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Anonymous wrote:I hate waste, too. But when we leave the beach, I frankly have zero desire to haul communal taco meat and leftover spaghetti 5+ hours in the car home from the beach.

MIL pouts that she packed us leftovers on our own steam and we declined. She pouts when we offer to toss them. Toss them or take them yourself!

And yes, we pay our own way.

How can someone else pack something for you “on [your] own steam”? I literally don’t understand what this is meant to convey.

Meaning no one asked MIL to do it; MIL took it upon herself to pack up leftovers FOR OTHER PEOPLE, only to pout that this effort was wasted when people didn't want the leftovers.

That’s on *her* own steam, not *their* own steam. Which isn’t what OP wrote.

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Anonymous wrote:I would’ve gladly taken already packed up leftovers. Food waste is horrible

Yes, it is. But leftover taco meat that has sat out for hours and been picked over by many isn't "food."

It is in my kitchen

Then YOU be the one to take it home. Problem solved.

Uh- I already said I would above.

Anonymous wrote:Might be a remnant of the time when people packed food for road trips.

Don't people still do this? We do. With small kids it's so much easier than standing in line at some rest stop, plus I have always hated fast food so I'm much happier bringing a sandwich or whatever. We do a long road trip once a year to visit family in the mid-West. We've made an art of packing the cooler and, unless it's pouring, we do all our stops at state parks or playgrounds so the kids can eat and run around. Even on our other trips in the Northeast to see family, we are certainly not the only ones at rest stops pulling out the PB&J sandwiches for the kids and the leftover whatever-it-is for DH and me.

I would be happy to take leftovers if (a) I liked them the first time around and (b) I actually planned to eat them. With a lot of my grandparents' or cousins' cooking, quite frankly, neither is true, so I make some excuse like "the cooler is full" or "we brought all the food we need for the trip, see if cousin X wants it instead."

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Anonymous wrote:I would’ve gladly taken already packed up leftovers. Food waste is horrible

Yes, it is. But leftover taco meat that has sat out for hours and been picked over by many isn't "food."

It is in my kitchen

Then YOU be the one to take it home. Problem solved.

YUP! I don't want your trash. If it is so yummy and nutritious, you eat it. With relish.

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Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.

We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.

Then continue to make your bed hard Bertha And come pout on the internet.
You and your mother-in-law are the same person you just don’t realize it.

This.
If you don't want the leftovers don't take them, but you and your MIL are behaving in similar manners.

You can also subject making less food, or having the last night be "leftover night".

Completely agree. Poor OPs husband married his mom.

Walk me through your thought process here.

Person 1 makes an offer

Person 2 politely declines the offer.

Person 1 pushes and pouts, and doesn't take a polite "no" as an answer.

Person 2 continues to politely decline, because they've made a decision and don't need to change it because of pouting and manipulation.

Tell me, exactly, how this behavior is on the same level.

Because OP is here, ranting about it and asking Why?, that's why the behavior is one the same level. Both the OP and the MIL have hard positions and will not compromise, and probably go back home.and complain. Same difference.

If you say no, and don't think about it again, and don't post to forums about it = not the same person. If you complain and vent constantly, same person. MiL insists you take leftovers and pouts when you don't, you refuse to take leftovers and pout.
The sameness is the hard line and then the pouting/complaining.

You better have never posted a vent thread, or added your own little vent to a vent thread, or you are a massive, massive hypocrite.

Also? Threads aren't required reading. So if you don't like vents/complaints, ease on down the road. Or don't...complain about complaints. Get it?

Beach week always involves wasting food. For example, we buy a small ketchup when we get there but don’t use it all in a week. So we throw out some ketchup at the end of the week. It’s unavoidable, even when everyone tries their best to minimize the waste.

It’s so not worth it to me to have this discussion about wasted food when we need to clean up pack out and drive home. Some food gets wasted at the beach. 100x times better than even one hour of food poisoning.

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Anonymous wrote:I would’ve gladly taken already packed up leftovers. Food waste is horrible

Yes, it is. But leftover taco meat that has sat out for hours and been picked over by many isn't "food."

It is in my kitchen

Then YOU be the one to take it home. Problem solved.

Anonymous wrote:Might be a remnant of the time when people packed food for road trips.

That was my thought.

Ok, decline and let her pout.

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Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.

We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.

Then continue to make your bed hard Bertha And come pout on the internet.
You and your mother-in-law are the same person you just don’t realize it.

This.
If you don't want the leftovers don't take them, but you and your MIL are behaving in similar manners.

You can also subject making less food, or having the last night be "leftover night".

Completely agree. Poor OPs husband married his mom.

Walk me through your thought process here.

Person 1 makes an offer

Person 2 politely declines the offer.

Person 1 pushes and pouts, and doesn't take a polite "no" as an answer.

Person 2 continues to politely decline, because they've made a decision and don't need to change it because of pouting and manipulation.

Tell me, exactly, how this behavior is on the same level.

Because OP is here, ranting about it and asking Why?, that's why the behavior is one the same level. Both the OP and the MIL have hard positions and will not compromise, and probably go back home.and complain. Same difference.

If you say no, and don't think about it again, and don't post to forums about it = not the same person. If you complain and vent constantly, same person. MiL insists you take leftovers and pouts when you don't, you refuse to take leftovers and pout.
The sameness is the hard line and then the pouting/complaining.

Agree. And we are only getting one side of the story.

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Anonymous wrote:I would’ve gladly taken already packed up leftovers. Food waste is horrible

Yes, it is. But leftover taco meat that has sat out for hours and been picked over by many isn't "food."

It is in my kitchen

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Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.

We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.

Then continue to make your bed hard Bertha And come pout on the internet.
You and your mother-in-law are the same person you just don’t realize it.

This.
If you don't want the leftovers don't take them, but you and your MIL are behaving in similar manners.

You can also subject making less food, or having the last night be "leftover night".

Completely agree. Poor OPs husband married his mom.

Walk me through your thought process here.

Person 1 makes an offer

Person 2 politely declines the offer.

Person 1 pushes and pouts, and doesn't take a polite "no" as an answer.

Person 2 continues to politely decline, because they've made a decision and don't need to change it because of pouting and manipulation.

Tell me, exactly, how this behavior is on the same level.

Because OP is here, ranting about it and asking Why?, that's why the behavior is one the same level. Both the OP and the MIL have hard positions and will not compromise, and probably go back home.and complain. Same difference.

If you say no, and don't think about it again, and don't post to forums about it = not the same person. If you complain and vent constantly, same person. MiL insists you take leftovers and pouts when you don't, you refuse to take leftovers and pout.
The sameness is the hard line and then the pouting/complaining.

Anonymous wrote:I hate waste, too. But when we leave the beach, I frankly have zero desire to haul communal taco meat and leftover spaghetti 5+ hours in the car home from the beach.

MIL pouts that she packed us leftovers on our own steam and we declined. She pouts when we offer to toss them. Toss them or take them yourself!

And yes, we pay our own way.

What beach, OP? OBX is *AT LEAST* six (!!!!) hours, if not 8, given traffic (unles syou leave the house at 3 AM, which is not reasonable, for most families). I would rather dump the food than get sick from it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.

We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.

Then continue to make your bed hard Bertha And come pout on the internet.
You and your mother-in-law are the same person you just don’t realize it.

This.
If you don't want the leftovers don't take them, but you and your MIL are behaving in similar manners.

You can also subject making less food, or having the last night be "leftover night".

Completely agree. Poor OPs husband married his mom.

Walk me through your thought process here.

Person 1 makes an offer

Person 2 politely declines the offer.

Person 1 pushes and pouts, and doesn't take a polite "no" as an answer.

Person 2 continues to politely decline, because they've made a decision and don't need to change it because of pouting and manipulation.

Tell me, exactly, how this behavior is on the same level.

Anonymous wrote:I would’ve gladly taken already packed up leftovers. Food waste is horrible

Yes, it is. But leftover taco meat that has sat out for hours and been picked over by many isn't "food."