Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 16:15     Subject: How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People are weird. Lots of people will roll up with mom, dad and sibs to a party. My husband would have rather died than do that during those years, but if you want to have a no siblings party, it needs to be at a place you pay per kid. Next time have a party with 3 families you’re all friends with. The kid doesn’t care.


People aren’t “weird.” Well, maybe some are. But in a lot of cultures, this is totally normal.


I assume she's offering her husband as the example of a weird person here.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 16:13     Subject: Re:How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone. I also think it’s so ridiculous that both parents want to come to the party even when they have 1 kid, but there’s nothing to do about that.


I think it’s too late to change the evite- we already have 19 adults and 10 kids. Live and learn for next year!


The point of preschool birthday parties is for families to meet. Why wouldn't you want to meet both parents?


Exactly. You lost my sympathy, OP. These people just want to meet other parents in their kid's preschool. That's completely normal.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 16:10     Subject: How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:“I apologize; I should have made this clear on the evite. As much as we would love to have enough space for siblings to attend, we unfortunately just don’t have the space to do so. I hope Johnny can still join us on his own; please let me know!”

And then change he rvite setting and the invitation to make it clear.
Perfect! I would specify maybe if you intend it to be a drop-off party (doubting it for four year-olds, but might be good to specify! If not - I hope Johnny and a parent can join - so sorry we don't have room to accommodate siblings!)
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 16:09     Subject: Re:How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone. I also think it’s so ridiculous that both parents want to come to the party even when they have 1 kid, but there’s nothing to do about that.


I think it’s too late to change the evite- we already have 19 adults and 10 kids. Live and learn for next year!


The point of preschool birthday parties is for families to meet. Why wouldn't you want to meet both parents?


I kind of agree with this - given the age of the kid and the fact it's at a house and not a per-head venue, I don't think it's rude or ridiculous to assume family can come.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 16:07     Subject: Re:How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone. I also think it’s so ridiculous that both parents want to come to the party even when they have 1 kid, but there’s nothing to do about that.


I think it’s too late to change the evite- we already have 19 adults and 10 kids. Live and learn for next year!


My ExDH and I tend to both go to most birthday parties so we can meet other parents in DD's class.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 16:06     Subject: Re:How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
"Please RSVP by (date), Space is limited"
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 15:04     Subject: How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:People are weird. Lots of people will roll up with mom, dad and sibs to a party. My husband would have rather died than do that during those years, but if you want to have a no siblings party, it needs to be at a place you pay per kid. Next time have a party with 3 families you’re all friends with. The kid doesn’t care.


People aren’t “weird.” Well, maybe some are. But in a lot of cultures, this is totally normal.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 14:55     Subject: Re:How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone. I also think it’s so ridiculous that both parents want to come to the party even when they have 1 kid, but there’s nothing to do about that.


I think it’s too late to change the evite- we already have 19 adults and 10 kids. Live and learn for next year!


The point of preschool birthday parties is for families to meet. Why wouldn't you want to meet both parents?
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 14:51     Subject: How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
People are weird. Lots of people will roll up with mom, dad and sibs to a party. My husband would have rather died than do that during those years, but if you want to have a no siblings party, it needs to be at a place you pay per kid. Next time have a party with 3 families you’re all friends with. The kid doesn’t care.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 12:04     Subject: Re:How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone. I also think it’s so ridiculous that both parents want to come to the party even when they have 1 kid, but there’s nothing to do about that.


I think it’s too late to change the evite- we already have 19 adults and 10 kids. Live and learn for next year!


Just have beer and wine and you’ll be good.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 12:04     Subject: How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:Is it drop off? I don't understand how you can have "no siblings" but also not drop off?


Have someone else be with the siblings?
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 12:02     Subject: Re:How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Thanks everyone. I also think it’s so ridiculous that both parents want to come to the party even when they have 1 kid, but there’s nothing to do about that.


I think it’s too late to change the evite- we already have 19 adults and 10 kids. Live and learn for next year!
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 12:01     Subject: How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
You would assume that people would figure this out based on the size of the guest list.

I know parents who have combined birthdays for their children and then RSVP for all the kids.

Just be upfront and be quick!
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 11:48     Subject: Re:How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ugh I feel like such an idiot for not anticipating this.

You live and learn, so you shouldn't feel like an idiot but now you know. I and others I know specifically have house parties so siblings and families can be accommodated without incurring a per kid charge at a venue. It's rude that he didn't ask first, but for many people it's not a huge deal to invite siblings to a house party.


This. Both parts.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2019 11:47     Subject: How to politely say “no siblings” invited to my sons bday party?
"sorry, no siblings"

it isn't hard