" on her own. She doesn't need to have the perfect pair of sneakers to find success. Being awkward at this age just makes her unique. Tell her to be herself...say hello to someone new...smile...be confident. Confidence looks great on everyone. Kids will see that she is special and want to be her friend for reasons that really matter.


Do you have a 6th grader? I think you underestimate just how immature, shallow, and vicious 6th grade girls can be. It's a difficult year, especially for girls. If a mom can make things a little easier by getting their child a few things, this could help DD's confidence level.


Actually, yes I do. I have one in 6th and one in 7th. They are both well liked, athletic, academically gifted and confident. My girls haven’t experienced anyone giving them a hard time about what water bottle they drink from, although to be fair if they asked for a hydro flask I would probably buy it. Seems sad to me to be starting the new school year loading your daughter up with the things DCUM thinks are cool instead of letting her decide that on her own, but it’s okay if we differ in opinion. To me, the people that only care what I drink water out of aren’t worth the “friendship.” Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 08:20     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
I think what you are doing for your daughter is great I have a single as well, you are supporting her. I don't know why people respond with snarky comments, just contribute or move on. My son and I bonded over shopping and he has a great fashion sense.

Blue jean cut off shorts with long sleeve tee shirts with writing on the arm is what is popular in our close in suburb. I'd have her have a generic type trendy outfit. Vans, converse, birks. If she has a friend going to the middle school they should plan their outfits together and try to meet up for support.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 07:53     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Wow... have we really reached a state where the kindof water bottle you have determines social acceptance...
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 06:52     Subject: Re:6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Trendy things you can buy in the store are nice, but it doesn't make people like you. I know you want to help her to fit in, but it sounds to me like your DD already has the "right stuff" on her own. She doesn't need to have the perfect pair of sneakers to find success. Being awkward at this age just makes her unique. Tell her to be herself...say hello to someone new...smile...be confident. Confidence looks great on everyone. Kids will see that she is special and want to be her friend for reasons that really matter.


Do you have a 6th grader? I think you underestimate just how immature, shallow, and vicious 6th grade girls can be. It's a difficult year, especially for girls. If a mom can make things a little easier by getting their child a few things, this could help DD's confidence level.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 06:39     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
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Anonymous wrote:My rising 6th grader is obsessed with vsco insta and tik Tok account where they share clothes, accessories and room decor trends.

checkered vans, jean cut off shorts, brandy Melville, hydroflasks with stickers, pura vida bracelets, scrunchies, all seem on trend, but I am a 40 something nerd so don't kill the messenger. I check my daughter's phone and accounts regularly and these are what I see often.


Except for the hydroflask (which I had to google) I should have just saved my wardrobe from 1990 and passed it all down.


I was just going to say this! Scrunchies on the wrist (coordinated to your outfit of course), bike shorts, vans?! Holy cow.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 06:38     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
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Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I understand the intent but appreciate your daughter for who she is, where she is in her maturity (she may be one of those kids who is still more child-like than trying to swim in the ever changing race of popular culture. If she pushes for something-sure-embrace the changes SHE wants to take but guide her on being true to herself.



I should have clarified. She really wants to fit in also and have the right stuff. We’re just not sure what the right stuff is


This is so sad



OP here. Why is it so sad? My kid is awesome and has her passions that she doesn’t let anyone give her shit about. Same with her quirks. If she wants to have the IN shoes or whatever that’s a normal developmental stage


Because a 6th grader should be asking HER friends about this and getting ideas from HER friends. Not having her mom do an online poll. It is sad that your daughter can't figure this out for herself.


Gosh, people are harsh. Don't you remember middle school? It's hard. And kids are mean. In my experience, many kids try to fit in in middle school, with clothes etc. By high school, they figure out it's not worth it and the quirky ones get a little more comfortable being themselves. But, it is not abnormal for a kid to want to fit in. OP"s daughter may not have friends she can ask or her friends may not have the style she's going for. Even very confident adults were not always that way. It's ok if it takes a minute for kids to find themselves. An on trend sweatshirt does not spell doom.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 06:35     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Jesus, pp. some kids really struggle socially and as parents we want to help them fit in as much as possible. I am not Op but I have a teen dd with no friends and I have asked similar questions in the past. Have a little perspective.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 06:28     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I understand the intent but appreciate your daughter for who she is, where she is in her maturity (she may be one of those kids who is still more child-like than trying to swim in the ever changing race of popular culture. If she pushes for something-sure-embrace the changes SHE wants to take but guide her on being true to herself.



I should have clarified. She really wants to fit in also and have the right stuff. We’re just not sure what the right stuff is


This is so sad


OP here. Why is it so sad? My kid is awesome and has her passions that she doesn’t let anyone give her shit about. Same with her quirks. If she wants to have the IN shoes or whatever that’s a normal developmental stage


Because a 6th grader should be asking HER friends about this and getting ideas from HER friends. Not having her mom do an online poll. It is sad that your daughter can't figure this out for herself.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 01:31     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:My rising 6th grader with more confidence than I had in my pinky at her age likes: leggings, Birkenstock’s, hollister high rise jeans (in LIGHT colors only, destroyed always good), forever 21, soft long baggy sweaters, cropped shirts of all varieties. Platform shoes. Refuses to cut her hair. Most of the clothes she wears are light light colors.

I see a lot of Adidas slides, athletic shorts, checkered vans, baggy sweatshirts, and baggy tees amongst her friends. That’s just not her style at all.

I’d never buy a kid a $40 water bottle.

She loves her waterfall glitter phone case with rose gold phone/pop socket.


Oh yeah, my rising 6th grader is also all about her phone case and pop socket. She likes her hydro flask with “cool” vinyl stickers all over it.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 00:32     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:My rising 6th grader with more confidence than I had in my pinky at her age likes: leggings, Birkenstock’s, hollister high rise jeans (in LIGHT colors only, destroyed always good), forever 21, soft long baggy sweaters, cropped shirts of all varieties. Platform shoes. Refuses to cut her hair. Most of the clothes she wears are light light colors.

I see a lot of Adidas slides, athletic shorts, checkered vans, baggy sweatshirts, and baggy tees amongst her friends. That’s just not her style at all.

I’d never buy a kid a $40 water bottle.

She loves her waterfall glitter phone case with rose gold phone/pop socket.

yet you buy her a pair of sandals that cost $100?!
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 00:30     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I understand the intent but appreciate your daughter for who she is, where she is in her maturity (she may be one of those kids who is still more child-like than trying to swim in the ever changing race of popular culture. If she pushes for something-sure-embrace the changes SHE wants to take but guide her on being true to herself.



I should have clarified. She really wants to fit in also and have the right stuff. We’re just not sure what the right stuff is


This is so sad


OP here. Why is it so sad? My kid is awesome and has her passions that she doesn’t let anyone give her shit about. Same with her quirks. If she wants to have the IN shoes or whatever that’s a normal developmental stage
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2019 00:14     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
My rising 6th grader with more confidence than I had in my pinky at her age likes: leggings, Birkenstock’s, hollister high rise jeans (in LIGHT colors only, destroyed always good), forever 21, soft long baggy sweaters, cropped shirts of all varieties. Platform shoes. Refuses to cut her hair. Most of the clothes she wears are light light colors.

I see a lot of Adidas slides, athletic shorts, checkered vans, baggy sweatshirts, and baggy tees amongst her friends. That’s just not her style at all.

I’d never buy a kid a $40 water bottle.

She loves her waterfall glitter phone case with rose gold phone/pop socket.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2019 22:52     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t. I understand the intent but appreciate your daughter for who she is, where she is in her maturity (she may be one of those kids who is still more child-like than trying to swim in the ever changing race of popular culture. If she pushes for something-sure-embrace the changes SHE wants to take but guide her on being true to herself.



I should have clarified. She really wants to fit in also and have the right stuff. We’re just not sure what the right stuff is


This is so sad
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2019 21:19     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:PP here from Los Angeles (now living in DC!)

The funny thing is my friends' daughters think I am SO COOL because I never stopped wearing slip on sneakers and hoodies on the weekends.


Yeah right. Don’t flatter yourself!
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2019 07:35     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:Trendy things you can buy in the store are nice, but it doesn't make people like you. I know you want to help her to fit in, but it sounds to me like your DD already has the "right stuff" on her own. She doesn't need to have the perfect pair of sneakers to find success. Being awkward at this age just makes her unique. Tell her to be herself...say hello to someone new...smile...be confident. Confidence looks great on everyone. Kids will see that she is special and want to be her friend for reasons that really matter.


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